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Is it weird to WhatsApp guy I met in park

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Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 10:04

Last week during school holidays I took my young Dd to a local park with playground, it’s a quiet one where many don’t go. Another little girl was there and Dd began playing with her, her dad then came up and was really friendly and great to talk to.
I live in another country and he spoke great English, although from a different country to the country we both live in now. Our DD’s are the same age and we had a good discussion about schools/life where we are and agreed on many of the issues about schooling etc. He was really interesting and easy to talk to (as have other mums I’ve met at playgrounds etc been to) and the girls got on great. As we were leaving I said maybe we should swap numbers, mainly concerning possible future plans he may have to homeschool with some other parents he’s met, it’s unlikely to happen for my Dd, but is an option depending on how her first year in primary goes in September. He was very open to it and said they would be there every morning that week. We didn’t end up being able to go again and it’s back to school next week.
Should I WhatsApp him? But say what? I feel a bit rude to have not messaged, but also it seems a bit strange? I also never ask for peoples number and don’t understand why I did really

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LittleMissCantBeWrong1 · 06/04/2024 22:14

Lol. I can’t even imagine what my reaction would be if my husband started texting some random woman he met in the park.

HoHoHoliday · 06/04/2024 22:04

The conversation and the friendship are both fine, you have nothing to worry about.

But just to let you know I can read his name and both girl's names and possibly your's with very little effort. So if you're worried about privacy I'd request those screenshots be deleted.

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 21:58

I think it’s just literally because it’s a man, not a mum, which is ridiculous I know, unless I subconsciously have a crush 🤷🏻‍♀️

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ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 06/04/2024 21:49

fieldsofbutterflies · 06/04/2024 21:38

Having male friends is fine. I have plenty and will happily text them or meet up with them without DP.

But this isn't a friend, it's a stranger OP met in a park that she's been thinking about for a week because he makes her feel all "weird". She was also nervous about texting him and is now posting the texts on here so people will tell her they're just normal.

That's not how people behave when they've met a new, platonic friend. It's how they behave when they have a crush.

Every single friend we have used to be a stranger to us first.

I think OP is simply overthinking because she's in a new country, she doesn't want to come across and pushy, and that's understandable.

MintGreenC · 06/04/2024 21:44

I wouldn't but then I wouldn't and haven't ever swapped numbers with a parent I've met in the park; male or female but I seem to be on my own with that!

WhatWouldYouDo33 · 06/04/2024 21:42

@fieldsofbutterflies 100% agree

I wouldn’t think twice about text a dad from a playground let alone analyse his text messages about a playdate!

fieldsofbutterflies · 06/04/2024 21:41

Wagonwheelforme · 06/04/2024 21:37

This is a totally normal interaction.

nothing strange about it at all! Don’t overthink it or let people think it’s odd!

The texts are fine, I agree.

It's the way OP's behaving that rings alarm bells to me.

fieldsofbutterflies · 06/04/2024 21:38

Wagonwheelforme · 06/04/2024 21:35

some very extreme responses on here. Nothing wrong with having male friends.

sounds like you get on well, you’ve both mentioned other halves so there’s no danger he got his wires crossed.

why wouldn’t you drop him a text? Just say sorry you didn’t make it to the park but would be nice to meet up for a play date soon.

no big deal at all.

Having male friends is fine. I have plenty and will happily text them or meet up with them without DP.

But this isn't a friend, it's a stranger OP met in a park that she's been thinking about for a week because he makes her feel all "weird". She was also nervous about texting him and is now posting the texts on here so people will tell her they're just normal.

That's not how people behave when they've met a new, platonic friend. It's how they behave when they have a crush.

Wagonwheelforme · 06/04/2024 21:37

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This is a totally normal interaction.

nothing strange about it at all! Don’t overthink it or let people think it’s odd!

Wagonwheelforme · 06/04/2024 21:35

some very extreme responses on here. Nothing wrong with having male friends.

sounds like you get on well, you’ve both mentioned other halves so there’s no danger he got his wires crossed.

why wouldn’t you drop him a text? Just say sorry you didn’t make it to the park but would be nice to meet up for a play date soon.

no big deal at all.

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 21:34

Ok

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fieldsofbutterflies · 06/04/2024 21:32

I honestly find this really odd.

This bloke is a married stranger you've met once in a park. Why are you this invested in it all?

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 21:30

@Ditchi What is inappropriate? I’m showing that the messages aren’t?

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Ditchi · 06/04/2024 21:25

You sound pretty obsessed with the interaction, to post the screenshots cements this and also inappropriate.

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 21:20

Anyone?

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Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 21:08

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fieldsofbutterflies · 06/04/2024 19:14

TimeandMotion · 06/04/2024 18:47

I’d be happy that he had met someone he got on with but unsurprised he was nervous about texting given how many people are determined to read sexual motives into everything.

What if he also said she made him feel "weird" and that he'd been thinking about talking to her all week? Which is what's happening in the OP.

TimeandMotion · 06/04/2024 18:47

Butterfly44 · 06/04/2024 17:48

So if your husband took your daughter to the park and got chatting to another mum, took her number.... wanted to text/felt nervous about it...sent it anyway. Hoping for a response. What would you think?

I’d be happy that he had met someone he got on with but unsurprised he was nervous about texting given how many people are determined to read sexual motives into everything.

fieldsofbutterflies · 06/04/2024 17:50

Butterfly44 · 06/04/2024 17:48

So if your husband took your daughter to the park and got chatting to another mum, took her number.... wanted to text/felt nervous about it...sent it anyway. Hoping for a response. What would you think?

Well, exactly.

I have plenty of male friends, but I didn't feel weird and nervous about messaging them or about what to say.

Butterfly44 · 06/04/2024 17:48

So if your husband took your daughter to the park and got chatting to another mum, took her number.... wanted to text/felt nervous about it...sent it anyway. Hoping for a response. What would you think?

Saturdaymorningsinthenineties · 06/04/2024 17:47

Some unusual responses here! He replied twice on a nice, friendly, normal parent way. Trying to screenshot the messages to show, but not sure how to cover/rub out names? Does anyone know how?

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Upinthenightagain · 06/04/2024 17:46

Back in the real world- the op fancies him and if he texts back he probably wouldn’t mind a leg over with a willing party

LemonPeonies · 06/04/2024 17:40

@TimeandMotion completely agree. If my other half was "furious" and "wouldn't allow it" I'd be running a mile!

fieldsofbutterflies · 06/04/2024 17:34

TimeandMotion · 06/04/2024 17:33

I’m really shocked at the number of women here who think that (a) all male/female interaction has a sexual undertone and (b) being married means you are not allowed to enjoy meeting a new platonic friend and look to develop the friendship. Talk about insecure and controlling!

I don't think it has a sexual undertone, but I do think it's very unusual to be dwelling on a one-off conversation with a stranger a week later because it/they made you feel "weird".

TimeandMotion · 06/04/2024 17:33

I’m really shocked at the number of women here who think that (a) all male/female interaction has a sexual undertone and (b) being married means you are not allowed to enjoy meeting a new platonic friend and look to develop the friendship. Talk about insecure and controlling!

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