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Man on dating site asking for rude photos.

61 replies

patsy999 · 04/04/2024 08:21

Does anyone else get this.
Then because i wouldnt send him any, he told me i was flying too many red flags and said i was a prude.
Then he blocked me.

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Mnetcurious · 04/04/2024 18:44

Gross. At least I suppose you can be grateful that he’s waved that red flag and so you know to avoid him.

SamW98 · 04/04/2024 18:41

I’m ancient (55) and had loads of similar requests. Or they ask if I want them to send a photo - usually or their dick and feel asking questions about sex or commenting on my body as the opening message is the way to win the ladies.

Sadly my experience is the majority of men in dating apps are sex pests

toomuchfaff · 04/04/2024 18:23

trash took itself out

canyouletthedogoutplease · 04/04/2024 12:34

It a numbers game for sad men who don't know how to have a relationship with a woman in real life. If they ask 100 women and get one response then it's worth it. They get a little thrill, a dopamine hit, and have a sad little wank.

Sexy photos sent fake an intimacy that they can't achieve, and make them feel like they've got some control and power. Same with dick pics, it's like look at what I've got, they're trying to force a connection. It's grim. Block and ignore, don't let it put you off, just be very discerning from the outset, you'll need to be able to spot a wrong un at forty paces.

NewNameHello · 04/04/2024 12:26

Is it just me but who wants to see a dick pic? Just why??!

LlynTegid · 04/04/2024 12:24

The more women who respond like the OP, the more that unsuitable men remain single.

iwafs · 04/04/2024 11:56

patsy999 · 04/04/2024 08:21

Does anyone else get this.
Then because i wouldnt send him any, he told me i was flying too many red flags and said i was a prude.
Then he blocked me.

Sounds like the trash took itself out.

SheepAndSword · 04/04/2024 11:55

Waitingforeverandaday · 04/04/2024 09:16

From speaking to a few men on the apps it would seem they get their versions of this too. A lot of "only fans" girls and prostitutes advertised on there, it seems to be worse for them in terms of quantities.

Absolutely, male friend and I are on the same chatting (non dating) website.

We compare notes about unsolicited messages. Weirdly enough I get more only fans than he does 😂

I'm more polite in my responses to the women than the men and just say I'm a straight vanilla woman so not their target audience.

theeyeofdoe · 04/04/2024 11:10

Google "rude photos", take a picture, send asking if they're to his taste and then block him.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 04/04/2024 11:00

To all

Stuff like this, engages brain cell and move on. No one is forcing you and its your choice - BUT - ALWAYS THINK WHERE THE PICS COULD END UP

Be sensible, be safe, be aware - plenty of more fish in the sea, trust me - move on, please

KreedKafer · 04/04/2024 10:58

cuckyplunt · 04/04/2024 08:33

Does anyone ever send the photos though? They must get a few hits or surely they’d stop asking?

Of course people do.

I personally would rather poke my own eyes out with a stick then send photos of my tits to some random on a dating site. But there are certainly women who find it a turn-on to show themselves off, and who don't particularly care where the photos end up.

Some people on dating sites (both women and men!) are only really on there for sexting and exchanging photos with strangers they have no intention of ever meeting. Not my thing, but whatever floats your boat.

KreedKafer · 04/04/2024 10:53

There will always be men who ask this, clearly. Don't reply to them - just block them without saying anything.

PollyPeachum · 04/04/2024 10:25

Friend had this sort of request after a few chat sessions. She did a copy and paste from a porn site. He was happy and they carried on chatting for a month or two. She said it was good craic.
They were never going to meet, 300 miles apart.
It takes all sorts! Her included!!

GreyCarpet · 04/04/2024 09:48

cuckyplunt · 04/04/2024 08:33

Does anyone ever send the photos though? They must get a few hits or surely they’d stop asking?

God, yes. One of my friends did.

She did it because -

It's a nice thing to do

It makes me feel sexy

It's nice to know someone finds you attractive enough to ask.

I've got great tits so why not show them off?

We had many conversations about it. She thought it was funny/sweet that I was so uptight.

Utterly clueless she was!

Waitingforeverandaday · 04/04/2024 09:16

From speaking to a few men on the apps it would seem they get their versions of this too. A lot of "only fans" girls and prostitutes advertised on there, it seems to be worse for them in terms of quantities.

Original poster
patsy999 · 04/04/2024 08:57

I've deleted my accounts on the 2 dating sites now.

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Catsmere · 04/04/2024 08:52

MoltenLasagne · 04/04/2024 08:50

"Red flag" haha, don't you love it when they learn a bit of therapy speak and completely misapply it?

"Woman who doesn't want to pander to my perversions! Red flag! Red flag!"

Catsmere · 04/04/2024 08:51

Good on you, OP, that's exactly what he is. Filthy creep.

MoltenLasagne · 04/04/2024 08:50

"Red flag" haha, don't you love it when they learn a bit of therapy speak and completely misapply it?

Catsmere · 04/04/2024 08:50

Pornsick pervert, no loss.

C1N1C · 04/04/2024 08:48

Ask for his first, then send back lots of scathing feedback :)

Original poster
patsy999 · 04/04/2024 08:48

I told him he was a pervert.

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SmugglersHaunt · 04/04/2024 08:43

If he’s asking for rude photos, just send him a selfie of you giving him the finger

Ponoka7 · 04/04/2024 08:41

Aren't you suppose to report it to the admins? Creeps exist everywhere.

Ace56 · 04/04/2024 08:35

cuckyplunt · 04/04/2024 08:33

Does anyone ever send the photos though? They must get a few hits or surely they’d stop asking?

Sadly I think some women do, for the attention and also hoping that it will impress the man enough to want her.

Be thankful he blocked you OP - he showed his true colours early on!

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