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Find it annoying when guests strip bed!

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Finlesswonder · 31/03/2024 21:42

Sis came to stay with me last night and this morning she stripped the bed, I totally get its trying to he helpful but I was planning on napping on that bed this afternoon 😅

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MustBeGinOclock · 31/03/2024 23:45

Sleeping in someone's used bed sheets. How unhygienic. Sister or not.

KleeVanLeaf · 31/03/2024 23:45

It seems to me there are three things Mumsnetters absolutely cannot do:

  1. Spell the word "bear"
  2. Mind their own business
  3. Believe that towels, bedding, etc., that have been used once are not dirty
pinkpirlie · 31/03/2024 23:43

With stayed with DP's friend last weekend and not only did I strip the bed, but I put the sheets in the washing machine and turned it on before we left.
I never even considered someone may find this rude, I thought I was being helpful and saving them a job.

Gingerbee · 31/03/2024 23:38

I dislike it too. I want to strip and wash the bedding and their towels at a convenient time for me. I don't want it lying around. .Hate how they bring it downstairs or pop in the washing basket.
I wouldn't want to wash it on Easter Sunday. It wasn't drying weather here today.
At least ask if you want the bed stripping!

Rattatoille · 31/03/2024 23:34

Lighthearted.
Haven't read the full thread, just on page 1, but a previous poster says she likes the guest bed stripped, as touching used sheets is like touching other people's underwear, and mentioned that both her & hubby do not wear pjs. Well this gives me the ick, wouldn't be naked in someone's guest bed. People who sleep naked should be arrested for indecency!! Grin

RoseMartha · 31/03/2024 23:32

I would have stripped the bed also.

JaninaDuszejko · 31/03/2024 23:31

RosePombear · 31/03/2024 22:24

I’ve never ever stripped the bed after staying at someone’s house. I’ve never had anyone do it for me either. I suppose it depends on how long someone’s staying, but usually I wash the bedding before people stay over and if they were only there for a night or two I wouldn’t be too pleased about having to wash it again.

My MIL doesn't always change the sheets between guests which is why I always strip the sheets at her house and put them in the washing machine, nobody wants to sleep in someone elses dirty sheets.

Librarybooker · 31/03/2024 23:30

Cookerhood · 31/03/2024 23:25

Also, how cross would you be if your DCs started just stripping their beds and deciding when sheets got changed?
I'd be delighted!

No way - “Mum, I’ve slept two nights in this, change it” eeek

Much better “Could you strip your bed for new sheets tonight?” “Yeah sure”

UpsideLeft · 31/03/2024 23:27

These helpful gestures can feel like passive aggressive digs

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Finlesswonder · 31/03/2024 23:26

ChiefEverythingOfficer · 31/03/2024 23:20

What are all you filthy bints doing at night - rendering the sheets vomit worthy?

Do you sit on the same sofa as other people?
Worse - do you sit on the same toilet as other people?

What is it, exactly that makes the sheets of a once slept in bed so disgusting? Assuming the guest wasn't participating in a massive naked, body fluid filled orgy, I think it's ok to nap in a bed used by a family member.

The hysteria on this thread is bizarre and perhaps reflective of what some people do in their own beds - naked sleeping/sheet butt floss???

Haha! Damn right! Actually toilet seats are surely way more disgusting? Or even showers! A guests naked body may have touched a surface that doesn't get watered down! 🤯🤯🤯🤯

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Cookerhood · 31/03/2024 23:25

Also, how cross would you be if your DCs started just stripping their beds and deciding when sheets got changed?
I'd be delighted!

Librarybooker · 31/03/2024 23:24

JJathome · 31/03/2024 22:48

I’m sorry you have lost me. What does it matter if you wash them a day or a week later if no one else is sleeping in them in between time then? It’s still the same amount of water used. You’re not more eco friendly if you wait a week.

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Er, guest leaves strips bed = mess and immediate washing forced plus new sheets on.

Guest leaves does not strip bed = sheets get changed at a more convenient and appropriate point.

Additional observation - it’s weird when guests to do any part of laundry preparation process unless in hotels or holiday cottages that request this.

