To think most women would be annoyed by this

Noticing women around you are attractive is normal. Telling your partner about it is the behaviour of a disrespectful wanker.

There is no decent reason for him to tell you that he finds some random woman attractive.

If he does this repeatedly, have you told him you don't like it or asked him why he does it? The very best scenario is that he's just very unaware of the effect of what he says and just needs to be told, and when you tell him he apologises as he doesn't want to make you feel like he doesn't respect you, and not doing it again.

Any other response is bad news.

But there's a big difference between 'appreciating' beauty or charisma. I'm not taking about celebs, because everyone gets a free pass there and we all know they don't really look like that in the flesh.
'Sexy' is taking it beyond just musing that someone looks great. It's leering, salacious and pretty gross and disrespectful to say that to your committed partner. If you husband does this, then I don't think you're cool to not be affected. I feel sorry for you.

H*e went soft pretty quick when I talked about his best mate during sex
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When my ex-H used to do this on occasion, I'd whisper "She used to be a man, you know. Can you see her Adam's Apple? Amazing what they can do these days. "

I'd be ditching him.

"Gillian Anderson is hot" in the context of a conversation about celebs or watching something that she's in - fair enough.

Random woman in a shop is hot - yes, I'd be bothered by that.

I can guarantee that if you start talking about hot, sexy men, your DP will have a face like a bulldog chewing a hornet.

What a twat, I wouldn't put up with that shit.

DP will nod along and agree when I say 'what a gorgeous girl', 'isn't she beautiful', 'what amazing hair she has' etc. But then he also nods along if I say 'He's a handsome young chap, isn't he?'

If he ever turned to me and said someone in our vicinity was 'sexy' it would be a big issue for me. That's taking it beyond appreciating the aesthetic and turning it sexual, which is not what I expect from my partner.

I was very young, in my defence, but I had a boyfriend about 25 years ago who would leer at my friends openly. He went soft pretty quick when I talked about his best mate during sex.

This man would be told to fuck off what a prick don't even put up with it anymore I would say she's sexy is she? Well fuck off and have her then

He absolutely must be intentionally trying to knock your confidence. No one with any sense describes someone - standing right there - as ‘so sexy’, to their own partner. There is no need to do this unless he wants you to feel a little less.

I'd give him a taste of it and start commenting on other mens appearances.

Do you think he is being malicious with it or just completely and utterly oblivious to the potential hurt it causes?

I would dump him. If he’s so consistently looking at and appraising other women, not only would it raise red flags of lechery and misogyny but that level of disrespect is just not ok. Why do you put up with it op?

I think this is horrible. My husband has never commented on a woman's appearance in front of me apart (I only know his celebrity crush as I specifically asked him!). I really appreciate this and feel that it is because he respects me, and I would never talk about so n so being attractive either.

So long as neither of us has ever been unfaithful in any way then I don't have a problem in my husband appreciating another good looking woman

Neither do I. Only a fool would think their significant other never notices another attractive woman.

Coming home and telling me about all the 'sexy' women he's encountered that day is another matter though. Boak.

I wonder how he would feel if you started commenting things like "that guy's so fit" or pointed out a broader-shouldered, taller guy and commenting on it?

If he would be fine with that then fair play - but I doubt it.

I think telling your wife, girlfriend or partner that you think another woman look's sexy, is definitely asking for trouble, even if he thinks it, he should surely have the brains to realise how uncomfortable that would make you feel, especially if you're not very confident.

I would be up front with him and tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable about him saying things like that, as it makes you feel as if he wants to go to bed with them, or whatever, and if he doesn't stop doing it, your relationship will be over. Then be true to your word, as if you've told a man how something he does makes you feel unhappy, and he continues to do it, it's clear that he doesn't care about your feelings, and is therefore unworthy of your time or love.

Neither do I! Nor does it bother me when he comments on famous people, I do it too. But there's a way to do it. We don't bother telling each other every time we've noticed a person of the opposite sex who is attractive! We certainly wouldn't be commenting on how sexy a person on the street is! It's called tact!

My dh is allowed to fancy Kylie. We joke about it as she's the same age as me. If he did this repeatedly about multiple women, he could fuck off.

It's very strange. I'd be giving him a taste of his own medicine about all the handsome men out there!!

It sounds like he's deliberately trying to make you insecure. I had an ex who used to do this. He was a prick.

It's not normal op.

It's odd and disrespectful. He's either as thick as mince with the emotional maturity of a dead frog or he's trying to push your buttons and wind you up.

The guy's an idiot.

'Oh, she's sexy is she? Well fuck off back to her then!'

It's disrespectful and he sounds like a lech.

That sort of thing doesn't bother me in the slightest. Of course my husband will find other women attractive, and I find other men attractive, but we're married and made a commitment to be faithful to each other. So long as neither of us has ever been unfaithful in any way then I don't have a problem in my husband appreciating another good looking woman.