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Would you stay at a date for 4 hours if you weren't interested?

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Toomuch33 · 02/04/2024 20:05

He invited me out for drinks, the 4 hours flew by. He seemed a little nervous at times and at one point we looked at each other for a long while.
We had fantastic conversation, we laughed, we talked about deeper subjects, covered so many things.
The next day, nothing.
Ah well.. I was just thinking why stay 4 hours if you weren't feeling it? Like I'd stay 1 to be polite but not 4.
He's previously told a mutual friend he thinks I'm really attractive, and he's told me he likes really likes talking to me and we have a lot in common.
No major incompatibilities that I can see.

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Didimum · 02/04/2024 20:09

Yes, I’ve had hours long, fun dates and then been ghosted after. I don’t think it’s terribly unusual unfortunately.

Toomuch33 · 02/04/2024 20:09

totallybonkerswarning · 02/04/2024 20:07

The next day, nothing.

If it's just the next day maybe wait a little?

I got the polite, curt reply without suggestions of a future date :(

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Toomuch33 · 02/04/2024 20:08

judgementfail · 02/04/2024 20:07

I've done that. I stayed because we got on really well and had loads in common but I didn't find him attractive.

I can understand that. However he's said to a friend he does find me really attractive, that was around 2 months ago and my appearance hasn't changed since then. I don't have bad hygiene or anything.. it's odd but oh well.

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ThisNiftyMintCat · 02/04/2024 20:08

Haha no I wouldn't say 4 hours if not interested 😅. Maybe he's read one of those mens pick up books that says you have to wait ages before contacting the women etc. etc.

totallybonkerswarning · 02/04/2024 20:07

The next day, nothing.

If it's just the next day maybe wait a little?

totallybonkerswarning · 02/04/2024 20:07

The next day, nothing.

If it's just the next day maybe wait a little?

judgementfail · 02/04/2024 20:07

I've done that. I stayed because we got on really well and had loads in common but I didn't find him attractive.