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Baby rarely cries and I was told he’s autistic

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Bigbenbube · 01/04/2024 00:47

My baby rarely cries and is four months old. His auntie has just said that’s a sign of autism. She’s studying psychology at uni.

If baby does cry I can usually get it sorted (food, wind, cuddle).

Aibu in thinking that she’s unreasonable making such sweeping statements.

i have googled it and it appears to be true :/

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Bigbenbube · 01/04/2024 00:55

Mayflower282 · 01/04/2024 00:50

You’ve just contradicted yourself and said your baby does cry (if it’s hungry etc). I think you are worrying over some flippant uncalled for remark from your auntie. Just ignore her. Something ridiculous like 3/5 of children diagnosed with autism under the age of 5 no longer have the diagnosis past the age of 7.

Yes I would be worried if baby never cried, but he rarely cries.

nothing really bothers him. I’ve never seen him cry without a good reason.

like today he’s got a cold and has been crying for food (he’s been drinking a lot less). But apart from that I know I can take him out or be at home fine. He will be a bit of a Velcro baby in the evenings so I have to hold him but other mums have told them they miss exercise class or classes etc due to crying baby.

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Pinkbonbon · 01/04/2024 00:55

Bigbenbube · 01/04/2024 00:53

He’s four months now…. So not a newborn

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I was just giving a sweeping statement.
If he's still silent in another 6 month then maybe it's worth investigation. As is, provided its HIS normal, I wouldn't worry.

Mama2many73 · 01/04/2024 00:55

My dm had 4 babies. First one average baby second cried nearly all the time. third rarely cried easily settled content, 4th average baby.
I'm the third , dm.said i was an easy baby and I'm.def not on autistic spectrum. I'm not saying it is not a sign of autism but your sons nature will also play into his behaviour.

Also people studying psychology etc often become over fixated on details theyre learning. She s not qualified at anything and definitely not qualified to judge a 4mth old baby ( noone is, it can't be done)

Ignore her and enjoy your baby x

Janedoe82 · 01/04/2024 00:54

My second child was very settled and rarely cried. Doesn’t have autism. Was just an easy baby.

JustTalkToThem · 01/04/2024 00:54

Stop listening to random people about medical diagnosis. That goes for your idiot aunt, "google" and even people on here.

Saintmariesleuth · 01/04/2024 00:53

Please try not to worry unduly- this is a flippant remark made by someone who is not in a position to be handing out a diagnosis of autism on anyone

fedupandstuck · 01/04/2024 00:53

Studying psychology at uni does not make her an expert in autism and able to diagnose it in tiny babies. She should know from her studies not to make such ridiculous statements on no evidence.

Your baby is content and you are attentive and responsive. Your relative should know better than to say such stupid things to you.

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Bigbenbube · 01/04/2024 00:53

Pinkbonbon · 01/04/2024 00:52

Give it 6 months and you'll forget you ever said it. Some newborns are actually very sleepy and calm. It doesn't last xD

He’s four months now…. So not a newborn

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Pinkbonbon · 01/04/2024 00:52

Give it 6 months and you'll forget you ever said it. Some newborns are actually very sleepy and calm. It doesn't last xD

crumblingschools · 01/04/2024 00:52

@Mayflower282 officially diagnosed?

Mayflower282 · 01/04/2024 00:50

You’ve just contradicted yourself and said your baby does cry (if it’s hungry etc). I think you are worrying over some flippant uncalled for remark from your auntie. Just ignore her. Something ridiculous like 3/5 of children diagnosed with autism under the age of 5 no longer have the diagnosis past the age of 7.

Janedoe82 · 01/04/2024 00:49

He is four months! Far to early to diagnose.
Keep talking and singing and cuddling him to build all the neurones in his brain!