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Going on holiday and feeling fat

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CrazyMumyy · 03/04/2024 17:41

5 years ago I was 8 stones and today I’m 11 stones 12lb. I really wanted to lose weight before this holiday but everyday stuffed my face. In taxi going to airport and I’m really upset. I don’t want to take any pictures when we’re there. I don’t even want to get in the pool. Has anyone else felt like this? I just feel disgusting. I see how DH looks at me when I was trying clothes on for this holiday. I feel and look disgusting. How can I not wreck the holiday for my kids in particular? I want to be happy and upbeat but just feel like hiding away. About 30 minutes to airport now.

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fourelementary · 03/04/2024 17:49

Your kids literally don’t care what you look like or how much you weigh. They will know whether or not you join in, smile and interact with them on holiday and your negative mood about your weight is the only thing going to make it bad. Not your weight.
No one will care.

Kingoftheroad · 03/04/2024 17:49

Oh hunny I’m exactly the same. Please don’t tell yourself you’re disgusting, I can guarantee that you’re beautiful. Weight bares no reflective on who you are.

give yourself the pep talk that you’d give others in this situation.

you go and have a ball, get in that pool and enjoy yourselves, nobody keeps you and in my experience people are too busy worrying about how they look themselves to worry about anyone else.

Inkblue · 03/04/2024 17:48

You aren’t your weight and don’t let your enjoyment be spoilt by it. Look outwards as there are so many people of different shapes and sizes and no-one cares about yours. Stand proud for yourself and your children. Get in the pool, have fun with the kids and that is what everyone will remember.

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CrazyMumyy · 03/04/2024 17:47

Thank you everyone for your responses. Yes I know I need to just accept it but it’s so hard! I’ve never been this big. My maternity bikini wouldn’t fit me! I’m actually bigger now than I was during both my pregnancies.

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Capmagturk · 03/04/2024 17:45

STOP! When you get on holiday there's a huge mixture of people of all sizes round the pool. I can't remember one of them or their bodies and I've never ever looked at anyone bigger and thought any negative. When I was overweight I done the same as you then as soon as you're on holiday, it really doesn't matter. Just go enjoy yourself and do NOT stress any more!

TeenLifeMum · 03/04/2024 17:44

I totally understand but you have to stop your weight controlling your happiness. Acceptance is hard but this is your right now and that’s good enough. Have a lovely holiday and come back rested and ready to focus on your health.

Itsallfunngamesuntil · 03/04/2024 17:42

I feel exactly like you right now

Due to go hols at end of month

I feel your pain xx