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How to appear rich?

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happyasharry · 31/03/2024 17:58

I know this is crazy and it's a million miles away from how I normally think but I have a reunion coming up soon and I don't want to be the 'poor' one.
We have a 3 bed semi, a 3 year old Volvo and we're really strapped at the moment. I have a college reunion soon and most of my friends have travelled the globe, found rich spouses and live the dream.
Anyway, for one night only I want to appear like them. I love my life and I am proud of what we have achieved as a family but this is playing on my mind. Any idea how I can achieve this and just fit in a bit?

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uncomfortablydumb53 · 31/03/2024 22:48

Don't try to be someone you're not
You're happy with your life, so tell that to the " rich crowd"
In my opinion money can't buy class

Namedilemma6 · 31/03/2024 22:46

Get a bouncy blow dry 😁

Shan5474 · 31/03/2024 22:44

trekking1 · 31/03/2024 20:54

You'd have to dress classy, but not flashy (think how the royals dress) and from there it's about talk, not looks. Mentioning your ski trips, little Josh going to private school, lie that you live in an expensive area etc. And just pray you won't get found out!

I agree, classy like Boden (I’m not rich so I think that’s a fancy brand) not like Gucci. Aside from that I guess you’ll have to lie. Fine if it’s for one night but remember people will think you’re doing well for being a nice kind friendly person even if you’re poor

Hocuspocusnonsense · 31/03/2024 22:31

It’s in the details.

Wealthy family I know have the scruffiest children (who are lovely, well mannered, well spoken and a tad eccentric) and buy their uniform from the second hand sale at school. But their oldest child goes to a £20k a year secondary school and their other two will do the same. That’s £60k a year school fees!

They holiday in Scotland - where they shoot! They drive an old Land Rover.

Hocuspocusnonsense · 31/03/2024 22:24

My cousin is a multi millionaire, starts up businesses and then sells them. He’s very good at what he does, very business savvy and one of the scruffiest people If you met him you would never know he or his wife have a lot of money. They both look scruffy, they’re very modest and not remotely flash in any sense. But they like a nice restaurant and she fills her days looking after her horses at their stables.

Cocothecoconut · 31/03/2024 22:19

Just be yourself
or you risk looking a prat

TeenLifeMum · 31/03/2024 21:54

In my world, a 3 year old Volvo is rich/posh 😂

GingerPirate · 31/03/2024 21:48

Readytoevolve · 31/03/2024 18:09

Rich is loud,
Wealth is silent.
Broke is flashy

Less is more.
Don’t try, stay classy.

Wow. Very good!
(I'm not British, but it "looks" so true).
😃

JJathome · 31/03/2024 21:35

therealcookiemonster · 31/03/2024 19:31

have you looked at Warren buffet lately?

I think it really depends person to person.

some care a lot, some care a little and some don't give a toss.

people with money are just people in the end of the day

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Oh cmon, warren buffet is mind 90s! And in his younger years was always suited and booted.😂

penjil · 31/03/2024 21:33

Queijo · 31/03/2024 18:05

The richest people I know legit do not give af what they wear, what they drive and don’t care what people think of them.

So my advice would be stick an old battered Barbour over your outfit and exude confidence because at the end of the day what these people think of you won’t change anything about your life.

Old money wear Barbour coats with battered Subaru estate cars.

New money goes all bling and showy-off, and this reunion sounds like it's all completely new money, sadly.

penjil · 31/03/2024 21:21

You've "only" got a 3 year old car?!

And you're worried about that!?

3 years is pretty new, compared with many people's cars.

Consider yourself lucky.

Mementomorissons · 31/03/2024 21:10

Buy some really expensive clothes, leave the tags on and pray they don't get damaged.

Then just tell loads of lies. People do it on here all the time!

mondaytosunday · 31/03/2024 21:08

I get it. People you don't think twice about normally but at a reunion you want to put your best self out there. Get your hair done, nails done, be impeccably groomed. Your most flattering clothes. Smile. You got this!

Polishedshoesalways · 31/03/2024 20:55

If you can’t be yourself and enjoy it, don’t go!

trekking1 · 31/03/2024 20:54

You'd have to dress classy, but not flashy (think how the royals dress) and from there it's about talk, not looks. Mentioning your ski trips, little Josh going to private school, lie that you live in an expensive area etc. And just pray you won't get found out!

zurg123 · 31/03/2024 20:52

Why do you care so much? The most important thing is being happy in life regardless of how much money you have.

bonzaitree · 31/03/2024 20:48

Fuck it. Rock up and be yourself. No need to pretend to be something you’re not. Wear a nice dress if you like.

Kaiserchief · 31/03/2024 20:41

Comedycook · 31/03/2024 18:10

Am I the only one who thinks a three year old car is still virtually new?

Me too! I can’t imagine owning such a new car; I’d assume you were rich just for this TBH 😂

StarlightLime · 31/03/2024 20:17

Lanterns12828 · 31/03/2024 20:12

They will probably be able to tell you are faking it.

Definitely.

ohthejoys21 · 31/03/2024 20:16

Avatartar · 31/03/2024 18:06

just don’t - being healthy and truly happy with your life partner etc will radiate from you. So many people are false either with what they’ve done to their bodies or who they are trying to be bank account wise. Maybe be hire an outfit, otherwise be neat nails, hair not too much of anything make up or perfume and be clean, smile a lot and enjoy. Don’t get really drunk. Success doesn’t = rich

This 💯

Lanterns12828 · 31/03/2024 20:12

They will probably be able to tell you are faking it.

CagneyAndLazy · 31/03/2024 19:59

What's the "tell them you invented Post-Its" skit?

Is it a joke from a film or something?

Surely unless they're all ancient they'll have been using Post-Its since school, and OP is the same age.

TurnTheTap · 31/03/2024 19:57

Sorry, is a three bed semi and a three year old car considered poor these days?

I must be in the gutter

Coconutter24 · 31/03/2024 19:48

”I love my life and I am proud of what we have achieved as a family”……

Yet here you are asking for advice on how to fool others into thinking you’re rich. If you’re so proud and love your life why are you trying to appear bigger and better to people who you haven’t seen in years?

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 31/03/2024 19:47

Just be you. You sound happy.....half of them might not be! Social media is very deceiving.....