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To think it won’t be hard to conceive?

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Wedonttalkaboutprunesno · 01/04/2024 16:52

Baby #3?

but I’m approaching that age where fertility starts it’s decline but I do have a high AMH.

our first were 7 months and first month so would it stand to reason that #3 would be the same?

my age worries me a bit but I spoke to my GP and they were quite dismissive of any concerns, and said if I’ve conceived 2 naturally there’s no reason to think a third would be challenging

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StarlightLime · 01/04/2024 19:46

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:39

It wasn’t ‘another area entirely’ though was it.

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Wasn't it? Op said she went to the gp for "another reason", with an unrelated query.

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:44

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:42

No, but she’s whittering on here despite already having her question answered … so what is the point in even asking if she wasn’t going to listen?

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Maybe she’s still here because according to you the GP ‘fobbed her off’? Who knows.

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:44

Wedonttalkaboutprunesno · 01/04/2024 19:42

I had a follow up for a small surgery I had on my cervix, i was asked about contraception i declined and the question felt appropriate

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Doesn’t the fact that you were being asked about contraception kind of show that you are expected to be able to conceive? Again, what did you actually want the GP to do or say?

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Wedonttalkaboutprunesno · 01/04/2024 19:42

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:32

But there is nothing to help - she wasn’t even trying for a baby. They don’t get involved for at least a year.

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I had a follow up for a small surgery I had on my cervix, i was asked about contraception i declined and the question felt appropriate

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Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:42

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:41

She isn’t still wittering on about it to the GP though is she? She asked the GP a question, GP answered it. I’m sure the NHS will survive it this time.

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No, but she’s whittering on here despite already having her question answered … so what is the point in even asking if she wasn’t going to listen?

TheSnowyOwl · 01/04/2024 19:41

hangingonfordearlife1 · 01/04/2024 19:29

no way of knowing.
i'm 40 and get pregnant at the drop of a hat.

So do you miscarry or abort to know that at 40, you continually get pregnant straight away?

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:41

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:39

But the GP told the OP this and she’s still whittering on about it, when in actual fact she was just wasting the GPS time.

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She isn’t still wittering on about it to the GP though is she? She asked the GP a question, GP answered it. I’m sure the NHS will survive it this time.

AgentJohnson · 01/04/2024 19:41

There are no guarantees. If you want a third at your age, I suggest you get on with it. If you want to piss money away on tests that will probably be inconclusive, then Google fertility clinics in your area.

Until you try, no one can tell you if you will have any issues, especially when you have had no issues previously. I’m failing to understand why you are making such a big deal about this when you aren’t even TTC.

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:39

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:33

I no that but OP clearly didn’t.

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But the GP told the OP this and she’s still whittering on about it, when in actual fact she was just wasting the GPS time.

TMess · 01/04/2024 19:39

I think genetics play a role as well. My mother carried healthy, easily conceived pregnancies well into her mid-forties, as did my sister, so I would assume myself to have a pretty good chance of that as well were I to continue having babies. Conception isn’t as much the concern (from what I understand) as egg quality and odds of a healthy term pregnancy. In your shoes I would not be prematurely worried.

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:39

StarlightLime · 01/04/2024 19:38

No, most GPs are not fine with you veering off the subject and getting into another area entirely.
Most of them have a ten minute slot per patient, and will only discuss whatever the original problem was.
Understandably.

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It wasn’t ‘another area entirely’ though was it.

StarlightLime · 01/04/2024 19:38

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:29

GP could have advised her to make an appointment to discuss it if they thought it would help. Plenty of people ask another quick question while at a GP appointment, the GP isn’t a robot they are fine with this. I no OPs post has been quite goady but asking the GP isn’t really the issue here.

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No, most GPs are not fine with you veering off the subject and getting into another area entirely.
Most of them have a ten minute slot per patient, and will only discuss whatever the original problem was.
Understandably.

