Find it annoying when guests strip bed!

If you'd done this in my house I would assume you'd soiled the sheets and were embarrassed about it.

This. On a related note, I hate when people put used crockery etc in the sink as it inevitably ends up as a watery mess that I have to empty to go into the dishwasher or use the sink. Just put it on the draining board or worktop above the dishwasher FFS.

I’ve been brought up to believe that stripping the bed as a guest is like lacing your cutlery after eating - ie a given! And that it’s incredibly rude not to strip the bed as a guest. Well this thread is an eye opener 😂 I thought everyone did it.

I find it very strange you were planning on sleeping on sheets used by someone else.. bit gross op! Why wouldn’t you just put new sheets & bedspread on??

It is very considerate and helpful of a visitor to strip the bed before they leave. I don’t make the guest bed up until the day before the next person arrives otherwise all the dust is laying on the clean sheets and pillow cases for what could be a month or more.

I dislike it when guests strip the bed. I prefer if they just leave it on the bed and let me deal with it all myself.

I know most people prefer if guests strip the beds so when I'm a guest at someone else's home I usually ask which they prefer.

Problem sorted. Thank you! I can't believe the drama over this.

My cat loves the spare bed and so it's a hairy mess. Therefore I only change the covers on the day a guest arrives and shut the door

I ask first - a friend I stay with regularly isn't in the best of health, and stripping the bed can be exhausting if you've no energy

I always ask people not to. I don’t want a backlog of stuff in the laundry so want to do it when the laundry is free of dirty clothes.

I don't ever drool and don't normally sweat (unless I am ill with a fever) in my sleep and I am sure most people don't! Do you drool and sweat and as a result change your bedding every single night?

I do too and was taught it's good manners. Perhaps I better stop.

I always ask my host if they’d like me to strip the bed. Mostly they say no thanks.

I'd find that gross to sleep on sheets a family member has sweated and drooled on.

I reckon this thread is a perfect example of why it would be a wonderful thing if we all (and I absolutely include myself in this), asked other people what they would like instead of assuming that everyone likes it or does it (whatever "it" is) the way we do!

I'm definitely team "please don't strip the bed when you've stayed at mine", but it's definitely on my list to now ask in future what my hosts prefer when I'm a guest...

You’ve got to be joking. Sleeping in someone else’s bedsheets is rancid and my fear whenever I go and stay with someone

I was told off once for not stripping the bed

I think it's quite weird to strip the bed when you are visiting. It might not be convenient to the host for a number of reasons. They might not be wanting to wash it all straight away, in fact they might not be having more guests for weeks and will fit it into their laundry schedule later. They might not have anywhere convenient to put a whole bedful of linen in the meantime. You might also strip off too much or too little compared to what the owner wanted you to, too.

It's also not weird to want to nap on the outside of a bed that your own sister has slept in once, in a room you own, that you might like the aspect of. If that's what you want to do, because you are the owner of the bed! A lot of this thread is very weird though.

@Purplestorm83 Just ask the host! 'Would you like me to strip the bed, or leave it as is?

Oh God, my sister gets annoyed if I forget to strip the bed - my autistic brain only just learnt that it’s a rule, don’t tell me that some people have the opposite rule?!? Could you neurotypicals please come up with a code so I know which rule applies? (Tongue in cheek but also not as this would make life easier!)

Who gets into a dirty bed? Thats so wierd?

Its super helpful to strio the beds. Id love 8t if my guests did that

No. I generally choose to nap in the spare bed - the mattress is comfier, the room darker and further away from the household noise. I love sleeping in the spare room when I get the option.

I do because I sleep naked and I thought it was what’s expected I learn something every day on MN

I’d find this annoying because I don’t have a tumble dryer so try and only wash sheets on a sunny day when I can hang them outside so I don’t have wet sheets hanging around the house. Obviously not always possible especially in winter but I would be very annoyed if a guest put a load of washing on without asking and then left me to deal with taking it out of the machine and drying it etc at a time that might not be convenient. My washing machine also takes 3-4 hours and I don’t like to leave the house with it running (I worry about fire risk) so would feel tied to the house if someone put the washing machine on and then left.

I’d only strip the bed if I’d had an accident of some kind, it wouldn’t even occur to me to do it otherwise. I wouldn’t expect a guest to strip the sheets after staying either. I didn’t know this was a thing tbh.