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How would you manage if you lost your driving licence tomorrow?

244 replies

tomorrowisanotherdate · 01/04/2024 21:26

For example, vertigo is a common one, I have had several friends develop vertigo and lose their license,

You cannot be insured to drive within 6 months of a vertigo attack, and both friends had attacks out of the blue in their early 40s - one only ever had one serious attack and had her license back in about a year - the other has never since gone 6 month between attacks, and has sold her car now

So suppose you have a vertigo attack out of the blue tonight, and can't drive for 6 months, starting now, how would that impact on your life?

Am I Being unreasonable to think lives should be planned around possibly being in this contingency, when choosing homes, jobs schools etc?

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Jokl · 02/04/2024 09:32

I would be absolutely fucked. We live waaaay out in the sticks, DH works all the time so wouldn’t be able to chauffeur me about and there’s nothing within reasonable walking distance with a toddler 🤣

Tagyoureit · 02/04/2024 09:30

It would be a complete pain in the arse but the school run is walkable, just would take about 40-50 minutes instead of 15 in the car.
Shopping would have to be delivered.
And I'd have to put up with my dh's driving on days out 🤦‍♀️
But things like getting the kids to cubs, swimming etc would be such a pain, that I don't want to even think about it 😬

KimberleyClark · 02/04/2024 09:30

I’d manage fine I think. I live fairly centrally in a city. Shops in easy walking distance where I can get the essentials as well as good public transport.

tomorrowisanotherdate · 02/04/2024 09:29

I think people are misunderstanding me. I am not saying don't drive, don't take jobs that require driving, don't live in places where driving is necessary.

I am just saying shouldn't people have a plan B in case they do lose their license ? Because it could happen to any of you today.

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tomorrowisanotherdate · 02/04/2024 09:27

aroalfks · 02/04/2024 08:30

vertigo is a common one

Your definition of common is very different to mine. Got some stats to demonstrate how regular this is? I've never heard of anyone getting it!! Only people I know who have lost licences had strokes in much older age.

well, you only have to read this thread to see how many people on here get severe vertigo!

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tomorrowisanotherdate · 02/04/2024 09:26

fashionqueen1183 · 02/04/2024 08:33

Same I did the epley manoeuvre on myself and got some tablets from the dr for sickness and that was it. No one mentioned anything about driving. Plus with BPPV once the crystals are back in the right place in your ear you’re ok.

That is often not true, if the crystals go straight back in, they often come straight back out again. What is more common is for them to gradually resettle, and for attacks to happen sporadically while they do. And the Epley manoeuvre can be great, but it has to be done at the right time and in the right direction. If you are not completely clear which side is affected, and you do it in the wrong direction, then symptoms double rather than decrease.

Again, declaration is your responsibility. Not anyone elses. And if you have not been assessed as safe to drive, then you are driving with no insurance

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Hedgerow2 · 02/04/2024 09:22

peakygold · 02/04/2024 08:26

How would anyone know your licence had been revoked? I have been stopped once for speeding (34mph in a 30mph zone) in my 40 years of driving. He did let me off when I mentioned my profession, but I did later consider what it would mean to me if I lost my licence; the answer is, absolutely nothing. I would carry on driving. Seriously, if Katie Price can continually break the law on the road, so can the rest of us.

You might be stopped again for any number of reasons and asked to show your licence. If you're in an accident and your medical records are checked your insurance may be invalidated.

Potentialmadcatlady · 02/04/2024 08:56

peakygold · 02/04/2024 08:26

How would anyone know your licence had been revoked? I have been stopped once for speeding (34mph in a 30mph zone) in my 40 years of driving. He did let me off when I mentioned my profession, but I did later consider what it would mean to me if I lost my licence; the answer is, absolutely nothing. I would carry on driving. Seriously, if Katie Price can continually break the law on the road, so can the rest of us.

You would have no insurance for a start. And I wouldn’t hold yourself up to Katie Prices standards if you were any sort of decent human being. I had a friend whose family was wiped out by a driver who had been told not to drive on medical grounds, including his unborn child.

EnterFunnyNameHere · 02/04/2024 08:53

I'd be OK so long as I could still bike just about, assuming the local community bus (which goes to the next village up) keeps its funding. If that stopped I'd struggle but be OK for basics (can work from home) but it wouldn't be fun.

Given how shit public transport provision is in many areas of the UK, its not realistic to plan your life around this happening necessarily! Is it really a good call to live in a shitty bedsit in the city when you could be in a nice 3bed with a garden somewhere more rural, just in case you suddenly are unable to drive?

