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Woman on train!

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/04/2024 23:39

On our way home from a day out. 2 hour train journey. Woman next to us spent the entire 2 hours talking loudly on speaker phone. 2 HOURS!!! Then she takes her trainers off and puts her feet across the aisle resting her feet on my husband's seat. Am I unreasonable for being pissed off?? Get some ear pods or just speak on the phone like a normal person!!?? Why are people so rude!!? I was about to ask her to move her feet when the train conductor asked her too as she was blocking the aisle. 10 mins later feet back up!!! Raging 😡

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User135644 · 07/04/2024 08:11

shearwater2 · 07/04/2024 04:29

I think it's immensely rude and irritating when people have long phone conversations on the train full stop, even if they are not on speaker. It's blissful when their claptrappings ends due to a tunnel.

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It used to be the done thing that if you took a phonecall on public transport you'd keep it brief and "I can't really talk now i'm on the train" unless it was urgent. If you wanted a bit of a chat, you'd go to the end of the carriage out of earshot.

Speaker phones, face time and video calls on public transport or in coffee shops/cafes should not be normalised.

shearwater2 · 07/04/2024 04:29

I think it's immensely rude and irritating when people have long phone conversations on the train full stop, even if they are not on speaker. It's blissful when their claptrappings ends due to a tunnel.

Lifetooshort23 · 07/04/2024 04:25

I’m writing this in the hope she’s on here and sees how annoying and pathetic she was…

I’ll never forget years ago being on a train opposite some woman working on her laptop and then making a “oh I’m so important call”, I think to “Louise” and the entire calling being “well I can’t discuss that case right now because I’m on a train” etc, etc. my god it was beyond annoying and sooooo “look at me I’m so important” YAWN! People are absolute dicks sometimes! I cringed SO hard for this woman and still do when I think about it, and it was over ten YEARS ago!

enchantedsquirrelwood · 06/04/2024 17:04

CuriousMum27 · 05/04/2024 15:33

Never heard of anyone having to give out their PIN number for a transaction!

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Probably meant the 3 digit number on the back.

I once took a photo of a document which said "highly confidential" on it. I didn't tell the person sitting next to me who was reading it in my full view but I did delete it, although it might still be sitting on Google photos somewhere

Mouse82 · 06/04/2024 17:00

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 08:36

I’m the kind of person who sits next to man spreaders on the tube and pushes their leg back into line with their seat space. I will not just put up with appallingly rude behaviour- it needs to be challenged. I learned from my Gran who used to call after anyone she saw dropping litter in the street to shame them into picking it up.

When we just sit there and say nothing, we in effect legitimise bad behaviour. If it’s safe to do so, challenge it.

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Sure Jan GIF
destroyess · 06/04/2024 11:20

she was raised in jungle

Peacockcolours · 06/04/2024 09:26

ArtG · 04/04/2024 06:46

I think you should consider getting some cards printed with ”Read Mumsnet tomorrow, there’ll be a thread about you” and hand them to people who annoy you.

😂😂😂

Imisssleep2 · 06/04/2024 07:30

It is just plain rude, I don't get where people think this is okay.

I would probably have joined in the conversation as she was making it so public, then if/when she got annoyed would say well if it's private don't have it on speaker, it may even have just prompted her to move. With regards to the feet, I think I would have just made comments to my husband about a horrible cheesy smell and hoped she got the hint

surreyBest · 06/04/2024 04:42

I once had a woman put her feet on the back of our armrests in the airplane. She was sitting behind us. I told her to move her feet away from us and she apologised and did. But I felt she was unhappy about it all, I kept getting the looks. Perhaps I wasn't polite enough ( it was my child's armrests after all! I was being protective). Interestingly flight attendants didn't say a thing to her, so I had to. Is it maybe customary to put your feet like that on the plane?

BettyShagter · 06/04/2024 00:42

poppyslashtulip · 06/04/2024 00:39

How do you know this though?

