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To not know how I’m going to get through the day

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moreminieggsplease · 04/04/2024 08:59

With my toddler. I was in tears by 8am. I really don’t know how to get through to bedtime without absolutely losing it.
every single thing he has done since he woke up has been to push a boundary and I get it, that’s what they do but it’s constant and I just can’t hack it today. If he’s not doing something he shouldn’t be doing, he’s having a huge fucking meltdown because he’s not doing it.
DH is at work all day, I don’t have any family or friends locally. None of the groups are on. It’s pissing it down. It’s always fucking pissing it down. Yes, we could go out in the rain and we do, otherwise we’d never leave the bloody house in the past 3 months but he currently only has one pair of shoes which are already wet (only started walking recently and has chunky feet so hard to find other shoes that fit). Won’t keep a pair of wellies on and he’s probably not ready to wear them yet if I’m honest. I’ll take him out in pushchair for a bit but he hates being in it too long now.

I just feel like I’m losing it today. And the realisation that it’s only 9am is basically awful. There are a lot of hours left in this day.

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Rainyspringflowers · 04/04/2024 09:05

I can’t speak for op but mines never really sat in front of the tv for prolonged periods of time. I sort of wish he would!

myavocadoisgrowing · 04/04/2024 09:03

I'll probably get flamed for this, but when I was in this situation I sat them in front of the tv and left him. (Not literally) give yourself a break.

What sort of thing does he want to do that you won't let him? Can you let him get on with it (as long as it's safe) if it doesn't involve wrecking the house?

Do you have a garden?

berksandbeyond · 04/04/2024 09:02

Ahh it feels like such a long day when it’s like that doesn’t it?
some ideas of where you could go -
local library
IKEA
would the novelty of a bus journey or train journey be entertaining?
soft play? If you can throw a bit of money at it
any local museums?
if you’re in any local Facebook groups you can probably find some Easter holiday activities?

FloatyBoaty · 04/04/2024 09:02

If you can afford it- Soft play. Google your nearest soft play with a toddler area. Put him in it. You can’t “leave him to it” at that age, but at least a) you’re out of the house b) he’s testing boundaries in a space designed for it c) someone else can make you coffee and d) it’s dry.

honestly this is what they’re for. And if you feel up to it- try chatting with some other mums. You’ll feel miles better for some adult conversation.

Rainyspringflowers · 04/04/2024 09:00

Massive hug, I’m having similar feelings for different reasons. How old is he? Toddlers are so tricky Sad And yes the weather is terrible.