Find it annoying when guests strip bed!

Oh give over with the dramatics.

It’s her sister!

DD is home today and sleeping in her bed for one night. I won’t change the bed until she next visits as no point in leaving it freshly made to gather dust for months.

What’s yuck about it?. I’m a clean person, I would not make someone’s bed dirty after sleeping in it for one or two nights.

Napping in someone else's used sheets, even your sisters, is weirder than stripping the bed. Honestly. People on here are really bloody strange sometimes 🙄

I don’t strip the bed. I think that’s a bit personal. They might have a stained mattress or something that they don’t want me to see!😂

I would only do so after asking the host- and majority have said 'No thanks, its fine. I'll do it later'. My MIL has a specific washing day, and wouldn't allow stripping of beds before that day for fear they'd look untidy!

If someone stripped it without asking me, I'd assume they'd stained it!

This thread just proves that you simply can’t win - it’s rude to strip the bed and also rude not to strip the bed!

I personally prefer people not to as I wash bedding the day before guests come so it smells nice and fresh, but I don’t get annoyed if people do strip the bed because I recognise they are well intentioned.

😂😂😂😂

I wouldn't consider sheets slept on once by my sister to be dirty. Unless she’d been in it with a partner. I’m with you op, for myself I probably wouldn’t change them in this scenario. For guests I would, because I have been on MN long enough to know horrified other people are by a hint of ‘dirt’.

Yuck!

Thanks for this thread. I once stripped the bed at my best friends house and she was a bit horrified because her pillows had yellowish stains. Since then I haven't stripped any beds but of course having read this thread I now realise I should ask. I'm also a bit lazy so happy to let someone else strip the bed but I will definitely ask in future.

I’ve never ever stripped the bed after staying at someone’s house. I’ve never had anyone do it for me either. I suppose it depends on how long someone’s staying, but usually I wash the bedding before people stay over and if they were only there for a night or two I wouldn’t be too pleased about having to wash it again.

This stopped me in my tracks! Some people don't want the bed stripped??? Wow, I will always ask in future - thanks for the insight.

We have people coming to stay with us all the time (which we love) but I always ask them to strip the bed! For me, stripping a bed someone else has slept in is like touching their underwear- it totally gives me the ick (my husband and I don't wear pyjamas in our own bed which is probably why I can't imagine guests doing so in our home).

Thanks, Mumsnet - just when I think I've nothing left to learn

Goodness. I've always stripped the bed as a guest. I thought it was helpful, and didn't consider that quite a lot of people would consider it rude.

I don't expect my guests to strip the bed, but I always appreciate it if they do.
I don't need to do the laundry that day, but I'm happy leaving the guest bed unmade for a few days.

I’ve honestly never heard this, never done it or had anyone do it to me? I would always change the sheets before a guest stayed but wouldn’t necessarily change it immediately after?? It’s not like I change my sheets daily!

Why does them stripping the bed mean you have to do the washing that day? And why can't a bed be left unmade?

It is! Very much the “done thing”.

yabu

I hate it if visitors don't strip the bed. it's rude not to imo.

How is it rude? It’s just different expectations, surely. They might think it’s rude to leave you to strip their used bed linen, so they do it for you.

My mum always taught me to strip the beds when I'd stayed with people. I do usually ask.

This made me laugh!

I love sleeping in the spare room, the mattress is so much comfier than my main bed!

Yanbu OP I find it a bit rude but not enough to get het up about

There might be a reason, unknown to you currently, and she is saving embarrassment for all.

I wouldn't normally strip a bed, and like you have been a bit annoyed at guests doing it in the past. It's like 'you SHALL do washing of linen today'! 🤣

But in the last few minutes of a stay somewhere last year, we'd been on a walk around the garden to ooh and aah at some stuff. Came back, briefly stretched out on the bed to check emails etc prior to departure. Had no idea a tiny bit of mud was on my heel...yeah, we knew what it looked like...😯 that bed was stripped and folded for the wash so none the wiser!

I hate it when people strip the bed. I find it quite rude actually. I will always wash the sheets after a guest, but depending how busy I am that might not be for a few days and I don't want the bed unmade for all that time.

Just say. Don’t strip the bed or anything. I’ll do it when I’m ready to do the laundry.

I always strip the bed. I thought it was thoughtful and good manners.