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Limonjelly · 05/04/2024 10:57

We're being forced to go back to the office 2 days a week now (have been going 1 day a week for the past year but apparently that's not enough now). Apart from the time, cost and pointlessness of travelling to the office to sit at a desk for 8 hours, the thing that really annoys me about this is clothing.

I've barely bought any new clothes since lockdown and have saved so much money. It saves me time on deciding what to wear. It's better for the environment too. But people in my 'professional' London office tend to dress quite smart casual and I'll need to wear 2 different work outfits every week now. I don't want to, and can't afford to keep spending money on new clothes. I have 2 pairs of work trousers and a few tops/jumpers that I alternate. And a couple of dresses.

How many outfits do you have for work? How often do you wear the same thing?

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CharlotteBog · 05/04/2024 16:09

I wouldn't say that at all, productivity more than likely hasn't dropped , more likely there is some micro manager who don't feel in control unless that see people and are sitting in the office, If certain people are not pulling their weight then thats because management have not been dealing with these people, guarantee these same peoples are not pulling their weight when i office too, Being in an office doesn't not make you more productive

Fair point. It's a LONG time since I've been in a shared office and an even longer time since I've worked for an ineffective manager.

PaminaMozart · 05/04/2024 16:09

PaminaMozart · 05/04/2024 12:42

I used to travel for work. I would be flying from one place to another every day or two. Cabin baggage only.

I had 2 pairs of identical black Ann Taylor trousers and a few simple tops, plus one fairly smart jacket for every day. As well as a smart jacket for 'important clients'.

Not forgetting the comfortable but smart shoes. Good shoes are really important.

Sorted.

To expand on my post above...

Find a pair of black trousers that fit really well. Buy a 2nd pair and keep buying the same when one wears out.

Tops need not be expensive. TK Maxx, M&S et cetera are good enough for most jobs.

Most of my smart jackets were charity shop buys.

Most of my work clothes budget was spent on really good, smart, comfortable shoes. Mostly John Lewis or Russell & Bromley sales.

Don't overthink it. Unless you wear way out there fashion - which I wouldn't recommend for work! - people won't actually notice what you are wearing.

Kathy34 · 05/04/2024 16:09

I had two tops and 3 bottoms for 5 days a week. Now I work where there's a uniform and still did it with one top and 3 bottoms. Of course my coworker donated a few tops she outgrew so now I have 4. I've never owned more tops botton combos than days I worked. Just dress them up w accessories

Check out instyle magazines website. Try have a section called one outfit 5 ways. May give you some cheap ideas.

Wexone · 05/04/2024 16:00

CharlotteBog · 05/04/2024 15:24

We're being forced to go back to the office 2 days a week now (have been going 1 day a week for the past year but apparently that's not enough now). Apart from the time, cost and pointlessness of travelling to the office to sit at a desk for 8 hours

Apologies for not actually answering your question, but your first statement jumped out at me. Surely businesses are only asking people to return to the office because productivity has dropped, or maybe all the staff were asked and the majority felt more days were preferable.

I assume you were fully office-based prior to lockdown and thus this is a return to what your contract stipulates.

I wouldn't say that at all, productivity more than likely hasn't dropped , more likely there is some micro manager who don't feel in control unless that see people and are sitting in the office, If certain people are not pulling their weight then thats because management have not been dealing with these people, guarantee these same peoples are not pulling their weight when i office too, Being in an office doesn't not make you more productive

op you have a good basic wardrobe there, unless you are in a face to face client role i wouldn't worry too much, would rotate things. Office wear has become more casual too. If your worries about Vinted then ensure you know your measurements and ask these questions. Also look at the brands you have in your wardrobe that way you know them brands that fit. look at buying them brands

Pickledprawn · 05/04/2024 15:27

I mostly wear the same dress that I bought in four different colours (very sad I know). I do prefer a uniform I miss the days of not having to worry about what to wear to work. But you can't really complain about having to wear reasonable clothes to work sorry that's just life Confused

CharlotteBog · 05/04/2024 15:24

We're being forced to go back to the office 2 days a week now (have been going 1 day a week for the past year but apparently that's not enough now). Apart from the time, cost and pointlessness of travelling to the office to sit at a desk for 8 hours

Apologies for not actually answering your question, but your first statement jumped out at me. Surely businesses are only asking people to return to the office because productivity has dropped, or maybe all the staff were asked and the majority felt more days were preferable.

I assume you were fully office-based prior to lockdown and thus this is a return to what your contract stipulates.

Flatulence · 05/04/2024 15:16

Two dresses. Or two tops and 1 skirt/trousers. That's all you need. Wear the same items each week. And if it's smart casual then you can just buy really plain items (e.g. plain coloured dress) which you can then dress up or down for other occasions.

You also don't have to buy new. Charity shops and EBay/Vinted have lots of very inexpensive items and recycling clothes in this way is better for the environment.

Ultimately, I assume you took the job knowing it was office based and knowing that there's a certain dress code. If so, then yeah you're being unreasonable. If you don't want to wear office clothes, get a 100pc remote job or get a job where you can wear whatever you want.

Bellyblueboy · 05/04/2024 14:44

I go into the office four days a week. I have a few pairs of the same trousers from Boden in black and navy. A white shirt, a blue shirt, black and white and stripped t-shirts and a few smart blazers. It’s basically a uniform! If I have smart days (I.e in court) I have a black smart dress and a navy smart dress.

very easy - nothing in dramatic colours or patters so not memorable and I can wear on repeat. All good quality and withstand years of regular washing and dry cleaning.

Gwenhwyfar · 05/04/2024 14:16

yomellamoHelly · 05/04/2024 11:08

I wear the same stuff on repeat. No one cares.

