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Original poster

To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:04

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

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MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 30/03/2024 13:18

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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Shame your philosophy isn't to have social manners.

DrFoxtrot · 30/03/2024 13:17

ADrownedRat · 30/03/2024 13:13

It is rude because you are making a request of a stranger that is a challenge to what they are doing and entitled to do (buy a sandwich).

You then put them in an unpleasant and awkward position of either feeling pressured to hand it over or refuse and feel guilty/challenged.

It's a pretty self centred thing to do really to ask a stranger to hand over goods they have already selected.

^this explains very well why it was rude to ask him

Maxus · 30/03/2024 13:17

I would have had a similar reaction as his wife. How dare you?

CarrotCake01 · 30/03/2024 13:17

Well it's something I wouldn't have had the balls to do 😂 I GUESS it depends how you said it. There's no harm in ASKING! Although whether he's vegetarian or not, if he fancied a cheese sandwich, he should have been allowed his cheese sandwich 🤷🏼‍♀️

loropianalover · 30/03/2024 13:17

This can’t be real - I’m cringing for you OP!

Why the hell would you tell a stranger to choose a different sandwich. Go to the other aisle and buy a loaf and veggie ingredients. Rude woman.

RoomOfRequirement · 30/03/2024 13:17

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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This is the most hilarious, sanctimonious crap I've read on here.

Today, anyway.

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

TulipCat · 30/03/2024 13:14

You don't buy meat sandwiches because you're vegetarian. I don't buy them because they almost always contain horrible processed meat which I don't want to ingest. Why does your dietary preference trump mine?

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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chocolategg · 30/03/2024 13:15

I can't believe you did that who do you think you are?!

TulipCat · 30/03/2024 13:14

You don't buy meat sandwiches because you're vegetarian. I don't buy them because they almost always contain horrible processed meat which I don't want to ingest. Why does your dietary preference trump mine?

Lou670 · 30/03/2024 13:14

I would have had a go at you too. It is not acceptable to ask a fellow shopper what is his diet. He may be a meat eater but fancied a non meat sandwich. Very rude of you.

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:14

ToRecordOnlyWater · 30/03/2024 13:12

@Whatevershallidowithmylife What is in them that would make them not vegetarian? I’m veggie and always used to have them. They’re not vegan obviously but are vegetarian unless I’m missing something?

They're definitely vegetarian

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ADrownedRat · 30/03/2024 13:13

It is rude because you are making a request of a stranger that is a challenge to what they are doing and entitled to do (buy a sandwich).

You then put them in an unpleasant and awkward position of either feeling pressured to hand it over or refuse and feel guilty/challenged.

It's a pretty self centred thing to do really to ask a stranger to hand over goods they have already selected.

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:13

Fair enough, it was only a question!

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ToRecordOnlyWater · 30/03/2024 13:12

@Whatevershallidowithmylife What is in them that would make them not vegetarian? I’m veggie and always used to have them. They’re not vegan obviously but are vegetarian unless I’m missing something?

shoppingshamed · 30/03/2024 13:12

That's bonkers, anyone can eat a cheese sandwich and shopping is literally first come first served 😂

StormingNorman · 30/03/2024 13:11

That was so weird of you! Fruit, salad, veggie sushi, bag of crisps. You were in a food shop…you didn’t need to stake a claim to a cheese sandwich.

Viviennemary · 30/03/2024 13:11

I think you were cheeky. You didn't even know this person and put him in an awkward position. Totally selfish and entitled YABU. I wouldn't choose a meat sandwich though I'm not a vegetarian.

TextureSeeker · 30/03/2024 13:11

It was a bit of a strange thing to do. I'm not vegetarian but it's rare I eat meat and wouldn't eat it in a sandwich, cold chicken is gross and I don't eat things like ham. I wouldn't appreciate having my lunch choice questioned by someone who thinks their preference not to eat meat all of the time is more important than my preference.

MrsPoliportsGoose · 30/03/2024 13:10

Ywbu and rather entitled I think, fair play for having the neck to ask.

FionnulaTheCooler · 30/03/2024 13:09

You'd have got a no from me. I'm not vegetarian but I dislike the processed meat you get in most supermarket sandwiches so I'd have gone for the cheese one too. What would you have done if you'd got there 30 seconds later and it was already gone?

Flamingo68 · 30/03/2024 13:09

bakewellbride · 30/03/2024 13:08

I'm a vegan and I vote yabu.

Same!

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 30/03/2024 13:09

I don’t think co-op cheese sandwiches are vegetarian are they?

Cosycover · 30/03/2024 13:09

😂😂😂😂😂😂 no you didn't.
Nobody is that stupid.

ForeverYellow · 30/03/2024 13:09

I wouldn’t have asked personally. Even if he eats meat , a cheese sandwich was obviously his preference . I would find a cheese pasty or something similar .His wife’s reaction was rude and uncalled for .

TruthorDie · 30/03/2024 13:09

You sound rude and entitled. He got there first. You either eat another sandwich or make yourself something

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