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Losing the plot!

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Colddespiteduvet · 05/04/2024 07:59

I’m losing the plot as DH is insisting that I’m clearly wrong here. he’s being pretty forceful and I don’t get it.

We are buying a new car. Have found a couple. To part exchange we’d get less than car is worth with private sale.

DH wants to go with private sale. I’m fine with that. He wants to buy the new car now and the put the old car up for sale. I want sell first, then buy.

He doesn’t have a reason for this. But was very vexed that I didn’t agree.

I don’t want a few thousand pounds of our assets sitting on the drive when we don’t know for sure it will sell. The car will depreciate whereas money in the bank will accumulate. If it’s a short time it will be minimal but what if it doesn’t sell?

He says it will sell, at the right price. Auto trader get their prices from sales so they are selling, he said. I said, but we don’t know how many are selling and how fast.

So we don’t know is if ours will sell though. We live very rurally, it’s not in fantastic condition and it is old. I’m concerned it will end up sitting on the drive, it will still need to be insured. I also don’t see what is to be gained by buying first. We have another car that we are keeping, so we’d never be without a car.

So lovely MNs. What do you think? Am I being ridiculous? Are my arguments valid? He is totally convinced I’m just being stubborn and making spurious arguments.

AIBU to want to sell before we buy?

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Colddespiteduvet · 05/04/2024 08:09

WaitingfortheTardis · 05/04/2024 08:08

We've always bought the new one before selling the old one, Auto trader has always been really good and we've sold our previous cars within a week or so.

Ok. One for DH. That’s helpful.

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Colddespiteduvet · 05/04/2024 08:09

Jovacknockowitch · 05/04/2024 08:08

Trying to sell anything to members of the general public can be a challenge. I've given up on it now.

Thanks. I suspected as much!

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Colddespiteduvet · 05/04/2024 08:08

Adventurekreacher · 05/04/2024 08:06

Men are impatient when it comes to new toys.

Theres no right or wrong with this there's valid arguments for both. He wants to sell privately and get a good price, you want to just get rid and not have the hassle which comes at a price.
You could try and compromise and say put it on market for 2 weeks before buying the new car if it doesn't sell in this time then part ex. At least he'll only have to wait a couple of weeks.

Thanks, but it’s not a dilemma about whether to part ex or not, it’s buy first then sell or sell first then buy. I want to sell first. He wants to buy first.

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WaitingfortheTardis · 05/04/2024 08:08

We've always bought the new one before selling the old one, Auto trader has always been really good and we've sold our previous cars within a week or so.

Jovacknockowitch · 05/04/2024 08:08

Trying to sell anything to members of the general public can be a challenge. I've given up on it now.

Colddespiteduvet · 05/04/2024 08:06

PigeonEgg · 05/04/2024 08:02

I've always bought first and then sold privately, because I didn't want to be without a car.

It's also 'proof' of a genuine sale reason- "I bought that one there, so I'm selling this one."

Ah. Ok. That’s one reason to buy first. Showing a good reason for sale. We have another car so don’t need to factor that in.

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Adventurekreacher · 05/04/2024 08:06

Men are impatient when it comes to new toys.

Theres no right or wrong with this there's valid arguments for both. He wants to sell privately and get a good price, you want to just get rid and not have the hassle which comes at a price.
You could try and compromise and say put it on market for 2 weeks before buying the new car if it doesn't sell in this time then part ex. At least he'll only have to wait a couple of weeks.

Colddespiteduvet · 05/04/2024 08:05

Pippa12 · 05/04/2024 08:02

How much less are you getting if you part ex? Private selling is a flipping faff and can take ages, I’d just part ex and see it as a ‘service charge’.

FWIW, I’ve sold before I’ve bought new. Men just seem much less patient than women!

’can take ages’ - can you call my DH and tell him this please! 😂 I knew it!! Never done it before as always drove my cars into the ground. Thanks.

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PigeonEgg · 05/04/2024 08:02

I've always bought first and then sold privately, because I didn't want to be without a car.

It's also 'proof' of a genuine sale reason- "I bought that one there, so I'm selling this one."

Pippa12 · 05/04/2024 08:02

How much less are you getting if you part ex? Private selling is a flipping faff and can take ages, I’d just part ex and see it as a ‘service charge’.

FWIW, I’ve sold before I’ve bought new. Men just seem much less patient than women!

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