Also, how cross would you be if your DCs started just stripping their beds and deciding when sheets got changed?

ChiefEverythingOfficer · 31/03/2024 23:20

What are all you filthy bints doing at night - rendering the sheets vomit worthy?

Do you sit on the same sofa as other people?
Worse - do you sit on the same toilet as other people?

What is it, exactly that makes the sheets of a once slept in bed so disgusting? Assuming the guest wasn't participating in a massive naked, body fluid filled orgy, I think it's ok to nap in a bed used by a family member.

The hysteria on this thread is bizarre and perhaps reflective of what some people do in their own beds - naked sleeping/sheet butt floss???

queenofcruises · 31/03/2024 23:16

saves me a job.. always change the bedding after i have visitors... you could alwasy have your nap after you put clean bedding on

WingingIt101 · 31/03/2024 23:16

I also prefer guests not to strip the bed but it is a hangover from when we had a cat - he was a long hair who malted and would always sneak in to the spare bedroom if he could (he'd probably have been able to break into Fort Knox!) - so I hated the idea of the cat getting on the "bare" mattress and pillows etc so always kept it made up - it meant if guests stripped it, I had to remake it then strip it and wash it again the day before / day of guests arriving so I was doing the work twice.

Since the cat died about 2 years ago I've still never gotten out of the habit and I like knowing the bed is fresh for guests.

I do always offer when we stay places but follow the hosts requests

Librarybooker · 31/03/2024 23:15

MenoBabe · 31/03/2024 23:13

Yes this. I stripped a bed once to find a stained mattress so I remade it Grin

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Exactly, surely the only places mattresses are 100% pristine are hotels

DSD9472 · 31/03/2024 23:14

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 31/03/2024 23:07

Do people not having a laundry pile? Why do you have to wash the sheets straight away if they've been stripped? Can't they just wait in the pile until laundry day?

When I lived in a flat, the washing machine was in the kitchen and no, I didn't have a laundry pile! Washing went straight into the machine.
If a guest had stripped their bedding, it would have been sitting on the kitchen floor!

Librarybooker · 31/03/2024 23:13

Pizzaobsess · 31/03/2024 22:46

No I would wash sheets before another guest stayed but don’t feel the need for them to be in the wash 0.2 seconds after someone has left my house!

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That’s exactly it.

MenoBabe · 31/03/2024 23:13

43ontherocksporfavor · 31/03/2024 22:34

I don’t strip the bed. I think that’s a bit personal. They might have a stained mattress or something that they don’t want me to see!😂

Yes this. I stripped a bed once to find a stained mattress so I remade it Grin

LilacPear · 31/03/2024 23:10

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 31/03/2024 23:07

Do people not having a laundry pile? Why do you have to wash the sheets straight away if they've been stripped? Can't they just wait in the pile until laundry day?

I don’t have a pile

i have a basket which is pretty large but a king size full set of bedding just fills it up

I’d rather my showered guest left their one nightly slept in bedding neatly on the bed, rather than ripping it off and filling up my laundry basket

i don’t tend to have mates that are so filthy I need to wash and disinfect everything after they leave

Librarybooker · 31/03/2024 23:09

Sunnydays0101 · 31/03/2024 22:28

Yuck!

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Not yuck

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 31/03/2024 23:07

Do people not having a laundry pile? Why do you have to wash the sheets straight away if they've been stripped? Can't they just wait in the pile until laundry day?

Librarybooker · 31/03/2024 23:06

LilacPear · 31/03/2024 23:04

I hate it because it immediately gives me more washing to do.

i’d rather they left it on, and let me wait until I have done my priority laundry and it’s a good dry day for sheets!

Absolutely this

Lovelyview · 31/03/2024 23:05

I just love how 50%of the thread is completely baffled by the other 50% of the thread and vice versa. Really enjoying it 😀

Librarybooker · 31/03/2024 23:05

Stripping a guest bed in a private house is weird. Do they think they are in a holiday cottage? Why do they think a host/friend/family want a mess in the guest bedroom to deal with? Just make the bed and leave it tidy like you got when you arrived