@paulhollywoodshairgel, I don’t know why you were worried that she might kick off. Did she look aggressive? I’m not being a smart arse and I’m absolutely not one for confrontation, but I don’t see how asking someone politely to move their feet is likely to lead to major conflict. If I was in her shoes (no pun intended) I’d be horribly embarrassed and apologise.

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Exactly and given that the OP's husband also had the OP with her, it sounds like wet lettucery of the highest order not to make a simple, polite request.

poppyslashtulip · 06/04/2024 00:39

dizzydizzydizzy · 05/04/2024 23:52

She sounds absolutely insufferable.

You can't win. You really should have spoken to her but if you had, it would have ended badly.

How do you know this though?

@paulhollywoodshairgel, I don’t know why you were worried that she might kick off. Did she look aggressive? I’m not being a smart arse and I’m absolutely not one for confrontation, but I don’t see how asking someone politely to move their feet is likely to lead to major conflict. If I was in her shoes (no pun intended) I’d be horribly embarrassed and apologise.

dizzydizzydizzy · 05/04/2024 23:52

She sounds absolutely insufferable.

You can't win. You really should have spoken to her but if you had, it would have ended badly.

Sisforsmile · 05/04/2024 23:48

shame your DH didn’t have anything he could have rested on her feet. Times a handbag comes in handy! Failing that I’m surprised he did just push them off or you did keep moving in and out of your seat.

BettyShagter · 05/04/2024 23:23

paulhollywoodshairgel · 05/04/2024 23:21

As I said. Train was rammed and had 2 knackered kids with me. If she'd kicked off there was nowhere for either of us to go!

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Kicked off in what way?

Was your husband worried she would physically assault him if he politely asked her to move her feet?

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 05/04/2024 23:21

poppyslashtulip · 05/04/2024 17:57

‘Could you take your feet off my seat please?’

How is that difficult? He’s every right to his space and should assert himself.

As I said. Train was rammed and had 2 knackered kids with me. If she'd kicked off there was nowhere for either of us to go!

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lto2019 · 05/04/2024 22:50

awitchoftroubleinelectricblue · 04/04/2024 01:32

Could you not just use your own voice and tell her to shut up and to move her feet?

Yes, why not say anything, fume about it and post on here? If no one says anything she will just continue - you shouldn't need to say anything but sometimes you have to.

Itsdeepitsblue · 05/04/2024 18:07

I am not confrontational but I absolutely would have asked her to take her feet off my seat. Bloody cheek!

poppyslashtulip · 05/04/2024 17:57

‘Could you take your feet off my seat please?’

How is that difficult? He’s every right to his space and should assert himself.

Arcadiusdonk · 05/04/2024 17:09

StormingNorman · 04/04/2024 00:32

The phone is annoying, the feet are a liberty. I’d have rested my hand on them…but then I do have a pass ag streak 😂

Pass ag- love it 😂.

Allfur · 05/04/2024 16:25

Bloody hell I would have told her to get her feet off my seat

Notamum12345577 · 05/04/2024 15:46

If she is resting her feet on your husbands seat, and he didn’t say anything, in mumsets world he must be having an affair with her. LTB

DyddDewiSant · 05/04/2024 15:39

I once had someone like this near me on speakerphone and joined in the conversation...........they quickly ended the call. I was feeling brave as I was getting off at the next stop which was only a few minutes away!!!

CuriousMum27 · 05/04/2024 15:33

LoserWinner · 04/04/2024 11:03

A few years ago, a chap in the quiet carriage was having a loud conversation with somebody selling something, and after about half an hour he gave them his card number and PIN to complete the deal. I wrote down the card no and PIN. An hour or so later, as I got off the train, I gave him the piece of paper with the details on and suggested that he check his bank account and cancel his card, because about twenty random strangers now had access to his money.

Never heard of anyone having to give out their PIN number for a transaction!

beanii · 05/04/2024 15:12

Did you not say anything? Just decided to be angry instead?

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 05/04/2024 05:49

cactidream · 04/04/2024 12:55

I HATE people talking on a speaker in public transport.
Are good manners missing these days?

If a journey is longer than 10/15min I would join the conversation

She was speaking a different language otherwise I would have!

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