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To be pissed off that I can't get a doctor for my daughter?

84 replies

JennyBeanR · 02/04/2024 13:36

Just that really. Need to vent. Over the bank holiday weekend my daughter has developed what I suspect is an ear infection. Fever, off her food, and screaming in pain. She's non verbal so can't tell me exactly what is up but she seems to be pulling on her ears more than usual. We've kept her temperature at bay by alternating Calpol and nurofen but last night she was in so much pain, wailing for hours so I took her to A&E. She'd had meds before arriving so fever started to reduce. Triage didn't seem to give a crap and just kept asking her questions to which I repeatedly said she doesn't understand and can't answer...

Left A&E after 2 hours as she was becoming more distressed and I saw estimated wait was 6 hours (which would overlap with GP opening). Tried GP this morning and can't get through. Finally gave up and called 111, now waiting for a clinician to call back. Meanwhile my girl is lethargic, puffy faced, feverish, and still off her food. She vomited after waking today and is pretty much unable to sit up without crying. I'm on my own with her this week and feel so worried and stressed. She can't tell me what's wrong so naturally I keep worrying it's the worst possible thing and not the likely ear infection. Lack of sleep isn't helping.
So yea I'm pissed off at my local NHS at the moment. I know they work hard but this just feels ridiculous.

So AIBU to be completely pissed off at this poor service on behalf of my daughter?

OP posts:
Mayflower282 · 02/04/2024 13:45

Do you have a walk-in-center nearby? Yes nhs is on its knees right now.

The alternative is private gp appointment, near me they are about £45. I usually get seen within 30 mins of booking an appt.

Rosesanddaisies1 · 02/04/2024 13:44

You should have waited in A&E and called GP whilst you were there. Being rude about triage doesn’t help, it’s their job to ask questions. GP would always be busy today after the bank holiday. And yes it’s rubbish but unfortunately your experience is far from unique. Chose your vote wisely in the election…

baileybrosbuildingandloan · 02/04/2024 13:43

You should have stayed. And saying things like Triage doesn't give a crap doesn't help.

People actively dying would take priority, so even though I understand how hard it is for Mum to see their child in distress, you should have waited.

Comedycook · 02/04/2024 13:40

I think you should have stayed in a&e to be honest....I know it's hellish though. Hope your DD is better soon.

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 02/04/2024 13:40

Write to your MP and tell them how ridiculous it is becoming, but tbh 111 or a walk in centre could have helped over the weekend.

Hoplittlebunnyhophophopandstop · 02/04/2024 13:39

I agree you should have rang 111 earlier or stayed in A and E. I’m guessing your area doesn’t have minor injuries style units?

MumChp · 02/04/2024 13:39

You left A & E? I understand your problems but you dont get sorted by leaving.

Hope 111 helps you and your daughter feels better soon!

ChedderGorgeous · 02/04/2024 13:38

You should have just waited in A and E. You would have been seen there within the next 4 hrs or so and hopefully with treatment she wouldn't have got worse overnight.

LettersOfTheAlphabet · 02/04/2024 13:37

How old is dd? Does she attend special school? If so the school nursing team may be able to help?