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To think we should all stop tipping now?

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MuggedByReality · 31/03/2024 17:13

Tomorrow the minimum wage increases to £11.44 per hour. That’s an increase of 9.8%. It also increased by 9.7% last year. Inflation is currently 4.5%.

This is obviously a very good thing for millions of workers in low paid employment across the country and, whatever else the government has got wrong, it deserves credit for pushing through such large increases.

The minimum wage is now set at a level at which it provides fair & reasonable pay for unskilled service industry work. Therefore tipping such workers is no longer necessary or appropriate, so I won’t be tipping anyone anywhere from now on. AIBU?

OP posts:
Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 18:51

I get 16 weeks of a year and get paid for that hence the 2 50 per hr coming out of my wages pro rata

Rhoticity · 31/03/2024 18:50

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 17:20

I work in a school and because I have the holidays it takes at least 2.50 PER HOUR out of my wages to pay for the holidays …so that means my hourly rate is brought down by at least 2.50 an hour

How is £2.50 being taken out of your wages to pay for your holiday?

Shangrilalala · 31/03/2024 18:46

Service now seems to be automatically added to restaurant bills. We had £17 added to a Sunday lunch bill for 3 a fortnight ago and a massive (I think) £27.50 added to our meal for 4 earlier today.

i don’t mind tipping but I do object to having the choice withdrawn, or at least made difficult for me. I think I’m aware of the value of good service and perfectly capable of working it out for myself.

BethDawn · 31/03/2024 18:40

I stopped tipping a while ago. On the rare occasions I eat out, you order with a QR code now or at the bar. I’m not tipping soneone just to carry a plate to my table. That’s a bit half arsed.

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 18:38

If you can find vacancies were I live for a few hours here and there not realistic

Kalevala · 31/03/2024 18:35

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 18:29

No not working in the holidays the price I pay is at least £2.50 is taken for every hr worked

You could work elsewhere though? Holiday club, tutoring, hospitality if you already have some hours on the side as Easter, Christmas, summer are busy times. An agency teacher I know picks up bar work.

Anotherparkingthread · 31/03/2024 18:31

Tipping has always been optional in the UK. I tip my Uber drivers because the pay is awful, I tip service staff if the service was very good.

If you can no longer afford to tip and believe that minimum wage is getting to close to your wage then you need to consider it your employer values you, perhaps a new job or career progression is in order. If your own wage has stagnated it might be due to any number or reasons or even industry specific, but that isn't a good enough reason to demand that service staff deserve less.

WindowBlindsUp · 31/03/2024 18:30

You stop tipping if you like. I’ll continue to tip, unless the service is really poor. They’re still low paid and do a difficult, thankless job, and I can afford it. Let’s spread it around a bit.

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 18:29

Kalevala · 31/03/2024 18:25

You aren't working the holidays though are you? Unless you are employed by an agency as a teacher but still have work to do at home?

No not working in the holidays the price I pay is at least £2.50 is taken for every hr worked

Kalevala · 31/03/2024 18:25

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 17:20

I work in a school and because I have the holidays it takes at least 2.50 PER HOUR out of my wages to pay for the holidays …so that means my hourly rate is brought down by at least 2.50 an hour

You aren't working the holidays though are you? Unless you are employed by an agency as a teacher but still have work to do at home?

mentallyilltotallychill · 31/03/2024 18:25

Key thing there being still minimum wage…its not liveable, especially single or single parents.

roughly equals if they work 40h a week it works out about £23k a year which is still well bellow the national average of currently £34k(?) and again the industry is usually paid by the hour, zero hour contracts potentially, little or no sick pay for a day off etc. ive family who work in the industry and when one broke their leg the company (big multi million pound company) they were only entitled to statutory gov sick pay

i also hate the term unskilled. I have 2 degrees and a cushy (stressful af job now) but have also worked in those labelled as “unskilled” including hospitality, care worker, and cleaner and personally think theres way more skill involved and the stress from the jobs than people think, as well as poor pay only added to the stress. I was younger so got the younger rate but lived alone with no family support or financial help so the tips sometimes meant “ooo i can put £10 on the electric” as opposed to sit in the dark.

some rely on those tips (not as much as the US) but the late nights, the constant need to put on a face they deserve those tips theres so much to juggle and remember. And if i ever hear an argument “they should get a better job” if everyone did that who would there then be left.

everyone deserves a liveable wage, this increase is not. Percentage wise it may seem a lot but the reality is very different. Sooo keep tipping.

Mariannas · 31/03/2024 18:24

SabreIsMyFave · 31/03/2024 18:19

And they get paid well for it. No-one tips me in my Government admin job. Or my friend in her busy and hectic GP surgery Receptionist job, OR my cousin who is a busy and frazzled nurse. I have not 'tipped' a soul for about 10 years now. No-one deserves a tip more than anyone else. Everyone works hard!

