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TurnedInTunedoutAndFckedOff · 2024-04-04T18:06:38+00:00

Relentless last couple of days with the kids. AIBU to 1) feel like my body is not a climbing frame 2) feel like I've run out of answers to the relentless questions 3) sick of separating fights 4) tired of reasoning, negotiating 5) bored of keeping positive 6) sick of hearing myself talk 7) cba with the constant drudgery 8) feel like I just wanna time alone in a dark, quiet room 43, mum of 3 under 5s, perimenopausal and sipping the vino by 430 😬

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TurnedInTunedoutAndFckedOff · 05/04/2024 07:03

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:52

I was being quite serious. If the OP is really drinking every day, then that's a bad idea as alcohol is a depressant. I'm not saying she's an alcoholic, just that it is bad for the system to have that constant drip drip drip. I have no other advice as I'm not a parent.

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Thank you for concern of my physical health, but no, I don't drink everyday. I usually run. Today I thought fuck it. I'm chosing wine and I loved every last drop, drop, drop of it 😋🤗👌

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TheyNotAllUseless · 05/04/2024 06:13

Ugh it's a slog. Calm Parents, Happy siblings is very good if you can sneak a few minutes per day of Audible/reading

feel like I've run out of answers to the relentless questions
Do you use 'why/what/how do you think?' Very effective

tired of reasoning, negotiating
Don't negotiate with terrorists

bored of keeping positive
Be more honest, model how to deal with negative emotions/self-care.
'I'm feeling frustrated, I'm going to take some deep breaths'

sick of hearing myself talk
Say much, much less. The books How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen and Hunt, Gather, Parent are both great on this.

Sorry if you were just seeking comfort not solutions! Unsolicited advice can be annoying, I know.

MumChp · 05/04/2024 03:51

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:49

Quit the booze, it never helps.

@MsLuxLisbon

It always helps!
Even the idea of it. I rarely get any becsyse I choose to go to bed...

Creamcoconut · 05/04/2024 03:25

Can he or relatives have the kids for a night so you can book yourself into a bnb

Netaporter · 05/04/2024 03:23

@TurnedInTunedoutAndFckedOff at the end of the responsibility years here. Spoiler alert: you are still reaching for the wine even when they are 18 😂

Keep buggering on tho, some stages of parenting are just worse than others. This too shall pass especially when you add more cake consumption 😉

LemongrassLollipop · 05/04/2024 03:00

Just coming on to lend support.
Monumentally lost it with my two today. I'm fasting, I'm tired and I've had them all week. Their bickering is unbearable. Thankfully I'm at work tomorrow

Anonymous2025 · 05/04/2024 01:08

I feel the same , plus I’m working from home and today of all days , everything has none tits up . I’m so tired I can’t even sleep or rest . Then hubby decided to be offended because I lost my sh**t and told him kids had to go to sleep but be qui the ( at 10 pm ) because I’m tired of all of them . Guess who was at work until 10 pm blissfully away from screaming kids … not me .

Katemax82 · 04/04/2024 23:35

You are older than me and all your kids are younger than mine...I can't judge you! I also salute you

UncomfortablyBig882 · 04/04/2024 23:09

@MsLuxLisbon so go reply to posts on non-parenting subjects. You have no business on this thread.

winniethepooped · 04/04/2024 23:05

@MsLuxLisbon horrible comments. Every single one.

Many many people can have one glass (which is all OP stated) of wine and it eases tension and helps reduce stress.

You can't? Or maybe can't stop at one?

WaterFast · 04/04/2024 23:04

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 23:01

Not really, there are plenty of non parents on here. It hasn't been a site for parents only for a very, very long time.

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So maybe be supportive? Rather than chastising people for having a glass of wine in a situation you've never even experienced?

UncomfortablyBig882 · 04/04/2024 23:03

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MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 23:01

WaterFast · 04/04/2024 23:00

Strange website to join then.

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Not really, there are plenty of non parents on here. It hasn't been a site for parents only for a very, very long time.

WaterFast · 04/04/2024 23:00

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:59

Dealt with what? Not being a parent? I don't want to be, not my idea of a good time. I'm the same age as OP and having kids is my idea of hell.

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Strange website to join then.

winniethepooped · 04/04/2024 22:59

Enjoying this thread....slowly loosing my shit as my 7 month old has decided that he's actually going to wake up about 6 times a night now. 2.5 year old is a bundle of energy.

A glass of wine helps

A spa break on my own would also help. Can you imaginnnnneee the bliss.

I'd end up spending the whole time doting over photos of my two boys which is strangely what me and DH after a crazy day! Lol makes no sense

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:59

WaterFast · 04/04/2024 22:55

Not a parent but chooses to bash a mum of 3 under 5 for having a glass of wine.

Come back when you've dealt with that...

Dealt with what? Not being a parent? I don't want to be, not my idea of a good time. I'm the same age as OP and having kids is my idea of hell.

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:58

cutiepatootie23 · 04/04/2024 22:52

It actually does, in moderation, in most some situations.

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No, it really doesn't. Up to the OP, of course, but I cannot think of a single bad situation in my life that was ever even slightly helped by alcohol, and a lot that were made worse.

WaterFast · 04/04/2024 22:55

Not a parent but chooses to bash a mum of 3 under 5 for having a glass of wine.

Come back when you've dealt with that...

WaterFast · 04/04/2024 22:54

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:52

I was being quite serious. If the OP is really drinking every day, then that's a bad idea as alcohol is a depressant. I'm not saying she's an alcoholic, just that it is bad for the system to have that constant drip drip drip. I have no other advice as I'm not a parent.

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Where does it say she's drinking everyday?
She just said today by 4.30?

Projecting much?

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:52

WaterFast · 04/04/2024 22:50

Oh bore off. I don't drink myself but don't be such a judgemental sausage.

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I was being quite serious. If the OP is really drinking every day, then that's a bad idea as alcohol is a depressant. I'm not saying she's an alcoholic, just that it is bad for the system to have that constant drip drip drip. I have no other advice as I'm not a parent.

cutiepatootie23 · 04/04/2024 22:52

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:49

Quit the booze, it never helps.

It actually does, in moderation, in most some situations.

1daughterand3sons · 04/04/2024 22:51

I feel you today has been relentless I just want to run away I can't take anymore crying for today. DS2 has been the worst of them all he's crying about everything and now he is refusing to sleep.

WaterFast · 04/04/2024 22:50

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:49

Quit the booze, it never helps.

Oh bore off. I don't drink myself but don't be such a judgemental sausage.

MsLuxLisbon · 04/04/2024 22:49

Quit the booze, it never helps.

AloeVerity · 04/04/2024 22:49

Another one asking are you me? Had a day with the DC. Lost it big time tonight when, post a day in his nice cosy office, DH came home from the takeaway with. the. wrong. order. Could have killed him.