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Too soon to get engaged?

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SleepyHollowed84 · 02/04/2024 21:15

My younger sister is 28 and got out of a 7 year long relationship in December 2022. She met her new boyfriend (aged 25) on a dating app one year ago. As soon as they met they became exclusive and have just celebrated one year together.

They are talking about getting engaged next year.

We have just had a big argument because I have expressed concern that it is moving too fast and I was asking what's the rush? She argues that when you know it's right, it's right. I worry that they haven't known each other long enough to make that big decision, especially given it was only 3 months between a big break up and a new relationship starting.

AIBU to think knowing someone for 2 years is too quick to commit to marriage?

Or should I keep my nose out of it?

YABU - it's none of your business
YANBU - it seems to be moving quite fast

Grateful for any opinions. I don't want this to come between us but I only want what's best for her.

OP posts:
Itloggedmeoutagain · 02/04/2024 21:20

2 years is perfectly fine

Scarletttulips · 02/04/2024 21:18

I think you have a cheek telling a 28 year old what she can or can’t do. It’s none of your business.

Longer relationships don’t mean happier marriages!

Eloraa · 02/04/2024 21:18

II thought you were going to say 2 months. 2 years is fine!

Row23 · 02/04/2024 21:18

I’d say you know pretty quickly if you want to marry someone. 2 years is fine.

Cheeesus · 02/04/2024 21:17

Sounds average to me.