In laws not bringing anything for Easter

It's not about op being a host !! She's their daughter in law for flip sake. Get the woman a bloody chocolate too it's the kind thing to do!!! Who turns up with a gift for just their son and granddaughter, a nasty person cuts out her dil.. Who actually is hosting her for the day... bet the inlaws are OK with their dil feeding them all day thou aren't they!!

Why the heck would DH not have said 'mum and dad brought these eggs -one for dd and one for us '? Will he not be sharing it with you?

Some families are just cheap. My DP's family are like that. You go to their house and you're lucky to get offered a cup of tea. God forbid you get a biscuit. When we have them over? Nothing, not even a bottle of wine usually. We're having a baby. Any gifts? Nope. None. Not even a tiny £5 toy or something. So odd.

I've had to really educate DP early in our relationship that 1)we cannot go to someone's house for dinner empty handed and 2) we don't take the bottle of wine we brought back just because we didn't get to drink it as it's a gift for the host. He still gasps at how "generous" my friends and family always are for bringing a bottle of wine or something really normal.

It wouldn’t occur to me to expect gifts from family members coming to dinner. From friends yes but not from family

Honestly, adults being given an Easter egg for hosting lunch/dinner? I’d be asking why not wine or chocs for host?

I’d be upset if someone bought me an Easter egg - I’m 60 not 6 - but if hosting dinner/lunch I think wine or chocs or flowers for the hosts and an Easter egg for host’s kids (if 11 or under) would be appr.

Why don’t you ask your husband to ask his parents why they left you out?

I have two sets of in-laws as my husband’s parents are divorced. One set brought my two kids and husband an Easter egg but not me 🤔 My mum buys for both of us, but wasn’t too fussed about that.

The other side turned up completely empty handed. My toddler has more than enough eggs but it was just the lack of thought or effort that had gone into it.

I ALWAYS take something when going to visit if someone is hosting, regardless of whether it’s Easter or not. Would agree it’s rude

Are you sure it wasn't an egg for your daughter and one between you and your husband? That would make most sense.

I wouldn’t expect hostess gifts but I wouldn’t expect to be left out of the egg giving when DH and DC got one. That’s just rude on their part.

I hope you dished up and left MIL without a plate!

I'm tired of it all, it all takes up too much headspace and I'll never get DH to recognise that hosting at home costs a bomb and everyone should share.

Are you being expected to host his family? I would stop! He wants them, he hosts them. Don’t lift a finger.

But they brought nothing for OP, who was the one who hosted them.

I'm so confused by gifts for hosts.
DH grew up in a very comfy house with his mum doing all the hosting, present buying etc.
He always feels that it's fine to turn up at his parents house with nothing, like he is 17. He also extends this attitude to other people, who apparently won't expect anything or even it's rude to expect gifts therefore none are needed.
Add in a dose of planet wrecking guilt and it's always a perplexed no - and the man is 50. He still likes gifts but basically only if his mum has bought them.

I range from taking responsibility for gifts if it's my invite and seething that I've been cast into a mum role, covering his arse for his family.

I'm tired of it all, it all takes up too much headspace and I'll never get DH to recognise that hosting at home costs a bomb and everyone should share.

YANBU. Please tell me you’re going to stop inviting them!

They see you as the skivvy.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If I invite someone round I don't expect them to bring anything. And they did bring something anyway!

I would expect them to bring something but coming empty handed would be okeish. However brings gifts only for DD and DH was very rude. It’s like they forgot about you or didn’t count you as a part of the family. Bringing a gift just for DD would be absolutely normal.
Of course your DH doesn’t see a problem, he doesn’t want to see a problem because he doesn’t want to deal with it.

That's extremely rude.

Very rude. Your DH should be having a word.

It's rude to exclude you. I would have thought it was better if they had just got one for your child. Leaving just you out seems mean. Is there a chance they specifically got the dairy free ones as they thought your DH and DC might be missing out on other things?

Or a 'cultural thing' either .. just plain manners

No . Rude ... I would never go to an event hosted by someone empty handed ..

This is not etiquette.. just plain manners.

I wouldn't expect a gift from guests at Easter. However, it is a bit odd to get something for everyone except one family member.

If they don't habitually exclude you, I probably wouldn't think too much of it though!

A token gift for you would have cost little but would have been appreciated.

Even a hand written Hapoy Easter card to thank you for hosting.

I would have embarrassed them and asked where is my egg?! Not that I would want an egg but just go see what they said!

It wouldn't bother me unless there's a back story and it feels pointed. If I invited someone to my home it's because I want them there and I genuinely couldn't give a hoot if they come empty handed. Really and truly. I think it's lovely to bring something but no need, even though I know it's a custom and I will bring something but hope I'm forgiven if I ever forget!

If no back story I imagine ILs provided the non-dairy stuff as it's less likely to be as available as the regular stuff. Hope you had a lovely day.

Or they hate you