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Woman on train!

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/04/2024 23:39

On our way home from a day out. 2 hour train journey. Woman next to us spent the entire 2 hours talking loudly on speaker phone. 2 HOURS!!! Then she takes her trainers off and puts her feet across the aisle resting her feet on my husband's seat. Am I unreasonable for being pissed off?? Get some ear pods or just speak on the phone like a normal person!!?? Why are people so rude!!? I was about to ask her to move her feet when the train conductor asked her too as she was blocking the aisle. 10 mins later feet back up!!! Raging 😡

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FangsForTheMemory · 04/04/2024 10:11

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 06:40

No you wouldn't do this.

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I would, in a pseudo-apologetic way. ‘Really sorry but your feet are a bit smelly.’ Just to wind her up.

BashfulClam · 04/04/2024 10:03

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 09:02

Sure

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I’ve done similar…I have no shame or filter due to my neurodivergence. It’s a great superpower.

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 09:02

BashfulClam · 04/04/2024 08:36

I would ‘jeez your feet are howlin, can you move them as they are making me heave!’

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Sure

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 09:02

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 08:31

Anyone who puts their feet up on someone else’s seat has no manners whatsoever and needs to be taught a lesson. I’ve got years of experience reminding people of what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. If she used violence on me she would regret it very quickly. I appreciate that others don’t have the training that I have, but surely people could at least tell her to remove her feet? Merseyrail staff deal with people putting their feet up on empty seats - let alone ones with people sitting on them!

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Taught a lesson? - sounds narcissistic to be honest. A simple "please can you put your feet down" is enough.

BusyMummy001 · 04/04/2024 08:39

Sorry, but in those circumstances I would [and have] lean over and join in the conversation. It closed it down pretty quickly. You should both have spoken up after 5 mins of the call and the moment she out her feet on the seats.

BashfulClam · 04/04/2024 08:36

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 06:40

No you wouldn't do this.

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I would ‘jeez your feet are howlin, can you move them as they are making me heave!’

LakeTiticaca · 04/04/2024 08:36

I don't understand. If her feet were on your DPs seat, where was your DP?.

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 08:36

I’m the kind of person who sits next to man spreaders on the tube and pushes their leg back into line with their seat space. I will not just put up with appallingly rude behaviour- it needs to be challenged. I learned from my Gran who used to call after anyone she saw dropping litter in the street to shame them into picking it up.

When we just sit there and say nothing, we in effect legitimise bad behaviour. If it’s safe to do so, challenge it.

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 08:31

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:58

That's one way of escalating the situation and getting involved in violence

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Anyone who puts their feet up on someone else’s seat has no manners whatsoever and needs to be taught a lesson. I’ve got years of experience reminding people of what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. If she used violence on me she would regret it very quickly. I appreciate that others don’t have the training that I have, but surely people could at least tell her to remove her feet? Merseyrail staff deal with people putting their feet up on empty seats - let alone ones with people sitting on them!

letitlego · 04/04/2024 07:49

Ive spent many years being annoyed on trains as a commuter

Nowadays, I plug in ear pods. I often move carriages because it's easier

I would have asked someone to move their feet though. It's beyond rude

letitlego · 04/04/2024 07:48

Ive spent many years being aff by

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 07:45

StarlightLady · 04/04/2024 06:59

Last time l said something in a similar speaker phone situation l get threatened (by another woman!), so l would just put up with if it reoccurred. But you are right OP, it’s wrong.

Exactly- you have to be careful these days or you might get stabbed

BreatheAndFocus · 04/04/2024 07:41

Speak to the ticket inspector. I had similar - a women screeching and sobbing down the phone about her boyfriend for more than 2hrs. She was half a carriage away from me but she was so loud I could hear her over the normal volume chatter of other passengers. It was relentless.

I spoke to the ticket inspector and he told her to move out into the corridor. He also reminded her that there were other people on the train and that she shouldn’t make so much noise. She went out into the corridor but then came back after 5 minutes, having ended her call. Clearly she preferred sitting in a comfortable seat shouting down her phone and it wasn’t quite so appealing when she had to stand up!

WandaWonder · 04/04/2024 07:22

Then your husband could have asked her, because they were on his seat

LightSpeeds · 04/04/2024 07:22

ArtG · 04/04/2024 06:46

I think you should consider getting some cards printed with ”Read Mumsnet tomorrow, there’ll be a thread about you” and hand them to people who annoy you.

Love this!! 😂😂😂

Cheepcheepcheep · 04/04/2024 07:19

I guess the point is that, while OP could ask her not to do these things, it’s the fact she thought it was acceptable. Maybe I’m middle aged (at 34!) but I swear this sort of entitlement didn’t happen quite so much in the past.

StarlightLady · 04/04/2024 06:59

Last time l said something in a similar speaker phone situation l get threatened (by another woman!), so l would just put up with if it reoccurred. But you are right OP, it’s wrong.

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:58

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 06:54

I certainly would. Anyone who is a grown adult who does that deserves it. If she was a teen, I’d explain to her that you can’t do that.

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That's one way of escalating the situation and getting involved in violence

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 06:57

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 06:54

I certainly would. Anyone who is a grown adult who does that deserves it. If she was a teen, I’d explain to her that you can’t do that.

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Yeah right. You'd jump to that before simply asking politely if they could take their feet down please. Course you would.

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 06:54

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 06:40

No you wouldn't do this.

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I certainly would. Anyone who is a grown adult who does that deserves it. If she was a teen, I’d explain to her that you can’t do that.

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 04/04/2024 06:50

Raging

Why didn't you say something rather than sit there in anger.

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:49

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:48

Were you in the quiet carriage.

I mean the phone is annoying but you and your husband could have chatted for 2 hours solid if you'd wanted and there's not really anything you can do about it.

Were you and your husband unable to ask her to take her feet off I only ask as I know some people genuinely can't. In which case would you have been able to ask the conductor? Or again, not?

Oh sorry I see you did ask the conductor. Maybe keep asking the conductor?

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:48

B1anche · 04/04/2024 05:45

I would have embarrassed her by loudly asking her to move her feet because they smell.

Would you? Really?

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:48

Were you in the quiet carriage.

I mean the phone is annoying but you and your husband could have chatted for 2 hours solid if you'd wanted and there's not really anything you can do about it.

Were you and your husband unable to ask her to take her feet off I only ask as I know some people genuinely can't. In which case would you have been able to ask the conductor? Or again, not?

ArtG · 04/04/2024 06:46

I think you should consider getting some cards printed with ”Read Mumsnet tomorrow, there’ll be a thread about you” and hand them to people who annoy you.