How to appear rich?

Omg you invented post it note glue?

The things that matter to some people really are mind boggling.

Not sure what's more lamentable, trying to make out you're wealthy when you aren't, or being obnoxiously vocal about bagging yourself a wealthy husband.

Mine too.

They alao drive oldish cars

Rich people dont try hard.....

Makeup
Neat hair
Few key accessories

I've thought about this, i obviously won't do it because I'm not crazy.

In my fantasy I have a lot of excellent plastic surgery, dress beautifully and hire a very very expensive quiet luxury car. I'll hire a gorgeous actor to be my husband and we'll view a lot of farms and the local manor house.

I'll hire more actors to go with us and discuss razing the village to the ground to build 'the complex'. 'We'll have to have the locals removed' we stage whisper. The troupe of actors follow me with clip boards. We discuss where to put the helipad.

Perhaps I'll hire a security detail too, who follow in an armoured vehicle and talk importantly and wear ear pieces.

Also I think I'll say 'I'm afraid it's all rather hush hush' if asked what I do for a living. I can also get the security detail to bundle me away like they do the president at the end of the evening.

I think you should just get your hair and nails done very nicely and treat yourself to a classy outfit.

I've been to a few of my DH's school reunions- over achieving selective school.

You can easily get 'the look' - all the blokes look like they have just turned up to watch the Six Nations at Twickenham.

The 'talk' is much harder. When they are busy discussing whether their children should go to Westminster or Winchester you know it's time to talk to someone else.

Interestingly the 40-something reunions are a lot more fun than the 30-something ones. Once everyones in their late 40s, half of them are burned out and miserable. The chat becomes a lot more level.

But just why? This is so ludicrous. Just mind bogglingly so.

Piece of piss….

here you go @happyasharry

Holidays
you went on holiday to ikos Olivia but wish you’d booked ikos dassia as you went there last year and it was nicer overall. Aren’t ikos resorts great, everything is included and the childcare is just fab!

Schools
Obvs State for primary (you aren’t a pushy tiger mum!) kids need to be kids <sage and knowing head nod>

They are sitting for all the usual indies (google a couple) for 11+ as they are sooooo bright but you are considering your options due to the excellent state schools in the area andddd your liberal left conscience… also the uni entry admissions favour state schools so….. who knows where little Hugo will go…. 🤷🏻‍♀️

houses
we live in X <insert vague area>. It’s nice enough, DH wants to move to even fancier area Y but the kids are settled and you don’t fancy moving again now you’ve had the kitchen extension done… the custom cabinets took an age to fit…!

you’re welcome…

I love my life and I am proud of what we have achieved as a family

You can't be, surely, if you want to appear to be something you're not?
I honestly would either go and be fully myself, or give it a swerve and work on my self esteem (or on how to fulfil some goals that might get me closer to what I feel is missing).

OP, it’s how you walk, talk and hold yourself

Brilliant. Spot on.

I had this at a private school reunion a few years ago. A few turned up in designer clothes, I just wore my usual stuff (high street) plus designer handbag and diamond studs. But you could see a few (not all) were eyeing each other like lions eye up gazelles for dinner with envious covetable looks.

The rich don't talk about money or boost about what they spend it on. If they are over the top boosting they probably aren't as rich as you think and it could all be mortgages, loans and credit cards.

It is my norm. Off the top of my head, I know 10 multi millionaires (both cash and assets). Not a single one wears a conspicuous consumption label. Scruffy (rich, lovely) bastards!

They may spend on decent outdoor / life saving kit or clobber but if you saw them on the tube, their Rab jackets would not give them away. Jeans are from Gap, Levi or M&S, jumpers are Guernseys or M&S or Uniqlo cashmere.

Their accents might be a giveaway tbf!

I know a younger wealthy woman (40) who to outward appearances seems wealthy (her shoe collection alone is staggering!) and I think she’s from an academic wealthy family. However as she had to resign from her job (they weren’t paying anyone) she’s had to move to live with her parents, I don’t think her London flat is rented out. So she’s wealthy-ish on paper.

They might be rich but it doesn’t mean they are happy!

That sounds frightful, doesn't it.

If that's the sort of thing OP is up against I'd give it a miss for sure.

Have a good haircut and look happy!

Yep truly wealthy buy clothes which are to me boring (some horrible old cords, jacket etc but all from Aquascutum or somewhere) and they save their money, are quite tight, or they’re the other extreme very generous and you know they’re wealthy but they like to share their wealth. Most truly wealthy women (older) rarely spend money on clothes or clothing or its on investment pieces.

Honestly, if you can't go as yourself then don't go at all.

Your friends probably married rich people as opposed to posh people so they won’t give a fuck about where you live etc or they’ll be too busy showing off/comparing their Bulgari bangles, Gucci camera bags and LouBous and comparing (but not saying) which has the best ones.

I like this jacket, though £100 is a hell of a lot.
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@happyasharry I know a few truly wealthy people, and you would never know if you bumped into them in the street. One of them I knew for several years before I discovered the true extent. He and his family are lovely, generous and obviously successful, but he'd rather drive around in the battered Mercedes van than his Ferrari.

Also, it depends on how you judge wealth. Personally, I have fantastic friends and the best wife in the world, and that alone is worth all the tea in China.

Just don't. Pretending to be something you aren't is the worst thing you could do. If you get rumbled, you'll get laughed at and people will think you're fake.

Yes I see your point, I’m 56 and this works for me and is my style. Just trying to be helpful.