DH and ironing issue

I'm one of the non ironing heathens!

Last time I ironed was over 10yr ago when DH was interviewing for a CEO job.

I do not iron as a rule. Creasy things get hung up from the washing machine into the airing cupboard so they're hanging to dry.

lol she didn’t ask him to iron he done it off his own back.

OP your comment would have pissed me off too.

I think you're overthinking it - just let it go. It's not important in my view. I only iron a couple of my work shirts every months, nothing else. DH only wears polo shirts and jeans, 2 DS only wear t shirts and jeans. If there is something I don't want to crease I don't spin on >600 rpm, then I hang it up immediately to dry whilst still wet. I used to do the same with school shirts too (because no way would I iron 10 shirts a week!)

If my DH made a snippy comment about how something wasn't done to his exacting standards, then it certainly wouldn't be done again. At all.

You pointed out that the dress was still creased. Depending on how old the DC and what kind of dress it was, I'll let that comment pass but for you to then remark how you hoped the rest of the ironing was done properly - just wrong.

If you're constantly nitpicking and criticising then no wonder he bites back. I'm sure it's 50-50 but come on, do you genuinely not see what you did wrong here?

This. It sounds like weaponised incompetence to me. He was probably hoping you'd take over and he could pretend that he'd tried his best as the great martyr.

Yabu unless dd was planning on wearing dress straight away.

Just hang up in wardrobe, then the creases will either fall out or you will need to iron again anyway before being worn anyway. How old is dd? Why isn't she doing her own ironing?

Not ironed in years pointless task. I just get rid of clothes than don’t cope with a normal wash and dry without being annoying and now they’re all fine. Same with dishwasher proof stuff, it all goes in anything breaks it goes in the bin!!

You don't have to re-do it. "Properly" is objective - what his standard of properly is is different to yours. If you want ironing done to your standard, do it yourself.

Maybe go for more relationship counselling?
It's really not a good atmosphere for children to grow up in, as @MonsteraMama said upthread.
It's unsettling for them, so do something about it.

Or a useful practice for those who don't wear joggers or polyester every day and want to look presentable.
It's not the ironing. It's the relationship.

Who the fuck irons kids clothes? Does he also do lots of other things to a lower standard than you'd like @Mummyof287 . Cause being nitpicked like that would wind me right up too.

Way back when, before going out on a trip, my wife ironed some clothes while I bathed my daughter. I then got her dressed and found that her dress had some creases. I had the choice of raising it, ironing them out myself, or not giving a shit - either about my wife missing them or the creases existing. I chose option 3 due to a) loving my wife and b) life being too short.

You are both being unreasonable for owning an iron. Take it to the dump.

Hang clothes (with a good shake out) straight from the machine immediately after it finishes. When they are dry then hang them straight away or fold them and put them away.

Ironing is pointless shit for people who want to make work for themselves.

I'd never touch an iron again if you spoke to me like that

Well all have different standards and by the time it’s hung up and she’d put it on I doubt it would be an issue

personally I’d down the iron and tell u to crack on nothing worse than having your work audited

I think it is rather tragic that you can't spend time together without bickering or arguing.

I genuinely don't know where my iron is.

Honestly I'd have been annoyed as well - a crease in a child's dress isn't going to make any difference, and if you're fussy about these things then you need to learn to let it go without comment, or do it yourself.

I'm probably very petty, but I'm afraid I would tell you to do it yourself and possibly never iron anything again. If it's not done how you want it, you fix it.

A relationship with constant bickering sounds horrible. I had this with an ex and we only lasted about six months living together.

I mean ok, if you want to be in a bickery relationship that's your prerogative I suppose, but there are better ways of communicating which marriage counselling should have taught you. I'm very stubborn and sensitive too but I don't bicker or argue with my husband about ironing.

I'll just say I hope you're not doing it in front of your kids. I grew up with bickery parents who were constantly picking and sniping at eachother over stupid shit that doesn't matter and it's bloody horrible and exhausting as a child.

Yo be honest, I'd be annoyed if DH was critiquing my ironing and would probably snap at him too

Why are you in a relationship which results in arguments if you spend too much time together you argue - it's only been a 4 day weekend! This sounds dreadful, for you and your children 😬

Edited to add I just saw @MonsteraMama post. Glad I'm not the only one thinking this.

It doesn’t sound like something worth arguing over - pick your battles. I’ve never ironed my kids clothes and it’s never been a problem. They spend a lot of time in the park or playing out at school/nursery anyway, getting mud on themselves. I doubt teachers are interested in whether kids have a few creases in their clothes or not!

It's pretty easy.

1. Sell or give away your iron and ironing board.
2. Don't buy another one.
3. Put notes all over your house saying "I must not buy, borrow or steal an iron. I must not buy, borrow or steal an iron."
4. Get hypnotherapy to help you through if the above doesn't work.

I have a handheld steamer just in case I might need to get creases out of a clothing item, but I can also use it as a household cleaner so I use it more for that so it doesn't go to waste. Bonus because it cleans naturally, no artificial chemicals to be spraying around your home.