SlowlyLurking · 01/04/2024 19:35

I would assume so but that's all anyone can do. If you're ovulating and your cycle is regular, you've got a great chance every month especially since you know there aren't other issues at play.

I wouldn't go for tests unless you've had a year of no luck.

ZaraEarrings · 01/04/2024 19:33

I don’t think I understand your question.

You had no problems conceiving twice before, and you’re now at an age where fertility starts to decline? Then I’d hazard a guess that you’ll have no trouble conceiving this time, either

I conceived my third the first month we tried.

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:33

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:32

But there is nothing to help - she wasn’t even trying for a baby. They don’t get involved for at least a year.

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I no that but OP clearly didn’t.

PoppingTomorrow · 01/04/2024 19:32

Wedonttalkaboutprunesno · 01/04/2024 18:57

35, I said in my OP the age when fertility starts to decline

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That's deliberately obtuse.

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:32

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:29

GP could have advised her to make an appointment to discuss it if they thought it would help. Plenty of people ask another quick question while at a GP appointment, the GP isn’t a robot they are fine with this. I no OPs post has been quite goady but asking the GP isn’t really the issue here.

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But there is nothing to help - she wasn’t even trying for a baby. They don’t get involved for at least a year.

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:30

hangingonfordearlife1 · 01/04/2024 19:29

no way of knowing.
i'm 40 and get pregnant at the drop of a hat.

How frequently do you get pregnant?

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:30

Wedonttalkaboutprunesno · 01/04/2024 19:25

i guess if it’s actually ‘easy’ if you’ve conceived and carried to term a few times before even when considering age

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Nobody bloody knows, do they?

I conceived easily but had loads of miscarriages before my eldest (all through my 20s), then started ttc for my second in my early 30s and I didn’t conceive for a year. I contacted the GP, then conceived 4 times in 10 months without treatment, stopped ttc while waiting for IVF, and then conceived without even trying two months later.

hangingonfordearlife1 · 01/04/2024 19:29

no way of knowing.
i'm 40 and get pregnant at the drop of a hat.

dreadisabaddog · 01/04/2024 19:29

You just don't know I'm afraid. I fell pregnant first time with my first, had a couple of losses conceived quickly and then my second successful pregnancy took almost 3 years to conceive (starting at 32) It's such a luck of the draw situation

TeaKitten · 01/04/2024 19:29

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:27

You can’t go in with - for example an ingrown hair on your labia - and ask about conception. Again, what did you really expect the GP to say?

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GP could have advised her to make an appointment to discuss it if they thought it would help. Plenty of people ask another quick question while at a GP appointment, the GP isn’t a robot they are fine with this. I no OPs post has been quite goady but asking the GP isn’t really the issue here.

Molly4689 · 01/04/2024 19:29

I've recently turned 36 and have just had a BFP the first month of trying for baby number 2. I've had two previous pregnancies - both conceived the first month of trying, my first ended in miscarriage.

I don't think YABU to think you'll conceive ok with baby number 3 but nobody really knows as there are so many factors at play. Age really isn't the biggest one at 35 for most people!

All my friends have had no problem conceiving in their mid - late 30's, on the other hand in my younger sisters (now very early 30's) friendship group 4 have needed IVF - 3 have had babies.

Good luck if you decide to TTC OP!

YesIminbedsowhat · 01/04/2024 19:28

Mmm secondary infertility is a real thing. No one can honestly predict. We can guess using the law of averages, and basing our advice on our own experiences but that's all.

So - conceived first baby fine. Then four years of secondary infertility, combined with recurrent miscarriages when I did get pregnant. Gave birth to dc2 at 35.

Notmyuser · 01/04/2024 19:27

Wedonttalkaboutprunesno · 01/04/2024 19:23

It was an unrelated query but in the general vicinity to make it relevant

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You can’t go in with - for example an ingrown hair on your labia - and ask about conception. Again, what did you really expect the GP to say?