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Woman on train!

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/04/2024 23:39

On our way home from a day out. 2 hour train journey. Woman next to us spent the entire 2 hours talking loudly on speaker phone. 2 HOURS!!! Then she takes her trainers off and puts her feet across the aisle resting her feet on my husband's seat. Am I unreasonable for being pissed off?? Get some ear pods or just speak on the phone like a normal person!!?? Why are people so rude!!? I was about to ask her to move her feet when the train conductor asked her too as she was blocking the aisle. 10 mins later feet back up!!! Raging 😡

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theeyeofdoe · 05/04/2024 00:47

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 07:45

Exactly- you have to be careful these days or you might get stabbed

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Really on a train with CCTV and an emergency line? If someone's threatening you on a train pull that cord/.

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 05/04/2024 00:03

Hi all. I didn't say anything because the train was rammed and if she'd kicked off we'd have had nowhere to go! If I could've moved we would have. I've attached a helpful diagram of how she had her feet up! She didn't have freakishly long legs, that's just my terrible artistry 😂😂

Woman on train!
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Allfur · 04/04/2024 17:38

I would have offered her some headphones, cf

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/04/2024 17:36

Why did your DH not tell her to move her feet?

MushMonster · 04/04/2024 17:34

Tell her.
We have to stop being so polite. The number of people who jyst takes the mick is well on the rise.

BlurpBlorp · 04/04/2024 13:04

Talking on speakerphone and playing music/videos without earphones seems to be more and more common where I live. Vaping in indoor public spaces too. It's infurating and so bloody disrespectful. Shoes off is just disgusting...

Blackcats7 · 04/04/2024 13:00

All the people asking why you or your husband didn’t say something well it’s a very british thing to seethe in silence.
Have a read of Very British Problems, really funny.

cactidream · 04/04/2024 12:55

I HATE people talking on a speaker in public transport.
Are good manners missing these days?

If a journey is longer than 10/15min I would join the conversation

MorrisZapp · 04/04/2024 11:42

Can someone explain the feet thing because I don't understand it. How can you put your feet on a person's seat if they are in it?

I loathe loud phone convos or video watching. I always sit in the quiet carriage so then I can just say 'excuse me, this is the quiet carriage' which always results in eye rolling but they usually pipe down.

User135644 · 04/04/2024 11:31

If you want to make a phonecall on a train go to the vestibule area. Otherwise make it brief. Show some consideration.

Starship21 · 04/04/2024 11:29

B1anche · 04/04/2024 05:45

I would have embarrassed her by loudly asking her to move her feet because they smell.

Hahahaha this is brilliant!! Top idea Smile

SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2024 11:19

2 hours loud speaker, annoying.

Husband unable to advocate for himself and expecting you to tell off the mean lady, annoying.

Yanbi

PotatoPudding · 04/04/2024 11:09

LoserWinner · 04/04/2024 11:03

A few years ago, a chap in the quiet carriage was having a loud conversation with somebody selling something, and after about half an hour he gave them his card number and PIN to complete the deal. I wrote down the card no and PIN. An hour or so later, as I got off the train, I gave him the piece of paper with the details on and suggested that he check his bank account and cancel his card, because about twenty random strangers now had access to his money.

Love it!

LoserWinner · 04/04/2024 11:03

A few years ago, a chap in the quiet carriage was having a loud conversation with somebody selling something, and after about half an hour he gave them his card number and PIN to complete the deal. I wrote down the card no and PIN. An hour or so later, as I got off the train, I gave him the piece of paper with the details on and suggested that he check his bank account and cancel his card, because about twenty random strangers now had access to his money.

ParkerPipe · 04/04/2024 10:50

I am honestly surprised that there aren't more heart attacks and aneurysms these days with so many people seething away with anger they can't express.
It was lucky that the ticket inspector spoke to her just as you were about to though...

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/04/2024 10:49

There is absolutely no way I’d put up with anyone putting their feet on my seat! Why TF didn’t either of you say anything??

LlynTegid · 04/04/2024 10:46

You should have said something about the speakerphone call after a few minutes. Be it direct or something indirect.

Or your husband beat you to it.

Even to say it's not good to do so as it might give away personal information, and put her in potential danger.

Londonrach1 · 04/04/2024 10:45

Why didn't husband ask her to move her feet from husband chair like everyone else would. Re the phone conversation not much you can do but suggest you give an opinion...I have in the past...it works

Abi86 · 04/04/2024 10:44

And you did the very British thing and said nothing? I really don’t know why people feel uncomfortable speaking up.
"Mate, can you turn the volume down, I’m trying to … (read or whatever)”
”excuse me, are you able to turn it off speaker"
"mate, you alright? Got a hearing problem?”
"for the love of god, can you keep the noise down"
"are you able to take your call somewhere else, it’s unacceptably loud"

you get the idea. As for the feet - I’d be less polite.

KreedKafer · 04/04/2024 10:43

I wouldn't have said anything about the phone conversation - it's annoying, yes, but I don't think it's something you can tell people not to do. It's irritating but unless it's a quiet carriage, they're allowed to do it.

I would have told her to take her feet off my seat though. I'm not actually someone who is typically confrontational in those sort of situations, but I wouldn't have put up with that.

Berlinlover · 04/04/2024 10:36

I don’t understand why you didn’t move carriages.

PotatoPudding · 04/04/2024 10:30

People do these things because no one has the nerve to call them out on it. I don’t personally mind people on speakerphone (not really any different to two people talking in person) or talking loudly, but putting your feet on someone else’s seat or armrest is very bad mannered and should have been addressed rather than ranted about to strangers on the internet.

HurryupHenry · 04/04/2024 10:25

First time on public transport?

oprahwindsock · 04/04/2024 10:22

I'd ask her to move her feet because you don't like the smell

LadyKenya · 04/04/2024 10:12

FangsForTheMemory · 04/04/2024 10:11

I would, in a pseudo-apologetic way. ‘Really sorry but your feet are a bit smelly.’ Just to wind her up.

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Hmmm. I wonder if you would be so quick as to do the same to a man. Somehow I doubt it.