Would your partner wake you up shouting due to cramp?

And nobody warned me about that in the pregnancy advice books 🙈

Have you ever got the pregnancy leg cramps. Horrendous!! And yes I cried out because I thought my leg was going to fall off at one point! So yes YABU

This thread reminds me of the ones about loud sneezing.

"Can't you control it and hold it in or sneeze quietly? I do."

"No, it's physically impossible for me to stifle them."

"Attention seeker!"

Some people really seem to struggle wiith understanding that people are all different.

Surely nobody is 'considering' screaming and waking other people up. It's a natural reaction 🤷‍♀️

Either you have a higher pain threshold than many of the previous posters, or you haven't experienced cramp bad enough to understand.

When I get leg cramps, it is agonising. The pain can come in waves and the muscles are rock solid.

Whilst OP may not experience it that badly; for others it is absolutely awful so sympathy should be forthcoming :-)

Dh has done this to me a number of times. I have had cramp myself, so I know it is really painful, but being woken up from a deep sleep like that is a pretty shocking experience. If the person is awake when the cramp strikes, they should be able to control themselves and not shriek at the top of their voice, but if it happens while they are asleep, it may be too much to expect them to keep it quieter.

Incidentally, since dh has been drinking tonic water every day, he hasn’t had any incidents of cramp - I believe that the quinine in the tonic water may have something to do with it.

But when you have cramp really badly you cannot help screaming

I get it so bad I shout out in shock. I've trained myself to shout "Cramp! Cramp!"
so that family members know exactly what's going on and don't panic.

Yes during pregnancy. I would sit on the edge of the bath running the shower head over my calf. Awful. Never had them that bad since.

Oh yes! My DH sleeps through it, but it not unusual for me to rocket out of bed in the middle of the night, clutching my calf and/or thigh (when both go together its agony) shouting FUCK YOU FUCKING FUCK at the top of my voice, and walking round the room still clutching and vigorously rubbing the affected area. If I startle the dog, she joins in.

But DS still snoozes on, completely unaware.

Having seen the horrible movements of a leg in cramp I can totally understand why shouting at night and wakening someone up can happen.

Have you no empathy?

I woke my DH up in agony with cramps when pregnant.

It's awful pain.

If it's a leg cramp running cold water over the foot can really help.

Until last year I thought calf cramp was another level of pain, until I got camp in both hamstrings. Jesus Christ, enough said.

Calf cramp is literally the worst pain I've ever felt. Maybe some people get it worse than others, so you can't sympathise with your husband. I don't scream my head off or anything, but I'm not in control of myself and know I do make noise and swear. So no, I don't think people loudly reacting to a cramp is over the top.

(I realise that's pathetic and I'm lucky not to have had worse!)

I used to get calf cramp in the middle of the night when I was pregnant.

I ALWAYS wake up shouting "no no no no NO" for some reason, as if my calf is going hear and say "oh sorry I'll stop now".

And I'm shouting before I even wake up properly, so not doing it on purpose!

It proper scared the shit out of DH the first time.

Cramp can be anything from 'mild' to excruciating. Mild just needs stretching, excruciating can make you scream out in pain. If you're asleep when it happens, crying out is involuntary. Give him a break!

Can't you just believe your partner that it really hurt him? Seems a bit harsh to be asking on here.
And yes calf cramps can be agony. I got them a lot when pregnant and once woke up screaming so loud my DH thought I was in early labour!

Welcome to middle age.

Where you wake up in the middle of the night with a random, blinding pain and scream before you even realize you are doing it.

Your DH may or may not be overly dramatic. When I used to get calf cramps in pregnancy I woke ow Ow OWWing before I even opened my eyes it was so painful. Agree with a pp, about 7cm contraction level 😆

This story has always made me laugh... My cousin who was a week overdue, sat bolt upright one night shouting with cramp. Her dh, already on edge, shot up so quickly he fell out of bed and crashed into the wardrobe. She's still shouting, and he is shouting back asking what's wrong while scrabbling like a mad thing in the dark trying to get up. In his panic he pulled on the duvet he was half tangled in which knocked a pint glass of water off the bedside table which fell onto his face and knocked him silly. By this point, her mother who was staying over to be on call to care for dc1 is also shouting and running to see what all the commotion is. Everyone involved claims their blood pressure has never fully recovered 😂 (Baby was born about 4 days later).

Not everyone can help it, he may have a low pain tolerance. Be glad it's not you with the cramp I guess

Of course. I have read a fair few threads on here and thought 'they went to the GP with that?!' tend not to say it though, because people have varied tolerances.

Never wake me up for a cramp though or you're off my list for the zombie apocalypse 😉

I get this a lot even partner trying to flatten my toes is impossible. Only fix is boiling shower head on leg

Poor you and poor him! I’m not surprised he shouted, but it sounds like you both had a really bad night and if you’re dealing with a young child and you’re tired anyway I’m not surprised you were annoyed - we often get annoyed by things that aren’t unreasonable anyway, but especially when we’re tired, hungry, sick etc. I hope you can both find a way to get some rest!

I've not shouted out but when it's a prolonged cramping that just won't go I might have shrieked. Some cramp can be fixed by pulling your toes up or stretching. Others take ages to go and just when you relax your leg thinking it's over it strikes again.
I find magnesium spray really helpful, every night on the soles of your feet for around a week then atleast once a week regularly.

I have and have been in tears at times. Only way I can fix it is running my leg under boiling shower then knee high fluffy socks and electric blanket on max

I has it at the weekend and it woke me up , there's no one here for me to wake up but the way I shot up and yelped it probably would have woken anyone in the room up. Actually I did wake up the cat who was no use at all 😑

I cross-posted with @Blanketpolicy, whom I see has suffered similarly. Commiserations!