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To think most women would be annoyed by this

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Kaylasmum49 · 05/04/2024 19:36

My dp quite often talks about women he knows and has seen and tells me how beautiful or sexy they are. I feel annoyed when he does this as I think it’s unnecessary and he knows that I have issues with my self confidence. Is it just me being silly or is he being insensitive

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mycatsanutter · 05/04/2024 19:57

It's disrespectful of him to tell you he finds another woman sexy it's like he's trying to irritate you or make you feel crap why would he want to do that ?

Churchview · 05/04/2024 19:56

He's either insensitive or he is doing it on purpose for some reason. It's not a very nice thing to do and I wouldn't like it. I don't think it's a case of 'most women would be annoyed by this', I think most men wouldn't like their partner saying other men are sexy.

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Kaylasmum49 · 05/04/2024 19:52

Today he was in a shop and he was talking in general about some of the people that were there, a couple in particular and that the man was very quiet but the woman was chatty and very sexy. I don’t have a problem with him telling me that someone was beautiful but when he says they were sexy it upsets me

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Hippomumma2 · 05/04/2024 19:47

Tell him a new hot guy has started working in your office and he is sooooooo cute…. See if he likes this.

MillshakePickle · 05/04/2024 19:46

What's quite often? I don't think it's unusual to notice attractive people. Both H and I comment on whether we've seen someone who's exceptionally attractive. Both male and female. Nothing sexual about it, just general admiration. We also mention if we met people who were kind, rude, funny etc

If he's making comparisons, or it's making you feel devalued. Then it's definitely a problem.

Have you tired speaking to him about it? Let him know how it makes ot you feel?

MrKDilkington · 05/04/2024 19:46

Ignoring your question slightly, this is just plain odd behaviour from you DP. How does this even come up in conversation? Can you share an example?

Linedbook · 05/04/2024 19:45

I think it depends what he's like in the rest of your relationship. I don't mind when DH says someone looks lovely, but our relationship has never been based on how I look, he tells me often what he gets from our relationship. We both appreciate beauty when we see it

FrenchandSaunders · 05/04/2024 19:43

Sounds like a complete prick. Start saying how youve seen some hot guys

Thunderinsummer · 05/04/2024 19:42

Definitely insensitive And quite frankly if he knows how you feel unkind.

Desecratedcoconut · 05/04/2024 19:41

I wouldn't tolerate that. What does he think that he's achieving by doing this? Has he always been a negging twat?

StephanieSuperpowers · 05/04/2024 19:38

I mean, what's his purpose in telling you this?

VanLife33 · 05/04/2024 19:37

Me neither

Createausername1970 · 05/04/2024 19:37

I wouldn't like it.

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