How to appear rich?

Or rent an outfit from The Row if you can!

I’ve not read the comments, just be you, don’t pretend to be something you’re not, cos you will be found out by one, and then you will feel uncomfortable to go to the next one.

Doesn’t look like anyone has given the advice OP asked for.

You could hire an outfit. I think an oversized silk blouse or cashmere sweater (slightly oversized is key - rich is all about excess so tightly fitted doesn’t work the same) with sleeves casually rolled up, very simple plain gold dainty jewellery, simple trousers or jeans, and a statement coat (a Max Mara would be perfect).

My dear friend and husband are loaded...millions...just sold their million pound house to buy bigger, they invest rather than spend.She shops at aldi and primark and is proud of it.

Not sure what you mean by living the dream but in all likelihood their lives are not as perfect as they seem.

Arrive by helicopter

@Springtime43 Because it ISN'T important. And because the OP asked.

Also, for a change. To see a different way of living and to challenge any preconceived ideas. Are these people happier? Why? How do they spend their time? How do they make their wealth?

But why????

There was a successful sitcom about someone trying to appear loaded, she was the butt of all the jokes.

Don't be that person.

Buy an old banger, wear battered but good quality second-hand clothing and don't talk about money.

I went to a 25 year uni reunion just before Covid. Almost didn’t go. Discovered all these folks with big jobs also felt stuck and unfulfilled. I was one of just two who wouldn’t change my job or house! The grass is not always greener!

Marc Zuckerberg for example, same outfit most days...he has nothing to prove I suppose as so much of the try hard stuff is about displaying to others your success or how you want to be perceived as successful but surely most agree by middle age, success is being content with your lot, being healthy, happy with your relationship or lack of one. I suppose some people do genuinely envy those with great wealth and that that makes it hard to be content but for sure wealth does not protect you against the kind of things that generally interfere with contentment levels I would say.

The Millionaire Next Door is more about people in blue collar jobs who end up being millionaires as they do not try and keep up with the Jones so the plumber pays his home off by late 30s and then invests his extra money and may end up wealthier than the doctor who may feel the need to live in the bigger home, drive the bigger car that is in line with their middle class status. So some doctors can be worse off than the electrician or contractor especially today when those jobs earn big $$. If you live frugally you can be a millionaire today if you have a property but the very wealthy of course the old money set pride themselves on not being so crass as to show off their wealth but dress for the occasion I would say and new money tend to want people to know you know they have come into money so they will display the markers of wealth and so mark themselves out as that sub group within the wealthy and I see that as being beyond being a millionaire which the average Londoner with a home and a pension is by 40 -50 I would say.

The actual rich people I know you wouldn't know by looking at them

It is the desperate that go down the designer label showing off that need to fake it

You are rich if you have

Family
Friends
A home
Health
Time
Food
Laughter
Gratitude for what you already have

Material things do not make you rich

Why do you think that? It’s based on actual research on millionaires. The authors spent 20 years studying how the average person becomes a millionaire (those not through inheritance and not the super rich which are comparatively rare).

It doesn’t mean every single one is like that. But the point is they are more likely to save and invest money rather than consume and consume and portray a materialistic outwardly wealthy lifestyle. They live well below their means and accumulate assets rather than spend on things. They believe achieving financial independence is far more important than displaying high social status and are typically low key. Maybe they own a few properties they rent out or have other investments. This is your average financially independent millionaire living in your neighbourhood that you would never actually know that they were.

What will this achieve? I really don’t get it. If they’re people you want continually in your life, you’re going to have to keep on lying. If they’re people you’re only going to see once, and they weren’t important enough to you to keep in touch outside a reunion, why do you give a shit? What’s going to be the great prize at the end of an evening of going to great lengths pretending to be someone you’re not? Cressida from sixth form thinks you’re rich like her when you’re actually not? If that’s genuinely your goal in going, I’d just stay home.

And if that doesn't work and you still want to 'appear rich' you could always drive your 3 year old volvo to your nearest homeless shelter and show them photos of your 3 bedroom semi?

Please get off Instagram and go outside and touch some grass or something

Have fun. Have your hair professionally blow dried. Wear expensive shoes. Keep your story simple. Any time for some acting or confidence building classes? Look people in the eye. Read the Financial papers for a few weeks beforehand. Keep up to date on people and events in the social calendar. Treat it like a game and enjoy yourself.

all the seriously loaded people I have met dress like tramps (mostly)

They are indeed more likely to drive an old car and wear an old Barbour jacket. The genuinely wealthy. Read The Millionaire Next Door.

A three bed semi and a three year old volvo and you're strapped.

Righto.

We rent, because we can't afford a mortgage deposit, we have a 16 year old pick up truck, a 15 year old People carrier, we both work full time and I have own business too.

And I'm damned proud of that.

We have no debt and I'm not gonna pretend I'm a rich bitch for anyone.

Why fake it??

They are cheap and cheerful night at the pub wear
They don't suggest well off.

i’m quite sucessful, i always dress nice. I know which fabric is good fabric and which one is not. sucessful people use designer bag and designer watch. Sometimes when i go school run or shopping i dont bring my designer bag but watch definitely. rich people most likely to use that. Even if sometimes they use normal bag but watch definitely expensive.

but to be honest they wont care OP. But if you really want to fake it. Then bought clothes from reiss, its not designer but its quite classy. If you cant afford designer bag dan buy from reiss aswell. But watch is tricky. I dont know if you can borrow or not. And please dont use any h&m or accesorize jewelery. I can spot it from far its cheap eventhough its cute.