Baby rarely cries and I was told he’s autistic

No it's an indication he's a baby
My severely autistic child appeared no different to any other child until around 18 months/2 years of age ,
Posters on here make sweeping statements all the time about autism on here
In reality it's a huge spectrum and nobody can diagnosed a child based on a few comments on the Internet not even the mumsnet " experts "
Op ignore her your baby is four months old she's talking shit based on nothing
If you have concerns they will become more apprent as he starts to develop but right now he's just a small.baby .

It's hard being a new mum. I was v isolated at that stage, kind of trapped in the apartment really. I would waffle on to my daughter about everything and nothing while I was cleaning up, rant on about the political issues of the day etc (the poor thing!). We'd watch a bit of TV, go out for the odd walk (but I was not great with that tbh), play with toys, listen to music. Anything and everything. I just kept talking to her, whatever I was doing, even if I was out of sight. It's really to early to be worrying about autism, just make sure baby feels safe, loved and cared for. That's all you can do.

DC2 was a contented baby and we thought we won the lottery with her as she just doesn’t cry for most things, she smiled but a bit later and she was mostly just serious and focused on what she was doing be it playing with toys, etc she wasn’t bothered about needing a nappy change and there was a time she was learning to walk and hit her head really hard on the floor and she didn’t cry, just said oh oh. We had a routine of food and snack time and she just ate then and wasn’t bothered about anything else in between.
Not to alarm you but she was diagnosed with autism just before 4 but apart from her speech, language and social skills which are still developing slowly, she’s 5 and still very much a happy and content child and excelling academically in her own way. Things take longer to teach like potty training, etc as she wasn’t bothered with it but she was still trained before 3.

Our baby hardly cried, and she’s not autistic at all. The longest she ever cried on her very worst day was about 7 or 8 minutes. Some babies are just very content, or have parents who are very attuned to smaller communications and can help them before they feel the need to cry, or they are blessed with good health and no issues that require them to cry.

please don’t worry about this (especially since there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it anyway!). Just enjoy your lovely content baby.

My son rarely cried, after about 3/4 months. He was very content and easy going. He slept loads and basically continues to to be much the same age 23. He is totally neurotypical, graduated with a 1st, and works for a great company in a design role. So not all non criers are autistic x

Is it possible that you are so attentive to his needs and provide him with such good quality interaction that he has little reason to cry? Crying is communication and perhaps you pick up on his subtle signs before he needs to cry to tell you what he wants?

My mum thought her crim/psych degree that she’d done 20 years previously with no further study or work in the field made her an expert in diagnosing autism too 😂 just ignore her OP

As someone mention up thread could this be anxiety.

DD1 never cried is not autistic, but is dyslexic, dyspraxia and hyper mobile.

DD2 cried from the moment she was born, met all markers on time if not ahead. Is very clever. But now looking back she showed signs of autism and is clearly autistic and it's only been in the last year that it has come up as she struggled and had a mental health issue. But because she is 16 in the area I live it is nigh on impossible to get her officially diagnosed, as she to old for the child services as they only go up to 13 years, and CAHMS she will age out before she will be seen.

DS was so placid as a baby rarely cried is not autistic but does have hyper mobility which affects him more then his sister.

Can you explain a bit more about what the therapist said?
I see myself in everything you've wrote.

Absolute rubbish. Some cry less than others. My autistic dd didn't stop crying!!!

Or perhaps he's just really content and has a chilled personality? If it makes you feel better my son very rarely cried, partly I imagine because I breastfed responsively wherever and whenever and baby wore a lot, so he never really had anything to complain about. He is definitely not autistic.

Absolutely nonsense and take no notice of your auntie, baby is too young and she isn’t qualified. I have a 5 year old (diagnosed) autistic child, he was my Velcro baby/screamer/other arm and has been since he was a baby although much more relaxed now. There was absolutely no signs what’s so ever of neurodiversity until around 2. Enjoy your nice relaxed baby.

My 1st born cried when ever I put him down (reflux) and was diagnosed autistic at around 9. My 2nd super easy and chilled out baby was diagnosed with adhd around 6. Babies crying and not crying is no indicator at all of ND. I wouldn't worry.

The Aunt is an unreasonable so and so for planting unfounded amateur nonsense in the sleep deprived brain of a post partum mother. Babies are all different vibes, this does not signify anything and shame on her for talking rubbish like that!!

Two of mine never cried until they were three!! And both very intelligent and very sociable normal kids!!

You description sounds like my daughter who is now 22months. Everyone commented on how she rarely cried, how she slept lots and put herself to sleep despite a 3year old big brother running around the house. She was always happy to just lie there and listen to me chatting away, she didn't really smile and was quite a serious baby (especially compared to her brother)...

She's now 22months, very vocal, very quick to tell me what she wants, she isn't as smiley as her brother was but does smile. I have absolutely no concerns about her whatsoever. At 4 months babies show their personalities, maybe your little one is content and a little more serious like my one.

I don't want to be negative about ND people, they can have very happy lives and do a lot of worthwhile things.
But wtf to say that to a young mum of a nice contented baby?

My NT dd was a breeze, rarely cried and was very happy watching the world go by.

My dd with ASD cried all the fucking time. In the pram, in the car, lying down, propped up. She wasn't diagnosed until she was 13. In the extensive questions they asked, asking about crying as a baby wasn't one of them.

Op maybe he will turn out to have ASC, more likely not. Put it aside for now and it will come out later if it needs to.

You're not rejecting him. You're doing a great job of making sure he gets what he needs. You also need to get what you need. I can't recommend highly enough finding some groups and looking out for some mum friends. Google your local area, go to the local children's centre if you have one, pop in to your local surgery and ask about groups. Look at your local community centre/ church / village hall.

Just to add, my youngest barely cried for the first couple of years - only when she was really needing something. We just thought she was a really chill baby. Definitely no autism but she's also definitely not a chill teenager!

Have you spoken to NHS talking therapies? Or local services for young families? In my area it would be home start.

The problem isn’t with your parenting by the sounds of it or your baby. The problem is anxiety and reassurance seeking from mumsnet will open help temporarily.

How were those comments helpful?? A bit of knowledge can be a dangerous thing and his aunt needs to keep quiet. Your baby is only four months old.

Yes, that’s what they used to be called, good babies! I had a colicky, crying one OP. We both had an awful time.

My son was that baby. Hardly cried and I had to wake him to feed him. I’d put him in his bouncy chair and he’d just watch or sleep. My mil ( a doctor) did express some concerns. However he’s just always been an absolutely chilled boy. We joke he’s so relaxed he’s horizontal. He’s an adult now with a masters degree, a lovely fiancé, many friends and a great career. Try not to worry and enjoy your baby.

OP, I really hope you've had lots of reassurance on here from experienced mums that your DS' perceived lack of crying means absolutely NOTHING - except that he's a contented baby!

As long as he's making eye contact and is generally responsive, you have nothing to worry about.

Two of mine hardly ever cried - they are not ND at all. The one who did cry quite a lot more is not ND either, just a more cranky personality!

For your own sake, I think you need to join lots of baby groups and get out and about socialising with other mums. Ask your health visitor about activities in your area like baby music groups, massage, whatever. It will help your anxiety. Start to have fun with him and it will all come naturally. Katie Price etc have nothing to do with you! FWIW, I have a DC at Oxford where loads are on the autism spectrum and no doubt on course to be highly successful in life. Nobody bats
an eyelid. They are who they are.

Yanbu! Our baby (12 weeks) rarely cries and I’d be upset if someone said this to me. It’s so early on in their lives still it’s impossible to know.