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Is my MIL too needy of my husband

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FinchesGold · 03/04/2024 18:25

AIBU to think my MIL is too needy of my husband, based on the following:

  • She wants to see him every weekend
  • Even if she is meeting him, she still calls him every weekend for a chat
  • She calls regardless of whether we are on holiday or not
  • She wants him to go on holiday with her for a week every year; and it takes 8 hrs to drive each way
  • She refuses to change the holiday destination even after my husband and I had a baby and we said we couldn't go
  • She then chased him regularly to see if he was going (and leaving me home alone with the baby)
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Tatas · 03/04/2024 18:29

Wanting to see him every weekend isn't a huge red flag to me, unless it's taking away from family time / it's a full day each weekend / she doesn't want to see you and DC too. Calling him each weekend again wouldn't be an issue to me, but calling when on holiday I might raise eyebrows at - my DH speaks to his mum often on the phone, but not really on holiday - we both switch off / unplug!

A weeklong holiday with just them two each year with 8 hours of driving each way would be the only thing I'd be a bit meh on, especially with limited AL and not wanting to involve you or your DC.

Tbh all of those things you dislike can be discussed / fixed with DH surely - he can visit when he wants, call when works for him and just not go on the holiday if it doesn't work for your family.