Find it annoying when guests strip bed!

I HATE it when people strip the bed.

I often don't have guests coming for a few weeks. I don't want to put the new fresh bedding on in case the cat gets in there (it happens) and i don't want the bed left with nothing on it either as again.... cat gets in and leaves fluff, scratches the mattress etc.

I also associate it with people slightly imposing their own view of what constitutes orderly homemaking on you - its a sort of smug gesture that of course you're going to wash and press that bedding today and can't possibly have anything better to do.

That's why I don't want the bed stripping. I want to put fresh sheets on for a guest before they stay but I don't want to have the bed unmade in between.

As I said, I was the sheets before people stay over and my family would do the same for me. We wouldn’t be sleeping in anyone’s dirty bedsheets.

Just say not to bother to strip the bed!

^^Exactly this!

I find it helpful. One less job for me to do. Occasionally ify DS and girlfriend are staying one night but will then be staying for 1 night 6 days later I tell him to leave the sheets on as no one else will go into the room until they come back.

Always do it, don’t expect a friend to touch my dirty sheets, not that I shit the bed or anything…

I never leave a bed made up if it's not going to be slept in. I like fresh sheets on..funny how we're all different

I’ve honestly never heard this, never done it or had anyone do it to me? I would always change the sheets before a guest stayed but wouldn’t necessarily change it immediately after?? It’s not like I change my sheets daily!

It’s a very common thing people do. It’s obviously not the same for your own house as you’re going to be the one sleeping in your bed every night so why change it daily?

similarly the guests are not going to strip the bed every night during their stay, when it’s only them getting back into the bed. Guests are stripping the bed when they’re leaving your house, because they know the next person who will use the guest bed won’t be them, so are assuming you’ll wash it at some point before using it again.

Sometimes people do it to hide something they find embarrassing. I was staying at a male friends house once with him & his wife and kids who were staying in serviced apartments as they’d recently moved to the area . My period started and I have a really heavy period flow. I was mortified when I leaked all over the bed through the sheets and into the mattress protector!

Thankfully it was a serviced apartment so when the daily housekeeping called round in the morning and asked if we wanted any beds changing , even though I was leaving the next day, I was like yup! I got a new mattress protector and sheets phew.

But if I’d had to leave that day with the bloody sheets on the bed. I’d definitely have stripped the bed and told his wife too, so she was well warned.

And yeah I know we’re not kids but I prefer not to discuss my periods with platonic male friends lol ( not embarrassed talking about it with romantic male partners though)

At least ask.

I'm in the "please don't" camp. I prefer to change bedding just before guests arrive, so I tend to leave bedding on until my next guests are coming.

A partial unmake of the bed.

She wasn't saying she lets guests sleep in used bedding. She was saying she prefers to put the fresh sheets on just before guests arrive rather than just after guests leave. This means that the guests get fresh clean bedding. Not bedding that has been on the bed unused but getting dusty for months.

I agree with RosePombear I would rather change the bed before new guests arrive and leave the lightly used bedding on the bed. I guess it might depend upon how often you have guests, what else the room is used for and how likely it is that the next guest is the same person.

I prefer people not to strip the bed, or ask, because I usually have an overflowing dirty laundry basket and don’t want to have a load of bedding to wash when it’s not a priority. I’ll strip the bed before we next have guests, and when I’m on top of the laundry!

Yes it's annoying. I might want to leave the spare room looking tidy, to save myself the immediate work, and strip and wash the bed before the next guests arrive.

I always fold down the duvet to bottom of bed and put pillows on top when im leaving. And tidy round

Unless you know this friend extremely well, that is very rude, annoying and possibly dangerous. How do you know which programme they use for that bedding? How do you know there isn't a problem with the washing machine which might lead to a flooded kitchen/power outage/house fire? Leave other people's appliances alone. Absolutely not your place to decide when the laundry gets done.

If it’s close family, and only one or two nights anyway, I’d be annoyed, too - I often use that bed so that my up-and-down nights don’t disturb dh.

But people do usually ask.

Yes but I’d not chose to do it rather than sleep in my own bed, mere feet away.

Yep annoys me too. Our cats shed a lot of hair and sleep on the spare bed and it's way easier to get the hair off the duvet cover and then wash it rather than the mattress. Plus I think it looks neater with the covers on and I don't feel obliged to straightaway put clean ones on

Would no one here share a bed with their sister? I’d happily share with mine and would sleep in a bed she’d previously slept the night in too. I wouldn’t do that with everyone but family and close friends, fine. Does nobody here who has said sleeping on someone else’s bed without clean sheets is ‘rancid’ ever share a bed with a partner or family member?

Me too, I’d also be very annoyed, I may have been planning other laundry first and now had to deal with drying th4 sheets first.

I never strip the bed, I just make it neatly. After all, the host might not be doing the washing that day.

My thoughts too. Planning to nap in the spare room where someone else has just slept is bizarre to me. This place never fails to amaze me!

I always strip.the bed too, but I also hoover around, touch up any painting on the skirting boards, give all the toilets a good scrub, cut the grass / jetwash the patio, clean the windows, and feed the cat.

Consequently I'm constantly being invited to stay at peoples houses, to be honest it's all become a bit of a chore - literally.

I always check with the host. If it’s family or one girlfriend that has slept in the bed I would be quite happy for us to sleep in the bed for a night or two especially if it then needs changing for guests a few days later.