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AIBU to not do homework with reception age DC?

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SunStorms · 06/04/2024 19:02

I fear I may be…

I didn’t go through the UK education system and didn’t start learning to read and write until I was 7 so the UK system is alien to me. We never had homework at primary age so I have no idea what is normal here.

I read to my reception age DC every night, we do lots of craft activities, learn about nature, science and history together, they have a great general knowledge, I thought I was doing fine as a parent but…

School send home a reading book, a phonics and maths worksheet every few weeks. We do them. It seemed like a lot to me as I never had homework at 7, let alone 4!

Except it seems the school expected me to be practicing reading/phonics and maths with them using an app regularly. We relocated to the UK just before DC started school so I missed the parents’ induction meeting. We haven’t been doing it until another mum mentioned it on a play date. The school hasn’t said anything but after asking other parents, it seems everyone else has been doing it daily or at least several times a week. I feel awful 😞 My DC is a long way off the end of year goals. I had no idea.

If you are in the UK, how often do you practice writing, reading, phonics, maths etc with your reception age child? Daily, several times a week, weekly, occasionally, never? How long do you spend doing it?

I thought I could make a personalised poll in AIBU but I can’t even get that right 😩

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Patchworksack · 06/04/2024 19:15

Reading, 10 minutes a day. If they get a phonics reading scheme book changed once a week read it three times to improve fluency then read something from home or the library that they enjoy. The first read through sounding out, the second with improved fluency, the third check comprehension and practice retelling the story in their own words.
My daughter now in Y5 also has 5 shorts maths tasks (5-10min each) per week and weekly spellings. In Y3-4 the maths was an app (TT rockstars)
I volunteer to read with struggling Y1, having parents that practise at home makes a huge difference.

Becles · 06/04/2024 19:15

CaptainMyCaptain · 06/04/2024 19:07

It wasn't normal in the UK until the 90s or 2000s for primary children to have homework. If you think your child has done enough don't force them to do more. My daughter, a teacher herself, didn't make her children do it and they're fine. They have to do their Secondary school homework.

I was a Reception teacher myself and didn't give any homework other than sending a reading book home and letting parents know what phonics we were working on.

Edited

Rubbish. I went to primary in the mid/late 80s and we had reading, maths, spelling and write a short story using the new words we've learned as homework during the week or weekend.

This was a very bog standard primary in a deprived area.

I get annoyed when middle class folk who can afford to tutor or private school their way out generalise and mislead. Homework is normal for primary school and where children start school later, their kindergartens are very much like our reception years.

TipsyKoala · 06/04/2024 19:15

Listening to them read as often as possible is a good habit to get into. I wouldn’t worry about much more than that, only if you have the time and the will. School is tiring enough for small children.

PurpleFlower1983 · 06/04/2024 19:15

We read every school night for around 10-15 minutes.

HaveNoIdeaForAName · 06/04/2024 19:14

Just do the reading book and sack the rest off.

OnceUponARainbow88 · 06/04/2024 19:12

School send home a reading book, a phonics and maths worksheet every few weeks. We do them.

So you are doing homework?

isitbananatimealready · 06/04/2024 19:11

Oh honestly, that's bonkers isn't it?

Speak to your dc's teacher and ask them what you need to be doing though.

Tagyoureit · 06/04/2024 19:10

I do phonics with my 4 year old most days, my 10 year old goes in to school and then I have 10 to 20 minutes sat in the car with my 4yo so we do phonics then. Read every night and she found some old workbook left over from covid which she likes to do of her own accord.

spriots · 06/04/2024 19:08

Our school does a reading book on an app which they expect you to do daily and then weekly worksheets for writing practice.

We do the reading book a couple of times a week and the worksheets which take max 15 mins. We do other reading as well with our own/library books.

I think if the teacher was worried they would have flagged it to you earlier

CaptainMyCaptain · 06/04/2024 19:07

It wasn't normal in the UK until the 90s or 2000s for primary children to have homework. If you think your child has done enough don't force them to do more. My daughter, a teacher herself, didn't make her children do it and they're fine. They have to do their Secondary school homework.

I was a Reception teacher myself and didn't give any homework other than sending a reading book home and letting parents know what phonics we were working on.

enchantedsquirrelwood · 06/04/2024 19:05

No, parents need to make a stand. There is no need for homework in primary school, except reading practice and learning times tables.

Using books, not apps.

Unfortunately, you get aspirational parents going on about homework and schools feel duty bound to set it. Why they can't just make it optional I don't know.

I fundamentally disagree with homework.

We talk about work life balance for adults but think it's ok to give small kids homework after being at school for six hours.

BettyShagter · 06/04/2024 19:05

If the school want you to do it they'll let you know.

I appreciate you're new to it all but you need to ask the school what is expected, if you missed the induction.

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