ClonedSquare · 02/04/2024 08:45

I only learned to drive last year, so I'd be fine and my life would just be less convenient. We live semi-rurally but have a train station on the doorstep and have always had our shopping delivered. Once my son is grown up, losing my license wouldn't really inconvenience me at all, and if I lost it right now it would mostly be fine just things would take longer.

TeaNotCoffee55 · 02/04/2024 08:34

I'd be fine but my children would be lost. Both v sporty and we are in a complicated roster of lifts for training and competitions, some of which are inter County. I can get public transport to work but I'd be completely reliant on others for them and I'd hate it. Im the only driver in the house

fashionqueen1183 · 02/04/2024 08:33

BabyEmber · 01/04/2024 21:35

I had vertigo - BPPV and was never told not to drive Confused

Same I did the epley manoeuvre on myself and got some tablets from the dr for sickness and that was it. No one mentioned anything about driving. Plus with BPPV once the crystals are back in the right place in your ear you’re ok.

Rosesanddaisies1 · 02/04/2024 08:32

id be fine, we’ve chosen a lifestyle which isn’t car reliant, for environmental reasons.

aroalfks · 02/04/2024 08:30

vertigo is a common one

Your definition of common is very different to mine. Got some stats to demonstrate how regular this is? I've never heard of anyone getting it!! Only people I know who have lost licences had strokes in much older age.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 02/04/2024 08:30

It’d occasionally be a nuisance*, but generally I’d be OK, we have very good public transport which I use a lot anyway.

*E.g like the time I needed to take 8 litres of homemade soup 60 miles, for the Gdcs’ school Christmas fair!

CosmosQueen · 02/04/2024 08:30

I’d have to move, very little public transport here and I am 2 miles from the village, 8 miles from a supermarket.

peakygold · 02/04/2024 08:26

How would anyone know your licence had been revoked? I have been stopped once for speeding (34mph in a 30mph zone) in my 40 years of driving. He did let me off when I mentioned my profession, but I did later consider what it would mean to me if I lost my licence; the answer is, absolutely nothing. I would carry on driving. Seriously, if Katie Price can continually break the law on the road, so can the rest of us.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 02/04/2024 08:21

Years ago my new child minder had to change her epilepsy meds, which resulted in the first minor episode she had in years. So no driving with two under two year olds. Luckily she lived in a city renowned at the time for cheap excellent buses. Downside, she lived at the bottom of one of the hills the city is also renowned for. She joked that her epilepsy meant that she lost weight and was fit as a butchers dog.

Dox9 · 02/04/2024 07:56

I would be fine. I didnt drive until my 30s and have specifically chosen to live in a place where I don't need a car at all with 24/7 public transport, shops and parks nearby. I would miss visiting my favourite garden centre though.

Asuitablecat · 02/04/2024 07:42

I'd be screwed.

Work 17 miles away, which takes about 35 minutes by car and 2 hours by public transport (20 minute walk to train. Hope train is actually running today. Change halfway. 20 minute walk other side to work).

I'd also have been screwed in my old work, which was about a 20 minute drive away, but no trains and sporadic buses.

I don't live rurally, just shit public transport.

fishonabicycle · 02/04/2024 07:10

It would be very difficult. I live in a rural area, no public transport. I could get to work by walking 1.7 miles each day down a very narrow potholed country lane to the village where the school bus stops. There is a small village shop/post office there too. Other than that, stuck in the sticks!

Coconutter24 · 02/04/2024 06:42

“Am I Being unreasonable to think lives should be planned around possibly being in this contingency, when choosing homes, jobs schools etc?”

Yes that’s unreasonable and unrealistic. My job involves driving, I used to work in retail store based but this opportunity came up, it’s more money, flexibility and gives me a better quality of life….. should I of not gone for this job incase in the future I become unwell?

fieldsofbutterflies · 02/04/2024 06:21

Honestly, I'd be fucked. I'd have to close my business. DH would be similarly fucked if he lost his.

BobnLen · 02/04/2024 06:16

It's not so bad if you are a couple and one can still drive, if you are a completely non driving household there is other stuff to consider like going to the recycling centre, holidays etc. If DH couldn't drive our caravan would have to go, there is no way on earth I could tow that and enjoy the holiday.

Londonnight · 02/04/2024 05:56

I wouldn't be able to get to work. Public transport here is dire, and the last bus to get home to my village is 6 pm [ one an hour, if they run at all ], and I don't finish work until gone 7. No bus service on Sunday's or bank holidays, and I work these days.
Work is too far to cycle, and dangerous on rural, unlit roads. So, I'd be stuffed!