Going on holiday and feeling fat

Eh?

just put in a tampon??

I know how you feel. I just went on holiday and I’m not at the weight I want to be.
I spent the first few days really self conscious but then I really thought about it.. was looking at other peoples bodies around the pool? No. If I did notice anyone did I care that they were overweight? Not even a tiny bit. No one around that pool will care about what you look like. Trust me.

Give it a rest. We are all trying to be supportive and help OP feel better about herself. I imagine all of us, including myself, are very aware of our height/weight ratio and what that means and I’m in no doubt the OP does as well.

@Zanatdy but you ARE making untrue statements. You’ve literally no idea whether op is over weight, none of us do. She could be 4ft or 6ft. What we do know is that A. She feels shit about how she looks. And. B. She is literally at the airport. And C. She is not going to lose x amount of weight on her flight!
The fact that you chose to tell her that yes, she might well be fat (when she quite clearly knows that and is struggling with it, even though it might not be true, and has asked for advice around it) says more about you than it does about op. If you can’t be kind, don’t reply.

You have two choices - spend your holiday hiding away, feeling ashamed of your body, or think fuck it and enjoy your holiday.

I refuse to be defined by my weight.

It is possible to make yourself feel better quickly. Make low calorie choices from right now, even if you deprive yourself a little and after a couple of days you'll feel smug and better. Drink lots of water and lose the water weight. You'll wee alot. Think of it like swishing the debris out of a bowl. You'll have plenty to distract you. Have fun!

I don't know how tall you are but you are hardly morbidly obese ....loads of people are slightly overweight. No one cares. You need to remember most people aren't thinking about you as much as you think they are.

Making untrue statements doesn’t help. People here saying she’s not fat because someone else same weight isn’t will not help her in the slightest, in fact I’d imagine she feels worse, but likely because there’s a huge height difference

I go on a beach holiday every two or three years. There are always women who weigh much more than you do in their swimsuits/bikinis enjoying themselves and not giving a fuck about their size. That's because they know nobody cares what other people look like. They know that everyone is too busy enjoying their own holiday to give them anything more than a passing glance.

@Zanatdy how unhelpful. Whether op is 5ft or 6ft 6 she feels shit. Let’s ALL try to make her feel better eh?

This with bells on. I'm at least 3 stone overweight and carry it all around my middle. I'm basically a barrel on legs. Last year I bought a bikini when on holiday and stopped giving any fucks. It was absolutely liberating. The joy of not being in a massive one-piece and drying out quick more than made up for the apprehension and feeling like my boobs were out. No-one cast me a second look.

Right stop it now, you've got 2 choices, you either quit the guilt and enjoy your holiday and take action to change your circumstances.
OR
you carry on with this self loathing and ruin your holiday - guess what, you'll still not be slimmer tomorrow, but by next week you'll have had a shit holiday and still be fat.

Self loathing does nothing. Do something useful, enjoy your holiday, make some amazing memories and make some good food decisions with the aim to making progress from this point forward.

That’s not particularly helpful to this thread or to anyone really.

are you the same height as OP? I’m short and 11st 12lbs is very overweight for me. Someone who is 5ft and someone who is 5ft 8 are going to look very different at the same weight

Last summer I felt awful on a last minute holiday - since then I’ve lost weight, and have more to lose before the summer. Nothing you can do for this holiday, yes no-one else will care but I know you will but try and forget about your weight for now and get a plan together for when you’re back

Oh op I know how you feel but please don’t let it spoil your holiday. Your dh shouldn’t be looking at you any way at all except with love. You have borne his dc fhs! He should be supporting you, not making you feel badly about yourself when you already feel awful.

Hold your head up high op. As others have said, your worth is not dependent on your weight.

Your dc love you for who you are, they don’t care what you look like. Go and have a good time for their sake if not your own 🌷🌷🌷 but try and have a good time for yourself too! You deserve it! And remember, no one hates themselves thin. It’s easier to lose wait when you are in a good head space so relax and have fun!

I was you last year (actually heavier as I was 12 st9 at 5ft 5). I did my best on holiday to enjoy myself and then I got home and focussed on changes and I’m now 4 stone lighter a year on. Currently on holiday and it feels good to not be worrying about my body, not to mention physically I’m fitter. But your weight is not your worth and you can’t change anything now so just plaster a smile on, enjoy your trip and ponder if you want to make lifestyle changes after the holiday.

And as PP said, I’m round the pool and people are every shape and size.

Right.

I'm bigger than you, I'm 14 stone. Do I deserve to have a great holiday and splash about in the pool and do what I like with my well-earned break? Or should I hide my disgusting body away and hate myself into a different body?

Then what should you do?

Right. Stop NOW. You don’t need to “accept it”, you can do something about it, but not until you get back. No one ever loses weight on holiday! What you CAN do is fake it til you make it. So, do not hide away under baggy t shirts and skulk around trying to hide the bits you don’t like. FAKE IT. Head up, shoulders back, act like you feel completely proud and you own the joint. NOTHING looks as good on a woman as confidence. And your weight has nothing to do with who you are as a person. Are you kind, loyal, honest, decent? 8 stone or 18 stone won’t, can’t and will never change that. Be proud of who you are and bloody show it! Go op, you can absolutely do this! Xx

It really doesn't matter, no one cares or judges other people on holiday. The only person judging you is yourself. You've likely worked hard to pay for this holiday and you deserve to enjoy it not be berating yourself.

The only people I remember from holidays or even notice are the ones we end up chatting to and having a laugh with.

You're more than just a body. I swear NO one will be judging you or thinking badly of you for your physical appearance. Go to the airport and have a wine or cocktail and stop the negative thoughts of yourself. As soon as they start think of something/anything else. Read a book, just do something else to distract yourself from the negative voice in your head and change the monologue - You're going on holiday, you're going to have fun, it's going to be sunny, you're having quality family time and the kids will enjoy themselves, that's all that matters.

11st 12lbs isn't overweight. You're just a curvier version of yourself, and I know as I currently weigh the same as you :) my husband would never look at me the way you've described, that's awful for you.

You dont need to change your weight, you need to change your husband.

Xx

You are so lucky to be going on holiday. Enjoy it

Same.

Am 12st 3 and feel huge :(

Floaty clothes. Colourful sarongs to wear over your bikini/swim suit. Smile and be happy. Own the space your fabulous body lives in. You look great. Nobody cares what size you are (except you so you need to fix that in your head).

Have a super holiday and a nice big cocktail.