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How would you manage if you lost your driving licence tomorrow?

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tomorrowisanotherdate · 01/04/2024 21:26

For example, vertigo is a common one, I have had several friends develop vertigo and lose their license,

You cannot be insured to drive within 6 months of a vertigo attack, and both friends had attacks out of the blue in their early 40s - one only ever had one serious attack and had her license back in about a year - the other has never since gone 6 month between attacks, and has sold her car now

So suppose you have a vertigo attack out of the blue tonight, and can't drive for 6 months, starting now, how would that impact on your life?

Am I Being unreasonable to think lives should be planned around possibly being in this contingency, when choosing homes, jobs schools etc?

OP posts:
Sharptonguedwoman · 03/04/2024 08:13

Kalevala · 02/04/2024 09:42

Is ownership recorded or only registered keeper? I could easily transfer that.

Sorry, I can't remember. It was a few years ago. DVLA website or insurer might be able to help.

SunshinDay · 03/04/2024 08:04

I would manage, I live close to many different shops and a train station. For work and collecting dc from the schools I would buy electric bikes and scooter etc.
I absolutely adore my car! I would struggle losing that freedom esp as I was a late driver anyway.

ColumboTheBestDetective · 03/04/2024 07:54

BabyEmber · 01/04/2024 21:35

I had vertigo - BPPV and was never told not to drive Confused

Same for my mum - in fact she was better and had fewer symptoms if she was driving! Being a passenger made her vertigo worse! But at no stage did GP say not to drive... and it was 5 months before she felt totally better after her worst attack!

saffronflower · 03/04/2024 06:27

Boutonnière · 02/04/2024 09:50

Same here - woke up with BPPV ( didn’t know that was what it was at that point) was concerned as was about to start a course, managed to get a GP appointment - DH drove me there. GP tested, diagnosed, said it might go off during the day, if not to come back and they would perform a manoeuvre.

Googled, found very helpful YouTubes of Epley manoeuvre , performed it on myself the next day ( felt too rubbish the first) and - voila, all fine. Didn’t need to drive that week anyway - great buses.

GP didn’t mention reporting and didn’t occur to me as it was obviously a short term condition that got fixed when the crystals got back in position.

What exactly to you mean by ‘ assessed’, OP ? I assume a GP correctly diagnosing a condition and saying it wouid be short term is an assessment?

Same thing happened to me in 2013. Woke up with vertigo. GP did a home visit, told me it was temporary- gave me meds for it (travel sickness tablets). Obv didnt drive until a couple weeks later when it had gone completely. Noone ever mentioned informing the DVLA and it didnt occur to me. Has never happened since thankfully, and it's been 11 years. I also did the epley manoeuvre which seemed to help.

NotFastButFurious · 03/04/2024 06:16

Asuitablecat · 02/04/2024 11:37

It would be interesting to see where everyone on this thread lives. I'm amazed that so many people can cope without a car. It's doable round here, I suppose, but only if you are happy to work in a low paying job. For anything decent, you generally have to travel across the border, which, unless it's in Chester, isn't that easy without a car.

It would be great to have a life where I didn't need a car (I'd be better off without having to pay petrol), but until I retire and don't need to travel to work, it can't happen.

I live in a major city - work is just over 2 miles away, there’s 2 supermarkets within 1 mile and another a bit further away where there’s also a big retail park. Plus small local shops including a chemist within walking distance. The gym is half a mile away.
there’s 6 bus routes pass the end of my road, 2 of which take you to the main hospital and 4 get me to work and the city centre. I can be at a mainline train station in 20minutes and to the airport takes about an hour by public transport (compared to 20-30min driving).

Justletmelogon · 02/04/2024 22:34

Kalevala · 02/04/2024 21:09

How do you just 'move to a city'? How would you secure social housing or an affordable private rental on a low income? It's hardly a simple thing!

I can't see moving a rural business into a town would work some how!