@MuggedByReality YANBU. 'Tipping' needs binning. I find it naff and coarse now, and smacks of people being showy, and patronising. 'Ooooh I know you are poor let me help support you.' Ewwwww, how condescending. 😖 Suggests you think the person 'serving' you is beneath you.

You think £6.40 is fair?

SabreIsMyFave · 31/03/2024 18:19

Yazo · 31/03/2024 17:40

Also people claiming that serving staff are just bringing you a plate of food, is completely ignoring that they're also clearing away your plates, wiping down your kids high chair and all the messy food, after being on their feet all day, not eating themselves and not getting home until you're in bed. The work is unsociable hours and means they're missing out from plenty of their own nice times to make yours pleasant.

And they get paid well for it. No-one tips me in my Government admin job. Or my friend in her busy and hectic GP surgery Receptionist job, OR my cousin who is a busy and frazzled nurse. I have not 'tipped' a soul for about 10 years now. No-one deserves a tip more than anyone else. Everyone works hard!

@MuggedByReality YANBU. 'Tipping' needs binning. I find it naff and coarse now, and smacks of people being showy, and patronising. 'Ooooh I know you are poor let me help support you.' Ewwwww, how condescending. 😖 Suggests you think the person 'serving' you is beneath you.

Screamingabdabz · 31/03/2024 18:17

Densol · 31/03/2024 17:32

I tip 10% in this country ( hairdresser, wait staff, hairdresser, uber )
I tip 20% in USA
Always have and always will. I earn a lot of money and can easily afford to.

But by normalising it, you’re creating a precedent for everyone, and not everyone is as blessed as you financially. It’s awkward and humiliating if an extra £2 on top of the bill is just too much.

The80sThe80s · 31/03/2024 18:14

@Whatevershallidowithmylife you do realise that school workers do not get paid for holidays.

SemperOmnibusFacultas · 31/03/2024 18:14

Minimum wage goes up and the price you pay for services goes up. So no one is better off.

SusieKin · 31/03/2024 18:12

I only ever tip the young girl who washes my hair in the hair dressers. I never tip anyone else.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 31/03/2024 18:11

Yazo · 31/03/2024 17:37

I tip. Although minimum wage might be better than the £4 an hour it used to be, the youngest people don't get what they'd get as an older worker.. which makes no sense when they probably have higher rent and bills to pay. Restaurant staff tend to be younger so I do tip. I can remember how grateful I was for tips as a younger person and if you can afford £80 for a family meal it seems tight to then not afford a tip too. But it's personal choice. I don't tip everywhere and tends to be dinner rather than lunch and I don't tip if they don't take the order.

That’s a good point that teens don’t earn anywhere near the max minimum wage.

peloton2024 · 31/03/2024 18:08

It's not a living wage though is it?
Try living off that alone and paying everything yourself including a mortgage/rent
You'll get 25% off your council tax but all the other bills are down to you

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 31/03/2024 18:06

DominiqueBernard · 31/03/2024 17:23

I follow my mum's rule of tipping anyone who touches my body (not HCPs) so hairdresser, waxing (bikini line) and the occasional massage. I would tip a facialist if I could afford to go to a facialist. I also tip in restaurants for excellent service.

I do not tip when I have to download/find the menu on, order from and pay on an app. I am also offended when the app tries to add on a service charge!

That’s quite a neat guideline 😊

fieldsofbutterflies · 31/03/2024 18:05

MuggedByReality · 31/03/2024 18:02

If you think £11.44 is too low, what should the minimum wage be? And do you think it’s fair to expect small independent businesses to pay a higher rate in the current economic situation?

Many people would argue that if you can't afford to pay your staff a living wage, you don't actually have a viable business.

CeriB82 · 31/03/2024 18:05

I don’t tip. I just don’t get that tipping malarkey.

CatMadam · 31/03/2024 18:05

The minimum wage is now set at a level at which it provides fair & reasonable pay for unskilled service industry work. Therefore tipping such workers is no longer necessary or appropriate

YABU for thinking minimum wage is fair and reasonable, and also for thanking the government for doing the absolute bare minimum to make it look like they’ve solved a problem that they created. I’ll keep tipping because in my opinion
it is both necessary and appropriate.

fieldsofbutterflies · 31/03/2024 18:05

I've never tipped anyone in the UK. It's not remotely necessary.

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 31/03/2024 18:04

I never tip but DP overtips so I make it even. For the PP school worker yes but you do get considerably more holidays than the 28 mandatory days which include BH. I would rather have your holidays! All summer, Easter and Christmas alone must be what 50 days?