Me too. I have tops under my dresses so can just keep on wearing them. Nobody has ever commented.

ruby1957 · 05/04/2024 14:05

CraftyBum · 05/04/2024 11:06

I dont see how you can begrudge something that you clearly agreed to before and have benefited from until now.

This - you acknowedge OP that you have saved loads of money over the past 3 years - now you are whinging because 'it is not fair' that the employer who pays your salary wants to see you in the office (which would be in your contract anyway).

Noodledoodledoo · 05/04/2024 14:01

I have work tops that are about 10 years old, bought non high fashion items and they still work now. I have to go to work 4 days a week, no wfh option, but I have a selection of basics and then rotate them, black, navy grey trousers, 4 of the same dress in different colours, cardigans and various tops that work for summer and winter with added cardi or not!

I agree with a PP its more than the clothes its more about the having to go to work. Seems to be happening to all of my friends who have been wfh since 2020, more and more time needed to be in the office.

KimberleyClark · 05/04/2024 13:58

I retired 6 months before Covid hit, from a 5 days a week office job. One of the best things about being retired is no longer needing to buy work clothes and especially shoes.

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 05/04/2024 13:52

Limonjelly · 05/04/2024 13:47

Really apreciate the suggestions but I don't really want to buy cheap clothes from Matalan, Tu, etc. Fast fashion that doesn't last and looks cheap, sorry.

I find Vinted tricky as I'm always somewhere between size 10 and 12. I have wide hips in proportion to the rest of me, and it's impossible to tell if something is going to actually fit over my hips and thighs! I've only ever bought 2 things from Vinted that were brands I wear that usually have consistent sizing - but neither item fit because they'd shrunk in the wash. So many people I know seem to find some excellent stuff on there though.

So don't buy new stuff. Wear what you have and only replace it when worn out. Most posters have pointed out that from your opening post you have plenty of clothes for two days a week.

SabertoothKwazi · 05/04/2024 13:52

Another way to handle this is to put together 2 really bland office outfits and change up the accessories often. So you’d work on building up a little collection of silk type scarfs or costume jewelry. Those are things you can definitely buy from vinted or charity shops and not worry about them fitting.

WarshipRocinante · 05/04/2024 13:49

It doesn’t sound like you need to buy any more work clothes? You’re just looking for stuff to moan about because you’re expected to actually go into work 4 years after Covid .

Angelof29th · 05/04/2024 13:48

Limonjelly · 05/04/2024 13:21

Yes this too. I'm now in my mid/late 30s and just no idea what I'm meant to wear anymore that doesn't look dated, or makes me look dated!

Yeah, I’m the same age. I think it’s the dressing like a grown up thing I struggle with. Black trousers and a smart blouse just isn’t me. I definitely spend too long worrying about these things but if I don’t look okay I feel rubbish and it affects my confidence.

Limonjelly · 05/04/2024 13:47

Really apreciate the suggestions but I don't really want to buy cheap clothes from Matalan, Tu, etc. Fast fashion that doesn't last and looks cheap, sorry.

I find Vinted tricky as I'm always somewhere between size 10 and 12. I have wide hips in proportion to the rest of me, and it's impossible to tell if something is going to actually fit over my hips and thighs! I've only ever bought 2 things from Vinted that were brands I wear that usually have consistent sizing - but neither item fit because they'd shrunk in the wash. So many people I know seem to find some excellent stuff on there though.

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Oganesson118 · 05/04/2024 13:46

I work 2 days a week in the office and wear what I want within reason, usually jeans and a t-shirt/jumper/hoodie.

Unless someone was wearing something I particularly liked, I wouldn't pay any attention to what other people had on and certainly wouldn't bat an eyelid at someone wearing the same things most weeks, I think you're making a big deal where it doesn't need to be one.

SabertoothKwazi · 05/04/2024 13:29

My entire weather appropriate work wardrobe gets worn every week basically. Not always in exactly the same combinations.

SabertoothKwazi · 05/04/2024 13:27

I have a week’s worth of office outfits. Trousers, shirts and thin jumpers. They mostly mix and match. Currently worn with smart new trainers. When the weather gets too hot for that uniform I’ll swap to shirt dresses. I might buy one new dress and 1 pair of loafers at some point. I don’t get paid enough to not have a personal uniform for work.

Limonjelly · 05/04/2024 13:21

Angelof29th · 05/04/2024 11:06

I feel a bit like this too. I also feel like since covid, the rules around what people wear for work have changed I just don’t know what to wear any more, especially on my feet. Wore black jeans, smart trainers, black polo and wool coat one day last week, that didn’t seem quite right, wore a dress, tights and heeled ankle boots the other day and that felt pretty dated.

Yes this too. I'm now in my mid/late 30s and just no idea what I'm meant to wear anymore that doesn't look dated, or makes me look dated!

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SpringOfContentment · 05/04/2024 13:17

You've got at least 4 outfits.
Why isn't that enough for 2 days a week in the office?
FWIW, I can't WFH. I have 2 pairs trousers, 3 winter jumpers, 5 summer tops.

BashfulClam · 05/04/2024 13:09

I have 2 pairs of smart trousers, a few different tops and am in 2-3 tubes a week. 1 pair of trousers is fine for 3 days unless I spill something (common). Then I just wear a different top each day. You don’t need new stuff every week.

socks1107 · 05/04/2024 12:58

I have 4/5 outfits and I come in 4 days. I wear the same things every week and alternate between nice trousers/skirts and different tops

HurryupHenry · 05/04/2024 12:50

I have 2 summer trousers/blouses
2 winter trousers/tops
1 dress

You are overthinking this. You have clothes and can wear the same clothes twice.

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