Kalevala · 02/04/2024 21:09

SquirrelMeze · 02/04/2024 20:45

Unless you've got a different disability which prevents walking far (in which case you have my sympathies) you'd manage. That might mean moving to a city or adjusting work, or not having the social life you'd exactly like, but you'd manage. There really isn't any other option.

How do you just 'move to a city'? How would you secure social housing or an affordable private rental on a low income? It's hardly a simple thing!

SquirrelMeze · 02/04/2024 20:45

Unless you've got a different disability which prevents walking far (in which case you have my sympathies) you'd manage. That might mean moving to a city or adjusting work, or not having the social life you'd exactly like, but you'd manage. There really isn't any other option.

Dacadactyl · 02/04/2024 19:31

I'd be fine at this stage. It'd be inconvenient for sure, but I'd manage.

I could get the bus to and from work and get door to door by bus in half an hour (or walk...its 45 mins each way to walk it)

It'd be annoying when taking the kids to activities, but eldest could make her own way and DS activities generally in walking distance.

Kids are high school and college aged so would be fine really. If they were younger and my working hours were different, It'd be a nightmare to manage.

orangeleopard · 02/04/2024 19:23

I’m disabled and cannot walk far so I’d be screwed. I wouldn’t be able to get my child to school, go to my drs or hospital appointments. I literally wouldn’t be able to leave my flat unless I had someone else drive me

Oblomov24 · 02/04/2024 19:18

Lost my licence when dvla wrongly applied a new EU rule that wasn't due to come into affect for another 9 months, had to fight dvla by phoning daily, and hiring a driving lawyer. Got it back. Meantime access to work provided a cab to work. Hated it, hated having my independence removed.

tomorrowisanotherdate · 02/04/2024 19:17

fashionqueen1183 · 02/04/2024 19:11

You can do it on yourself. As myself and others have done.. that’s the whole point of it - it can work. Otherwise it wouldn’t be a recognised thing to do.

Epley manouvre is helpful sometimes. If it is a mild attack. If you are only affected on one side, and if you know which side that is.

So what you are saying is you happen to have had a mild enough attack and only on one clear side, for the manoeuvre to work on you, not that you "sorted out" vertigo for yourself, but that you were lucky enough to have had a mild and easily managed attack.

This isn't anything you did, this is just luck, that time. Net time you might not be so lucky, in fact the next attack is likely to be a reactive attack, and the Epley won't work, because it is your bodies response to the crystals resettling, rather than to crystals getting out of position.

OP posts:
fashionqueen1183 · 02/04/2024 19:11

tomorrowisanotherdate · 02/04/2024 18:39

as I have said, if you "googled" and performed the Eply manoeuvre without a doctor confirming for you which side was affected, then you were risking making it a lot worse. And you can't "sort it yourself". What you mean is you had a very brief, mild attack and it went away relatively quickly. it wasn't anything you did. You might not be so lucky next time

You can do it on yourself. As myself and others have done.. that’s the whole point of it - it can work. Otherwise it wouldn’t be a recognised thing to do.

DiscoBeat · 02/04/2024 18:46

I would have to rely on DH, as he would have to rely on me if the situation were reversed.

tomorrowisanotherdate · 02/04/2024 18:39

fashionqueen1183 · 02/04/2024 15:44

Yup same here! Dr said maybe it was an ear infection that had gone away 🤦🏼‍♀️ gave me anti dizziness and sickness tablets
Same as you, googled and sorted it myself

as I have said, if you "googled" and performed the Eply manoeuvre without a doctor confirming for you which side was affected, then you were risking making it a lot worse. And you can't "sort it yourself". What you mean is you had a very brief, mild attack and it went away relatively quickly. it wasn't anything you did. You might not be so lucky next time

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tomorrowisanotherdate · 02/04/2024 18:35

Boutonnière · 02/04/2024 12:43

The GP who tested me told me which side. Did the Epley manoeuvre not work for you ?

