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AIBU to be depressed by the state of my house

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Myhouseischaoss · 01/04/2024 15:25

I know everyone will pile on to call me a slob but I need time or money to sort it. I have neither and it’s really getting me down.

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Mmhmmn · 01/04/2024 15:48

Mumof2NDers · 01/04/2024 15:35

When you’re tidying a room are you just moving things about? My house has started getting on top of me so I’m picking off a room at a time. I started on the kitchen yesterday but instead of tidying everything away I’ve sorted through stuff and skipped loads. I’ve decided the only way I’m going to keep on top of things is to get rid of stuff I don’t need. And yes I’ve been watching sort your life out with Stacey Solomon 😀

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This. You just need to spend what free time you do have chucking out stuff you don’t need (not moving it from one place to another).If it’s too good to chuck out, some charities will come and collect bigger items. Hint: We actually “need” very little of the crap we accumulate 🙂

CharlotteCollinsneeLucas · 01/04/2024 15:44

Sometimes life gets like that. Be kind to yourself.

I think the decluttering suggestion is good. Do a little every day and it can't get back to how it was because you're removing it from the house.

mypart · 01/04/2024 15:42

Myhouseischaoss · 01/04/2024 15:28

Just untidy and dirty. Very very untidy. So can’t really clean. I keep trying but as soon as I sort one room it’s back to the original state the next day.

who makes the mess after you’ve tidied up

mypart · 01/04/2024 15:41

Just untidy and dirty.

there is nothing “just” about your home being untidy and dirty

do you have children op?

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Mumof2NDers · 01/04/2024 15:35

Myhouseischaoss · 01/04/2024 15:28

Just untidy and dirty. Very very untidy. So can’t really clean. I keep trying but as soon as I sort one room it’s back to the original state the next day.

When you’re tidying a room are you just moving things about? My house has started getting on top of me so I’m picking off a room at a time. I started on the kitchen yesterday but instead of tidying everything away I’ve sorted through stuff and skipped loads. I’ve decided the only way I’m going to keep on top of things is to get rid of stuff I don’t need. And yes I’ve been watching sort your life out with Stacey Solomon 😀

Singleandproud · 01/04/2024 15:32

In that case you need less stuff.
Buy some peddle bin liners and everyday for a week go around the house and collect a bag full either for donation or landfill/ fabric bin.
If you have a car put it in the back ready to donate on Saturday.

Things like clothes and bedding. Things that take up alot of space like bedding and towels you no longer need or children have grown out of.Old scruffy towels can be donated to animal sanctuaries.

Yorkshireknitter · 01/04/2024 15:32

@Myhouseischaoss I totally understand how your living space affects your mood.

Do you live alone or with other people? If you live with others, do they feel the same way as you?

I’d suggest a massive declutter, the less stuff you have the harder it is for messes to form. If you have loads of stuff, especially if you don’t have loads of storage, then it’s relentless trying to keep things tidy.

Mrsttcno1 · 01/04/2024 15:31

I think this is really common OP, your home often mirrors your mood & vice versa. I can’t recommend enough just finding even 30 mins-1 hour a day and start blitzing it, even if all you manage to do is your living room and your bedroom you will probably feel so so much better for it and then you can plug away at bedroom/bathroom etc.

The hardest part is getting the initial tidy & clean done, once you have done that it can just be a case of 20 mins a day to run the hoover round, clean surfaces etc.

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Myhouseischaoss · 01/04/2024 15:28

Just untidy and dirty. Very very untidy. So can’t really clean. I keep trying but as soon as I sort one room it’s back to the original state the next day.

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MsVestibule · 01/04/2024 15:27

Is it 'just' untidy/dirty or actually in dire need of repair?

SlipperyFish11 · 01/04/2024 15:27

No you're not. It's known that your environment can affect your mental health.