Page 4 | Would your partner wake you up shouting due to cramp?

Daisypod · 2024-04-03T08:18:15+00:00

As the title says really, Aibu to think shouting out in agony due to leg cramp in the middle of the night is somewhat over the top? Dh did this last night and I thought something was seriously wrong! I've had cramp myself and usually quietly stretch out or sometimes stand to sort it, certainly don't shout out in pain. But I am prepared to admit I'm bu if others have had it much more severely than I have, I've just never heard of it being that bad.

QueenBitch666 · 03/04/2024 14:13

Cramp can be absolute agony

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/04/2024 14:07

midgetastic · 03/04/2024 13:27

Calf cramp I may not shout

Thigh cramp - well that's like expecting someone in labour to be quiet

But the shout out is instinctive/ reactive not "oh I better wake dh to help "

I was going to say this. I once got it both thighs at the same time. That was fun. I think that may be linked with mild dehydration.

IAmAnIdiot123 · 03/04/2024 14:04

I've had it once and as another poster said, it was worse than labour. I also regularly pop my knee, i shout in pain from that too.

DerekFaker · 03/04/2024 14:00

I think an issue is too, you're probably asleep/half asleep, you move your legs and BOOM! So the pain gives you a shock and wakes you up as well.

IvorTheEngineDriver · 03/04/2024 13:49

As someone who suffers from leg cramp, no I do not. It's nasty at the best of times but if it is bad enough to wake you up, of course you'll yell.

FastFood · 03/04/2024 13:47

Cramps are a thing.
Calf cramps are another one, it's agony.
It generally happens at night and really takes you by surprise so I understand how someone can be quite vocal with them.

Loubelle70 · 03/04/2024 13:46

Newestname002 · 03/04/2024 12:49

Yes! I've had sudden cramp in a calf only very occasionally. The sudden pain is excruciating and I find myself hammering the calf muscle with my fists to try and reduce the pain. Putting weight on the affected leg is very difficult and the soreness can last for a couple of days, even with pain relieving gel. My sympathies to whoever gets these. 🌹

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Exactly how mine is..i can't stand its just holding my breath whilst cursing and shutting my eyes through it....😔😁...so sore for days too xxx

Toottooot · 03/04/2024 13:33

ginasevern · 03/04/2024 13:24

Yep. I'm a long time cramp sufferer and you cannot "gently stretch" your leg with a full blown attack. The pain in indescribable and yes, I leap out of bed and hobble round the bedroom shouting obscenities.

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Then for a good 3-4 days afterwards your leg is still incredibly tender from the cramps and you’re scared of going back to bed incase whatever position your leg is in aggravates it again. And aye, you canna help but scream oot fan it’s that’s bad.

Foostit · 03/04/2024 13:32

It depends how bad it is. I’ve had it when it’s so bad that it looks as if your calf has caved in, I definitely screamed!

Gorgonemilezola · 03/04/2024 13:31

DH gets leg cramps at night, very rarely, but he is in agony with them, and tbh anything I can do to help, I would. Cramps can be excruciating - it's why it's so dangerous if you get one while swimming.

Bellyblueboy · 03/04/2024 13:31

Depends. I shout in pain from leg cramps occasionally. Sometimes they are just annoying - sometimes the pain is overwhelming. I get dizzy and see stars.

you don’t sound like a particularly sympathetic person. Not everyone experiences the exact same physical symptoms as you!

midgetastic · 03/04/2024 13:27

Calf cramp I may not shout

Thigh cramp - well that's like expecting someone in labour to be quiet

But the shout out is instinctive/ reactive not "oh I better wake dh to help "

Macandcheeese · 03/04/2024 13:24

I've had my husband clamp onto me shouting out. I was so confused, half asleep, 7 months pregnant at the time. But then annoyed once he stopped cos it took me ages to go off & I had to try and drift off again!

mrssunshinexxx · 03/04/2024 13:24

I woke by cramp every morning in third trimester , it was agony ! Don't think I shouted but I wanted to

ginasevern · 03/04/2024 13:24

MrsGusset · 03/04/2024 12:02

The posters who claim to cure the problem by a bit of stretching have clearly never experienced a real Charley Horse.

It's possible to stretch your way out of a twinge of cramp but a full blown attack is so shockingly painful that loud hollering is unavoidable.

Yep. I'm a long time cramp sufferer and you cannot "gently stretch" your leg with a full blown attack. The pain in indescribable and yes, I leap out of bed and hobble round the bedroom shouting obscenities.

FlyingHighFlyingLow · 03/04/2024 13:23

Before having a baby I'd be like no, I've had leg cramps they're fine. Then I got pregnancy leg cramps and holy jesus they hurt worse than labour. My leg would lock with them, and I'd obviously need the bathroom but couldn't get up. I'd often have to wake DH to help me unlock it and then basically carry me to the bathroom 😅

BumpyaDaisyevna · 03/04/2024 13:23

If you have them really badly literally you cannot move. There's no "stretching it out" - or walking to the bathroom to sort it.

you need someone to grab your leg, rotate your ankle and rub your leg hard like mad.

tigger1001 · 03/04/2024 13:22

I've been in floods of tears with leg cramp, and yes have woken up my partner by shouting out. It can be incredibly painful.

CactusMactus · 03/04/2024 13:19

Apparently men are not as good with pain (or laundry) as women...

UmaniCaroline · 03/04/2024 13:17

Yes my DH does this now and again and he's not known for being a drama queen.

AlexaPlaySomeHappyHardcore · 03/04/2024 13:16

I’ve only ever had cramps like that when I was heavily pregnant and yes I did wake my partner up because I was loud. Fucking hurt and was a complete shock each time so I cried out. Not that sorry about it, I didn’t do it on purpose after all.

Riverlee · 03/04/2024 13:13

I’ve woken dh before when I’ve cried out in pain.

Needanewname42 · 03/04/2024 13:09

5YearsLeft · 03/04/2024 12:50

Ah, I’m sorry. That must be so tough when he’s still so little, and a bit of a stress for you. He may have a high pain tolerance or he may have a perfectly normal pain tolerance but just not be a person who yells. Hopefully, he’ll be able to communicate a bit more about how and where it hurts as he gets older. He may still always be on the quiet side about pain, which is okay.

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Its 4 years ago and the Surgeon managed to put it back together, leaving a little scar. But it feels like yesterday, it always comes back to me never to think that just because he's quiet that he's not hurt.

MartinsSpareCalculator · 03/04/2024 12:51

I doubt he'd wake me as we have our own rooms and I borderline die when I sleep.

But it's quite shocking that you expect everyone to handle pain in the exact same manner as you. You're massively unreasonable.

5YearsLeft · 03/04/2024 12:50

Needanewname42 · 03/04/2024 12:37

@5yearsleft whereas someone else would walk in with half their hand missing, just moaning a bit and with a tea towel taped around it.
That was my 3 year old, top of his
finger off one scream and barely a tear.
Some suggested he was in shock but I don't know.

Even now If he's really hurt he just goes really quiet and won't tell you anything or where hurts.

Ah, I’m sorry. That must be so tough when he’s still so little, and a bit of a stress for you. He may have a high pain tolerance or he may have a perfectly normal pain tolerance but just not be a person who yells. Hopefully, he’ll be able to communicate a bit more about how and where it hurts as he gets older. He may still always be on the quiet side about pain, which is okay.