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no good c**t

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Faiiry · 02/04/2024 00:15

That's what my bf kept saying over and over until i kicked him out tonight ( obviously about me )

Now he did have few beers and i was questioning our relationship.
He is often smelly so i point out lack of hygiene . So we haven't had sex for a while .

Anyways i feel very insulted, would you end relationship after being called " no good c'nt "

eww and TIA

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ALongHardWinter · 02/04/2024 00:59

I can't believe you really needed to ask!

Mmhmmn · 02/04/2024 00:50

Faiiry · 02/04/2024 00:29

nope but still managed to hurt my feelings.
he is a kind funny guy and this is first time i hear such language.

I just think if i forgive him it will become normal to him to call me " no good cunt "
didn't know i can spell it on here 🙈
i'm devastated

“I just think if i forgive him it will become normal to him to call me " no good cunt "

You are exactly right. He’s testing your boundaries for how much shit you will accept.

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Faiiry · 02/04/2024 00:45

stillplentyofjunkinthetrunk · 02/04/2024 00:32

I think it's a fairly good rule of thumb in situations like this to compare the behaviour to a random new flatmate. If a random new flatmate was treating you like this would you wish to continue to live with them - it would seem to me that the answer is a pretty clear no. And then ask yourself should a person you're in a relationship with be treating you better or worse than the level of basic courtesy you would expect from a random new flatshare?

no definitely not. Thank you for laying it out this way .

It's just i never was called " no good cunt "
so me thinks he kinda shot himself there as there is no coming back .

yuck 🤢

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Bringonthesunforthewashing · 02/04/2024 00:34

Ah, what a prince!….

Februaryfeels · 02/04/2024 00:32

You can spell
It out

I think the poor hygiene and the name calling show that you're well rid.

Don't let him back, you deserve better

stillplentyofjunkinthetrunk · 02/04/2024 00:32

I think it's a fairly good rule of thumb in situations like this to compare the behaviour to a random new flatmate. If a random new flatmate was treating you like this would you wish to continue to live with them - it would seem to me that the answer is a pretty clear no. And then ask yourself should a person you're in a relationship with be treating you better or worse than the level of basic courtesy you would expect from a random new flatshare?

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Faiiry · 02/04/2024 00:29

nope but still managed to hurt my feelings.
he is a kind funny guy and this is first time i hear such language.

I just think if i forgive him it will become normal to him to call me " no good cunt "
didn't know i can spell it on here 🙈
i'm devastated

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Mummame2222 · 02/04/2024 00:29

I’d end it for him bring smelly. What a turn off.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 02/04/2024 00:29

Yes I would definitely end the relationship. We can all says things we don't mean in the heat of the moment. DH and I have the occasional heated row which can escalate to the point of telling each other to fuck off, followed by apologies afterwards. There's just levels to these things, and your boyfriend is just really nasty. I couldn't stay with someone who spoke to me like that.

FedUpMumof10YO · 02/04/2024 00:29

Oh yes. 👋🏻

Banana1979 · 02/04/2024 00:29

He sounds disgusting both physically and mentally. Please don’t do this to yourself end it with him get some self-respect and don’t ever take him back.

majortryhard · 02/04/2024 00:27

Urghhh !! That's just so disrespectful! I hope that you find somebody that would never dream of being that gross to you - words hold power! And you deserve so much more than a smelly man with a gutter mouth.

Fraaahnces · 02/04/2024 00:22

He doesn’t sound like a pillar of society does he?

Mmhmmn · 02/04/2024 00:21

Yes. Do not let him crawl back. You do not want men in your life who even think about calling you a cunt.

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 02/04/2024 00:21

He calls you names and doesn't care about hygiene. He should have been long gone

StormingNorman · 02/04/2024 00:19

Yes. You did the right thing in standing up for yourself. His poor hygiene is also disrespectful to you. It is just a basic common courtesy.

Pomegranatecarnage · 02/04/2024 00:17

Yes, he sounds vile.

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