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To feel like Grandad should step up

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Trufflebutter24 · 05/04/2024 09:25

My DH dad makes little effort with his grandchildren and has probably taken them out twice in their 6 and 3 years.
He’s been off all week and as it’s half term I suggested he may want to come over and see them today.
he’s left it completely up to me to decide times/ what we do, which maybe he thinks is being helpful and laidback I don’t know.
he’s coming over at midday and my house is a complete dump, which is overwhelmingly me to no end. AIBU to suggest he takes kids to the local park by himself for an hour?
I don’t know if it’s wrong to assume grandparents want to see their GC. My DH mum and my dad are consistently involved in their lives but he’s just AWOL. Not sure if it’s a case of me having unrealistic expectations though.

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LittleGreenDragons · 05/04/2024 09:28

AIBU to suggest he takes kids to the local park by himself for an hour?
Depends on whether he sees them weekly and knows/remembers how to parent, or whether its annually. You can ask, but don't expect a yes.

HeddaGarbled · 05/04/2024 09:27

You can’t invite someone to visit and then use them as free childcare unless they offer.

Bluevelvetsofa · 05/04/2024 09:27

Is it your intention to sort out the house whilst he takes the children to the park?