Good, I am glad you were told which side! Epley manoeuvre has sometimes helped a bit for me, but it can't be used if you are affected on both sides, or if it isn't clear which side is affected, and if it is as severe or long lasting attack then the Epley manoeuvre doesn't make a lot of difference. Plus at different stages of recovery it can be counter productive. Some attacks are actually not due to deterioration, but to improvement ( I mean over several months) and your brain struggling to adjust to the improvement, so Epley manoeuvre is not suitable then

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SquirrelMeze · 02/04/2024 16:55

Justletmelogon · 01/04/2024 21:42

I've had caesareans and unable to drive for 6 weeks at a time. Drove me bonkers. We are rural with no public transport whatsoever.
Dh working full time I was literally cooped up all day. I would die if I didn't have a car. I spend hours a week ferrying kids to school, clubs, work, doing shopping etc. I hate driving but it's a necessity.

You wouldn't die, you total drama queen. I've got the obvious neurological condition which prevents driving and I'm still alive, despite handing over my licence.

TabbyM · 02/04/2024 16:37

Absolutely no difference - I have one but don't drive, usually walk / get a bus or train

tobee · 02/04/2024 15:46

I absolutely love driving, love, love the freedom. However, if it really was only 6 months, I'd be absolutely fine.

Live 10 minutes from the tube, 20 minutes from town, always take the tube to centre if London. Dh can drive.

My elderly parents live an hour away but trains are still doable.

Would be good for me to walk more.

fashionqueen1183 · 02/04/2024 15:44

Boutonnière · 02/04/2024 09:50

Same here - woke up with BPPV ( didn’t know that was what it was at that point) was concerned as was about to start a course, managed to get a GP appointment - DH drove me there. GP tested, diagnosed, said it might go off during the day, if not to come back and they would perform a manoeuvre.

Googled, found very helpful YouTubes of Epley manoeuvre , performed it on myself the next day ( felt too rubbish the first) and - voila, all fine. Didn’t need to drive that week anyway - great buses.

GP didn’t mention reporting and didn’t occur to me as it was obviously a short term condition that got fixed when the crystals got back in position.

What exactly to you mean by ‘ assessed’, OP ? I assume a GP correctly diagnosing a condition and saying it wouid be short term is an assessment?

Yup same here! Dr said maybe it was an ear infection that had gone away 🤦🏼‍♀️ gave me anti dizziness and sickness tablets
Same as you, googled and sorted it myself

Kalevala · 02/04/2024 14:48

Allfur · 02/04/2024 13:33

Whats money got to do with it? What about a bike

That would be unsafe for me to get to work if it was dark or other poor driving conditions.

NewName24 · 02/04/2024 14:27

Allfur · 02/04/2024 13:33

Whats money got to do with it? What about a bike

Really, are you so obtuse you can't see that a bike is neither possible for everyone, nor possible for every journey, nor practical or enjoyable for many journeys.
Who wants to arrive at a wedding having cycled 15miles to get there in all their finery ? Hmm

LakieLady · 02/04/2024 14:16

I'd have to give up work (essential car user), sell my house and move.

We have a half-hourly bus service into town, but it doesn't start until 9.15 and the last one home is around 5.45. I live at the top of a big hill, and have arthritis, so there's no way I could walk the 3 miles into town, or to the station, and back. Because it's a small town with a very limited range of shops, I often have to travel to a bigger town even for quite basic things, like underwear or skincare, so two buses or bus and train by public transport.

I also have to see clients in a predominantly rural county and appointments can be 50 miles away. Some of my tribunals are in the next county but one. The 70 mile train journey is 90 minutes minimum, not including getting to/from the station, because all the trains stop at every tiny station in between (usually a bit over an hour by car). I only work 6 hours max per day, so the train ride alone would be half my day gone.

BobnLen · 02/04/2024 14:01

We mainly use or bikes for leisure so not in the main traffic going to the supermarket which I wouldn't want to do, rain or shine

MumChp · 02/04/2024 14:00

Fine. We don't have a car. A lot of people don't.
We bike, walk and use public transportation.

Now and then rents a car for a day out - but no harm done if not possible.