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Is it weird to WhatsApp guy I met in park

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Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:04

Last week during school holidays I took my young Dd to a local park with playground, it’s a quiet one where many don’t go. Another little girl was there and Dd began playing with her, her dad then came up and was really friendly and great to talk to.
I live in another country and he spoke great English, although from a different country to the country we both live in now. Our DD’s are the same age and we had a good discussion about schools/life where we are and agreed on many of the issues about schooling etc. He was really interesting and easy to talk to (as have other mums I’ve met at playgrounds etc been to) and the girls got on great. As we were leaving I said maybe we should swap numbers, mainly concerning possible future plans he may have to homeschool with some other parents he’s met, it’s unlikely to happen for my Dd, but is an option depending on how her first year in primary goes in September. He was very open to it and said they would be there every morning that week. We didn’t end up being able to go again and it’s back to school next week.
Should I WhatsApp him? But say what? I feel a bit rude to have not messaged, but also it seems a bit strange? I also never ask for peoples number and don’t understand why I did really

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Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 13:15

@TimeandMotion Yes, surely he wouldn’t assume I’d fancy him 🙄

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TimeandMotion · 06/04/2024 12:53

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 12:38

@Needanewname42 Really? Wish I hadn’t sent it now

Don’t be ridiculous. You are adults not teenagers at school.

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 12:38

@Needanewname42 Really? Wish I hadn’t sent it now

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 06/04/2024 12:29

I wouldn't have contacted him, but it's not a big deal. I would expect his wife to come and check you out if he does get in touch to arrange a playdate though.

Needanewname42 · 06/04/2024 12:27

If you want the girls to play again maybe.

But I'd worry it comes across that you fancy him. Don't be too surprised if he rocks up with his wife the next time.

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 12:20

Just sent it, I didn’t arrange play date, but said we met at the park and to let me know how his girl gets on at school etc

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Bobthethird · 06/04/2024 12:17

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:24

It seemed a perfectly natural thing to swap numbers and other mums have done this before and I’ve not thought it weird, it’s just because it’s a man, which seems a bit ridiculous
We live in a large ex pat community so it’s fairly normal to do this.
I have no attraction to him, but I have been thinking on and off about our conversations and no idea why! We agreed on so many points here and he was interesting & intelligent I think. As much as I love all my mum friends, this conversation was more interesting.

just message him and suggest a play date at the park. Jenny has been asking about playing out with Susie again, i wondered if you / your wife would be up for a play date on Saturday.

HoHoHoliday · 06/04/2024 12:06

You are overthinking it, perhaps because he is male? If you'd met another mother and swapped numbers what would you do?

There's no secrecy here, you've met because your kids were playing together, you've both mentioned you have partners. Just drop a message over and suggest another play date for the kids. Or invite him and his wife and child over to yours for lunch where the kids play and the adults can socialise too.

I love meeting new friends!

destroyess · 06/04/2024 11:57

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:13

Don’t fancy him at all, but just really enjoyed talking to him..hard to explain

Invite him and his wife over to a double dinner date or something?

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 11:47

This is the weird part, I feel a bit nervous, but I honestly don’t feel like I fancy him…no physical attraction etc, just feels weird

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StarlightLady · 06/04/2024 11:25

Go for it OP! I think brevity is the answer.

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 11:15

Ok I might send a brief text

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Illbefinejustbloodyfine · 06/04/2024 11:04

@Saturdaymorningsinthenineties there's nothing wrong with messaging, maybe arrange a play date if the dc got on so well? Same as you would another mum.

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:57

@InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow I don’t think im obsessing at all! Just asking here

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TimeandMotion · 06/04/2024 10:57

Having been part of an expat community myself OP I’d say that following up meeting new people is entirely normal and nothing to over-think. I’d stick the number in my phone and send a short message saying “Hi Bob, good to meet you and [daughter] the other day, just letting you have my number in case the girls want to play again.” Done.

TimeandMotion · 06/04/2024 10:55

InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow · 06/04/2024 10:47

Why the shock horror, many of us are bi.

Op is weirdly obsessing over this guy and how interesting he is and how she feels she's let him down by not showing up, yet very, very insistent that she definitly doesnt fancy him. That's the odd thing here.

A couple of hours conversation with a passing random while the kids play is one thing, this level of afterthought is another entirely.

Bullshit. Have you seen the amount of over-thinking that goes into platonic female friendships/casual encounters with other mums in this forum?

TimeandMotion · 06/04/2024 10:53

Upinthenightagain · 06/04/2024 10:26

His wife won’t like and neither would your husband. You shouldn’t be this bored

Wow. You think they are both in marriages with immature, paranoid spouses?

Notsureaboutittoday · 06/04/2024 10:48

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:10

@InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow I don’t think I’d want him to say anything, just feel a bit rubbish taking number and not texting?
Should I just text to say it was nice to meet I’m and the girls played great and if he goes fine the homeschooling route in the future to contact me or put me in touch with the others…and leave it at that?

I would say this, totally harmless and nice text and makes sense.

InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow · 06/04/2024 10:47

StarlightLady · 06/04/2024 10:38

For those saying do not message because they are different sexes, l am a bisexual woman (shock horror, we do exist!), does this mean l can’t swap numbers with anyone, because l obviously want to get everybody l meet into bed?????

Why the shock horror, many of us are bi.

Op is weirdly obsessing over this guy and how interesting he is and how she feels she's let him down by not showing up, yet very, very insistent that she definitly doesnt fancy him. That's the odd thing here.

A couple of hours conversation with a passing random while the kids play is one thing, this level of afterthought is another entirely.

Mrsjayy · 06/04/2024 10:46

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:41

@Mrsjayy I didn’t have my phone and don’t know my number off by heart. He had his phone so wrote his number down on a piece of paper

Ah sorry I mis read I still think unless you want the kids to play you need to leave it.

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:43

@IncompleteSenten There’s nothing I want or need, but I was wondering if it was rude not to even acknowledge it as I had his number and also didn’t turn up any of the remaining days of the holidays

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Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:41

@Mrsjayy I didn’t have my phone and don’t know my number off by heart. He had his phone so wrote his number down on a piece of paper

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StarlightLady · 06/04/2024 10:38

For those saying do not message because they are different sexes, l am a bisexual woman (shock horror, we do exist!), does this mean l can’t swap numbers with anyone, because l obviously want to get everybody l meet into bed?????

Mrsjayy · 06/04/2024 10:38

OK just.take a minute he didn't give you his number because it was "broken " he said he would be at the park if you happened to be there, you didn't go t he isn't your friend that you have let down he's a random person you met in the park and you are obsessing over it.

IncompleteSenten · 06/04/2024 10:38

Well if there's nothing you want from him you have no need or reason to text him so I'd just leave it.

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