To kick my partner out for this?

Op I'm sorry he's reacted so badly. The only silver lining is that if you were doubting yourself at all, his reaction and the threats he made 100% confirms that you made the right decision to kick him out and that he is abusive. That's not a normal reaction and again he's absolutely out of line. I would ring the police and log your concern with them about the threats he made. If you feel unsafe at home is there anywhere else you could stay? Womens aid will also be there to support you regardless of whether you stay in your home or not. Stay strong op you're doing the right thing.

I think you should call the police. He threatened to burn down your house. This is serious. Call them and have them escort him out.

He sounds like a truly nasty individual, I hope he's gone from your home and your life now. If he threatens you, please report him to the police. Make sure you take his keys back. If you feel low and need someone to talk to, you can always call/text the Samaritans. They can also give you information about mental health support. There might be a local support group that meet up for a coffee or a walk. Good luck OP 💐

If I lived close I'd help him pack. What a cunt.

I hope you have someone else to talk to, mental health is vital. Do you have family? Some employers offer access to mental health support.

@CoralHedgehog are you safe now? One of the most dangerous times in an abusive relationship is when you end it

I hope he has now gone and you are feeling safe OP

Talk to me. And kick him out.

You are very young and a bit vulnerable at the moment. He showed you no kindness or compassion at all. The future doesn't look good for you both.
Send him on his way you have enough issues to deal with without having him around

Please report his threat to the police. I hope you’re ok op

Has he gone now?

So was I at 20, I got better at it and there's no reason you won't too.

Glad you've told him to go - any more threats to your safety, call the police.

OP how are you? Is everything ok? X

I would ditch him. Someone I know was with a woman who had (undiagnosed) Bipolar when they got together, the longer they were together and the longer she went undiagnosed the worse she got. Instead of encouraging her to go to the doctor he would say the sort of thing your partner is saying. It made her worse, in the end someone else recognised something was wrong and took her to the doctor and she got the help she needed. This was only after she'd made terrible decisions and put herself in dangerous situations as a result of the untreated bipolar. Once she was diagnosed he was no better and she got rid. Even now years on he does not see that the way he treated her was appalling.

She is now well, happily married with a child, a house and a job she loves. He is single and skint living in a house share. People like this don't change.

Move on.

I don’t know where you’re based - but https://www.llgc.co.uk/ is SO great if you’re in or near any of the places they run events

Well done for taking back your power and getting rid of him - I hope you feel stronger and more in control once he’s gone.

I hope he’s gone by now and good riddance. You don’t need anyone like that in your life.
Now take some time to invest in yourself. Do some out of comfort zone activities - join a walking group or something else that you would enjoy. An evening class perhaps. Start a book group?!

Phone the police to log what he said. That way were he evil enough to do anything, it’ll be a fuck sight easier to nail the horrible cunt to the wall.

If he threatens anything like burning the house down or makes you feel unsafe in any way, call the police and they will kindly help him leave

You're welcome to send me a PM whenever you're down. 😊

@CoralHedgehog please kick him out now! dont wait, your mental health is more important than he will ever be!! my grand daughter dumped her boyfriend when he said those words to her, she has been struggling with grief since losing her mum 4 years ago at only 11 years old!

When somebody shows you who they truly are, believe them first time.

He will in small underhanded ways be contributing to your poor mental health and probably is holding you back from making friends. When you don’t have his toxic safety net you’ll have to go meet people somehow even if online.

you deserve way better than this OP.

i hope you’re ok

You should definitely report that threat to the police, and get the locks changed asap.

Please make sure you change the locks.

If he is still there I would be tempted to ring 101 and say you've asked him to leave, he's threatened to burn the house down and he is taking hours to pack.

Once he has gone please organise to get the locks changed.

Please let us know you are safe.

One way to make friends.

Start walking in the morning. Find a route that suits you. If you are in the same place at the same time on a regular basis, you will find others doing the same. Start with a good morning, then a few comments, and you find you have acquaintances and that can develop into friendship.

It does take time but it’s a start. And then a regular community commitment, if you can. If you think you will stay where you are for a while, then just make your face part of the local life. Good luck.

Know your worth. He needs to.be gone