To want To Work while DS rests after Op

I sympathise with you but my DS was 16 and had major kidney surgery. He was in hospital for 2 weeks and as I was a teacher it was impossible for me to take time off work. I visited him every day after school. However, as NCForQuestions suggests, I think you should think of taking sick leave yourself. I know I took two days off - it hit me that I was stressed when I discovered that I had left the car unlocked with the lights on overnight.

I would assume the parental leave would be unpaid though?

When does your leave allowance reset? Ours is in line with the financial year so just reset. We can also (with management consent) but additional days - would that be an option?
Hope your ds is feeling better soon.

As others have said at 16 you don’t need to be at his bedside he will be fine, completely understand you wanting to be there for him but he will be ok. I would go to work as you can’t afford anymore leave. Does he have a phone? You could always call him on your breaks to check in

Ah I feel for you but my employer wouldn’t allow this either. We can work from home but working in public is not allowed. No working from cafes etc.

youll be entitled to parental leave etc but it’s unlikely to be paid.

Hes 16. He Will cope. Can't his girlfriend or a couple of his mates go in to him.

Are you sure your 16yr old son actually wants you by his side all the time?

Was just coming to say this. I had my appendix out at 16 and it wasn't a keyhole job in those days it was a proper incision. Apart from accompanying me in the ambulance then having to get get two buses home, there just was no need to have a parent with me. I don't recall having any trouble eating or drinking and we were positively encouraged to get out of bed and walk about the following day after the anesthesia had worn off. The other patients were mostly older but perfectly good company. I did have a full time job at the time so maybe we were seen as more of an adult in those days. Certainly I had a couple of friends come and visit me but there was really no need to have my mother sitting by me.

Sick leave. You're exhausted, stressed and unable to think straight. Understandably. Take the week off sick with stress.

Not a joke, not sarcasm, sincere suggestion.

He's 16, he will be fine

You could ask to take the time and make time up - is this an option? When does your new holiday year start? Can you borrow some from next year?

Your boss is right that it’s inappropriate to work from the hospital.

All you need to do is get him to clarify that you can take these days as compassionate/carers/sick leave.

Or just go to work. He’s 16.

If he's recovering, then surely he needs to rest a lot .maybe you could leave work early and go then .or give up your lunch break. If you are not working tomorrow then that will be able to stay with him then

When DD fractured her elbow I was allowed nursing leave for a few days, her dad was SAHD and work knew that.

I've worked from my child's hospital bedside (with their knowledge) occasionally. The main barrier is issues with connectivity so I often haven't been able to, although they are happy to do so. I've also dialled in to (audio) meetings, but with the understanding that I'll hang up if a HCP comes in. My work is 99% just laptop based though.

This has only ever been when she's had a private room though, and calls are only in the bathroom and if convenient. My work is sensitive but I'm glad they are pragmatic about it. Often hospitals can be boring in the evenings, especially when a child is asleep, and do my view is I may as well work if I can.

16? He'll be fine, OP.

Surely you can take parental leave for at least 2 days ?
You may be surprised at how quickly he'll be discharged .. my son was home in 36 hrs after the same operation

Then work from work while he rests and you can be around if he needs anything

Are you sure your 16yr old son actually wants you by his side all the time?

What WiFi would you be using to enable you to work? I suspect secure access could be an issue from your managers perspective

however they have said no and to be blunt it’s not his problem you don’t want to take unpaid leave

could you asked for the next two days off then make up the time over the next few weeks

I sympathise but your boss knows that you will be not giving work your full attention. You’ve said it yourself you want to do the additional caring the nurses can’t do. What if you make mistakes with the accounts because you are distracted, that will presumably have an impact for the company.

Go to work. Ask the girlfriend and a couple of mates to visit him. He’ll be fine.

You should be able to take (unpaid) parental leave

Hope DS is better soon

You're being massively unreasonable to expect your employer to allow you to work from hospital

Ignore my first question, comprehension is not my thing today

How old is DS?

Your work may have a parental or compassionate leave policy you can use

YABU to expect to work from a hospital bedside, not only because it's not an appropriate work environment from your employers perspective but it's also not appropriate as you are a visitor at the hospital and as such can be asked to leave the area for any reason such as treatments etc. The fact your son is 16 not 2 makes this more so.

Your boss has been accommodating so far, youre choices are take the unpaid leave, or don't spend all day at hospital. The hospital isn't your workplace.