For context my girlfriend has a history of anxiety and depression but recently I feel like she’s trying really hard to push me away.
She says she really wants everything to work and that she loves me, so I can’t understand why she’s doing this.
I don’t feel as close to her as I used to.
I’m starting to feel like I can’t be natural in our relationship. Everything I say has to be corrected or questioned. One example is, she apologised for calling me at a bad time and I said “it’s fine”. Apparently I used to always say I wanted to talk to her and that I love it. She can’t understand that these terms are interchangeable. “It’s fine” means exactly the same thing.
I then said I like speaking to her, of course I do, and she said “not love?!”
I feel I can’t talk to her about things. She takes everything the wrong way and gets upset.
A lot of the time, the conversation turns into her. I’ll be trying to talk about my day and she’ll end up ranting about hers.
She encourages me to go out with my friends, but when I do so, she then says she’s upset and feels I don’t want to spend time with her.
She asked if I was going to text her today, I said “I have a lot to do, a lot to get done”. She then attacked me for not giving a straight answer and I should have directly said “I don’t know”.
Also, I can’t do anything right. If I don’t text her when out with friends, I don’t love her anymore. If I am a bit quiet, I’m going off her.
The last few days she’s been extremely snappy, everything has been a nitpick or correcting me.
I love her to bits she has so many other amazing qualities which is why I want this to work. But it’s starting to pull us apart and I feel so distant from her.