How to appear rich?

I met with a friend recently who has done well for herself. Good haircut, nice makeup, well cut clothes and put together. That's all you need!

I am a povvo by comparison (I'm not but am very ordinary financially). She's a friend, we don't talk about money. I talk about our holiday to wales, she talks about hers to Dubai. Children, jobs, worries and ordinary chit chat. It's not a competition 🤷‍♀️

have you looked at Warren buffet lately?

I think it really depends person to person.

some care a lot, some care a little and some don't give a toss.

people with money are just people in the end of the day

Wax jacket?

Look poor.
Speak posh.
Act entitled.

If you darn a jumper you could go as old money.

I’ve got one of those One Hundred Stars kimonos and I don’t think they’re posh because every time I’ve worn it down the pub some other 40-50 year old woman comes up to me and says “ha ha! I’ve got that at home!”

I think this is a bit granny cruise wear, I’m in my 50s and wouldn’t wear it.

Rent something nice.

Talk to people about how happy and content you are. THAT is success.

People mostly take other people at face value, if you present as happy and fairly fulfilled then that’s how people will see you. No one is going to get into what you earn or how many bedrooms you have. For sure hire a dress because you’ll get a better one.

@nojudge because turning up in a muddy ridgeline smock and 'seen better days' boots tends to put people off socialising with you at a posh event it's not a conscious effort, I have the accent from school days- I don't rent outfits, cars or talk about my fictional wealth- however people judge on appearances and we all want to be seen to fit in on some level hence wearing appropriate outfits for the occasion.

3 year old Volvo sounds new to me 😁

I love my life and I am proud of what we have achieved as a family

So show them that.

If you love your life and are proud of your family, why would you want to pretend to he something you're not?

They’re understated. I suppose tight was a bit harsh. What I meant is they can be careful with money - one older man married a much younger woman, had 4 boys, sold his Cheyne walk house (mostly as it had loads of off street parking space) bought one abroad and sent his boys all to Charterhouse. So of course it was a bit tricky financially especially when the boys were younger and they lived in Chelsea.

Shoulders back, tits out.

Rock up in a limo and tell them you invented post-its.

I love my uni reunions. At the last one, someone flew in from New York on his private jet, and someone else had donated a building to the college. I'm not even going to attempt to compete with that level of wealth also those people are dicks.

Just look shiny and polished, and be absolutely confident that you are living your absolute best life. I am lucky that I have quite an interesting job, and people do want to hear about it, even people with private jets.

This money argument on here is about new or old money really, the latter tending to drive beaten up old cars and wear cashmere with holes in rather than pristine brands and the latest model of car. That’s why they’ve got money in the bank, they don’t spend it or flaunt it in a gauche manner.

I’m glad I wasn’t the only one who thought a 3 yo Volvo wasn’t that old. I think you should be yourself and be happy OP, anything else is pointless and fake.

Like PP suggests, you could say you invented post its

I rely on a single statement piece- either obviously quality footwear, quirky but placeable handbag or my late grandmothers diamond tennis bracelet which is an absolute belter. I have a public school accent which means I can pull off 'well to do' despite being a welsh farmer who's most exotic outfit usually is a set of waterproofs and a pair of chammy's covered in mud and swearing like a sailor. In fact I love going to posh events and seeing people who know me in normal real life- they look gobsmacked! I'm told I come across as landowner/lady of the manor rather than the tenant farmer that I am 😂

However, if you are proud of what you do, own it. I don't go to events to seem rich (I'm not) I go to events to have a good time and hopefully try not be put in the 'feral woman who farms' bracket where everyone avoids you in case you ring them for some help a few weeks later!

I wish I had a 3 bed semi and a 3 year old Volvo btw... I have a very cheap car and a house that's falling down (that I don't own) I bet a lot of their posh cars will be on a lease and they'll all be mortgaged up to the hilt with granny paying little Tallulah-belle's private school fees! You've got nothing to prove to them- if you're happy then that's better than marrying a rich spouse who you actually can't stand but have to stay with for financial reasons!

True wealth is quiet.

drive your car and wear your clothes with pride. The posh cars are usually taxed to the hilt business cars and beautiful clothes are on credit. Don’t do this for one night. Be true to yourself.

Tell them you invented Post it notes

My friend is far from tight, but not 'in your face' with it either. Very lovely people.

I didn't go.

Decided it wasn't worth the inevitable comparisons.

I do like to know how people have done and are getting on but not that much.

Absolutely this is my experience,

if I had to explain how the truly wealthy dress to people who do not know , the most recognisable would be like the royals. It’s the easiest and most accessible explanation, be it Harry Megan, William, Kate or if older, Charles, Camilla.

Nothing is branded , nothing is flashy, nothing is done in unless they are gardening or,pottering, but it’s the cut and material. The shoes, the hair, the bags, the discreet jewellery, You know it is expensive and not markies or primark.

people have these odd stereotypes in their heads, and then argue blind wealthy people all walk around in old done in clothing.

Yes, what I meant is generally when you’re out with your friends no one gives a stuff what you’ve got or haven’t got but at reunion type events you’re always silently eyeing up things, at least I’ve noticed it anyway. But then I went to a private school for 3 years and was shocked when on mufti day one girl turned up dripping in designer labels (clothes and bag) worn to show off the label, whereas most of us were in normal high street clothes. In fact I had a small Gucci logo bag (canvas and leather) that my nana had given me and I’d brought it in, but I had no idea it was really designer, it was just a pretty bag to me with a logo which I actually found a bit boring.

When I was out recently with a new friend the first thing she drew my attention to was her Valentino rockstar shoes (in nude) which looked crippling to wear and I sort of laughed because I’ve seen the exact copy in Primark. She wasn’t exactly flaunting her wealth though.