To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

Well this happened a lot during the pandemic- remember when the shelves were bare?

In our Tescos there were some entitled individuals questioning shoppers about the number of tins they had and other nonsense and arguing over toilet rolls. Luckily most people were respectful enough to just get the shopping they could from the shelves and resist trying to cadge other peoples chosen items.

I don’t think I’ve ever put items I don’t particularly want in my trolley or picked stuff up on a whim, although I’m a on a tight budget so stick to a list.

I thought you’d wrapped things up op? 🤣
Good luck with making connections in the Co op!

So rude. Would you have swapped if he had asked you for the last cheese sandwich? I don’t eat meat sandwich but prefer homemade than shop bought you had other options. I would have eaten it in front of you.

My guess is never.

I guess this has never happened to you @starlightlime. I'm in my late 50s and go to the supermarket probably about 2 to 3 times on average for my entire adult life and many many times in the shops for my mum as a child.

This has never happened to me or been witnessed by me ever. Obviously I'm not a huge sample by myself, but I'm guessing based on the answers on this thread, it hasn't happened to most either. That's really all you need to know about whether it's normal or not.

Oh my dear, I’m afraid if this indeed happen and it’s not some kind of made up story for reaction then you are an extremely rude individual.

Personally this is why I couldn’t even consider being a vegetarian or a vegan as it often follows a deep sense of entitlement.

The lack of stock is an issue of the COOP, Not the gentleman who happened to procure the item before you selected it. It is not your right as a vegetarian to be able to demand someone hand over an item of shopping. Regardless of is this meant there where no other options which took your fancy.

I have a particular weakness for jammy dodgers, but if there where two packets of biscuits left in a store, I couldn’t demand I have the jammy dodgers from someone’s trolly if the alternative in the shelves was a pack of bourbons, and I have a dislike of brown food.

but come on, how often does this really happen?
What, people buying random stuff they don't really particularity want?
Not very often, I'd imagine.

Ive been asked similar before.. Ive been unsure what i want, picked something and someone politely asked if i minded swapping. It didnt bother me at all. I didnt even really want that item, but the other woman really did, so i gave it to her and picked something else.
Sometimes when i shop i just take random stuff that i dont mind giving up at all. I probably wouldnt be thrilled if everyone did this all the time, but come on, how often does this really happen?

Blimey OP, from the reaction anyone would you'd snatched the cheese sandwich out of his hands and demanded that provide evidence that his need was greater than yours.
I think that YWNBU to ask, if you don't ask you don't get! I wouldn't be bothered if you asked me. Although I'm also vegetarian so the answer would have been no.

I don’t eat mayo and the only sandwiches that ever have no mayo are the just cheese and just ham ones so I wouldn’t have given it to you either - it’s not just vegetarians with preferences 😬

Ffs you’ve had to write in to get clarification on whether you’re in the right or wrong to ask a stranger about a manky sandwich !!! Get over yourself your off your fucking trolley 😂😂😂😂

This made me laugh.

Op posts aibu? Overwhelming response is yes. Oh you are all just socially rigid.....

Or alternatively op, you are socially inept if you think this is normal behaviour.

What? Why aren't you answering the question - why does your wish for a cheese sandwich due to philosophy trump mine due to disability?

Why do you think that?
Once someone else has selected it then it's no longer available to you.

Or that Mumsnet is an average reflection of UK social norms and manners, and the fact that you were a self absorbed lump hasn't sunk into your head yet.

Absolutely not unreasonable. IF you asked nicely and explained. I would not be offended by this.

Socially rigid 😂

I mean you probably mean having a social conscience? Being socially aware?
Bless you: enjoy the rest of your Easter holidays x

Well if "socially rigid" means not being entitled and rude then count me in.

Quite socially rigid of you to think you can just instruct everyone to stop posting on a public forum because very few people are agreeing with you.

You were wrong... We're not socially rigid at all; but you certainly seem socially inept.

Why did you wish him luck?

socially rigid? Not right to ask what was asked end of , you clearly cant see what is wrong with this can you!

I'll try again

So anyone selecting something you might want is "grabbing", whilst you are politely asking them if you can have it?

Jeezo, unless you are also the OP then I can't believe there are two of you...

I know what you'd be asking for if you tried that in my local supermarket.

When does it stop? Do you patrol the store checking to see if anyone has it in their trolly? What if they are loading it into their car?

Un fucking believable.