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To report this? What would happen?

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inbedalready · 01/04/2024 21:19

I work with children in a school, and within earshot of pupils, a colleague called her husband a f*** c...

I was shocked, horrified, don't know what to do. She shouted it 3 times. I don't think kids heard. What will happen to her if I report it?

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Skillest · 02/04/2024 00:09

Very glad you don't hear the language used in our head of year office...

Hankunamatata · 02/04/2024 00:06

Yeah yabu. They were in a room bythemsleves and you overheard a argument. Get a grip. Even more so if this is High School

PropertyManager · 01/04/2024 23:58

Most likely nothing, people swear, at my school nothing would happen.

I have been known to enter my A Level classes (who are all on their phones) with the wake up call "Come on you lazy fuckers lets do some work..."

Overheard the headmaster telling a student he was a "fucking joke" the other day, and he ain't wrong, rare he swears so it must have been deserved.

WearyAuldWumman · 01/04/2024 23:38

JMSA · 01/04/2024 21:27

I work in a secondary school. I'm not sure I'd report it if the kids didn't hear. However I'd make it clear to her that I had heard and that it shouldn't happen again.
I hope your colleague is ok. That's the kind of behaviour that could precede a breakdown Sad

Agreed.

The colleague is obviously stressed. The kids didn't hear. A quiet word is all that's needed at this stage.

AliceOlive · 01/04/2024 23:36

That sounds really upsetting. Very complicated given their personal relationship.

I think you should speak to her about it, in a way that lets her know you heard her, and then ask if everything is ok.

You said he was calm, but you only know he was quiet, right?

I think I’d only report this if I felt one of them was being abused. That’s hard to tell over the internet.

StormySpanielz · 01/04/2024 23:34

I would think you were the f* *c… if you reported me for this. They were’t in a room with anyone else and weren’t expecting to be eavesdropped on. No one heard but you apparently

SayFuckTheLemonsAndBail · 01/04/2024 23:31

I'd mind my own business. Unless she was making a hobby of it, I don't see any value in reporting it. You don't know what triggered it. You could make a bad time worse for her.

ChedderGorgeous · 01/04/2024 23:27

Newsenmum · 01/04/2024 21:24

What were the exact words? We can swear on here right?

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"Flaming cad"

Noseybookworm · 01/04/2024 23:27

Don't report her. Have a quiet word with her privately and tell her what you heard. Ask her if she's ok. She may be going through something awful so don't kick her while she's down!

StasisMom · 01/04/2024 22:43

If in doubt, do nothing. She shouldn't have said it (within earshot), yes it's unprofessional but I would leave it.

PaperDoIIs · 01/04/2024 22:35

Flipping Blunt

Frikking Front

Frolicking Grunt

PaperDoIIs · 01/04/2024 22:34

inbedalready · 01/04/2024 21:19

I work with children in a school, and within earshot of pupils, a colleague called her husband a f*** c...

I was shocked, horrified, don't know what to do. She shouted it 3 times. I don't think kids heard. What will happen to her if I report it?

Report her for what exactly?

PaperDoIIs · 01/04/2024 22:33

cherish123 · 01/04/2024 22:13

I wouldn't. She may be fired. Everyone makes mistakes. Other colleagues will nit be supportive or your telling on her.

No one will get fired (unless they're really crap and the head just needs an excuse, and even then there's a process to follow), for having a private argument with their husband, in a separate room that was over head by a colleague and no kids.

She could even turn around and say it never happened and OP is lying her head off or that she said "frikking hunt!" because her husband is an avid hunter and going on a frikking hunt. Where's the proof?

Axx · 01/04/2024 22:32

Mind your own business then.

Mammyloveswine · 01/04/2024 22:28

Unusual given today is a bank holiday and schools are on Easter hols...

Cabincrew1 · 01/04/2024 22:27

Unless she swore at the kids or at you I’d butt out and mind my business.

You sound overly dramatic at best, at worst a snitch.

Onemorefortheroad · 01/04/2024 22:19

Urgh. So you don't think anyone else besides you actually heard them? absolutely don't report this. I'd be far more inclined to check that my colleague was okay first - you have no idea what's going on in other people's lives.

Bluepetergarden · 01/04/2024 22:13

Don’t be a busybody

cherish123 · 01/04/2024 22:13

I wouldn't. She may be fired. Everyone makes mistakes. Other colleagues will nit be supportive or your telling on her.

Floatinginatincan · 01/04/2024 22:13

Nope, I wouldn't report. I'd go about my day & mind my business

Original poster
inbedalready · 01/04/2024 22:12

Thanks for the advice. It's highly unprofessional with kids around. And does sound like she has a lot going on to have this outburst.

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inbedalready · 01/04/2024 22:10

This happened on the last day of term.

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RickyGervaislovesdogs · 01/04/2024 22:09

“Or even slip a note in her pigeon box (if those still exist) anonymously, saying your sorry, but you overheard quite an aggressive argument with her husband, and wanted to let her know, not to embarrass her, but that to remind her the walls are thin. I wouldn't be running off to report a singular event, no.”

^ This

Axx · 01/04/2024 22:07

When did this happen?

BandyMcBandface · 01/04/2024 22:06

I’m sure she won’t have used any language the kids are unfamiliar with!

I wouldn’t be reporting this.