My DSS is getting married and the conversations have come up about who sits at the head table. There is no issue for my stepson's fiancé as her parents are still together so will naturally be at the head table together. She believes my DH and his ex wife should be on the head table too. Being his biological parents, I would be inclined to agree, except:
- The split between DH and his ex was not amicable, it is still hostile all these years later, so would be very awkward for both.
- DH feels it is a bit disrespectful to me considering we have had majority custody of DSS since he was a little boy.
- DSS mum has also been remarried for a long time, which leaves both her husband and I sitting without our spouses for the majority of the day.
My stepson doesn't seem phased about table arrangements but his wife to be is in Bridezilla mode over minute details.
Is it unreasonable to suggest both DH and I, plus his DM and her husband all sit at the head table? Or should just one couple do it? Personally I don't care if his mum and her DH take the spot if needs be but DSS actually prefers us over his mum and my DH family would see it as an insult all things considered.