Why didn’t she insist on him taking her DD when he took their DS?
She’s not his mum. Why can’t he have enough sense to take a 7yo when his wife is having a massage. Why does he need to be instructed in such a basic way. If she wanted it doing she should have just nagged - omg she’s such a nag. Ffs
If he wanted to sabotage it then he wouldn’t have taken either child would he?
He didn’t just want to sabotage it. He actually did sabotage it. Leaving both kids would also be a dick move but at least the 9yo is old enough to be actually helpful in entertaining his sister and making sure she doesn’t fuck off somewhere during the massage.
DD insisted she wanted to stay with her mum and mum didn’t ask him to have her as well so didn’t have an issue with it at the time
7 you don’t get to “insist” in this situation, and I’d bet my house she was already pissed off when he started with “so you want to stay with mummy then. Ok”
She is coming across as the bad parent because she’s ignored him continually and clearly has form for it. What is she teaching her children by emotionally manipulating him in that way?
Shes PISSED OFF. She’s allowed to be. If she’s a shit mum he should have just said “you can’t have a massage, you’re a shit mum”. It’s irrelevant to the situation. She might have decorated their bedrooms with anthrax, he still fucked up her massage when she’s already ill and that’s what the thread is about. Her shitness as a mum or otherwise is irrelevant. He’s not saying she didn’t deserve a massage and that’s why it’s fucked up.
Particularly her son. She’s teaching her daughter that if you use the silent treatment as a weapon you can get your own way in life and that her son’s worth is below that of a woman and that he deserves to be mistreated if he makes a mistake.
Is she, aye. She should always be chatty and gay. She could just take some “mother’s little helper”. The more important lesson to learn is that mum doesn’t get a massage because dad is a drip, and we’ve all learned that.
That to me and many others is a far bigger crime than not taking the other child when he wasn’t even asked to.
He should have had to be asked. She was quiet on one car journey where she is disappointed and ill and had been shopping all day. This is not an actual crime.
In his OP he recognised his mistake and reflected that he could have done better
No didn’t. He just said his 7yo wanted to stay with her mum so he fucked off without her as there was nothing a grown man could do. Then he offers to rejoin and apparently quite long queue but the moment had gone by then.
OP will drag out her silent treatment for days in order to sabotage any days left that they have off together
You don’t know that AT ALL.
That is the appropriate use of the word sabotage I think you’ll find.
I don’t