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To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:04

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

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Autienotnaughtie · 30/03/2024 13:31

@chocolategg oh yes of course I see what they meant now.

Coop cheese sandwich is definitely veggie though

fruitbrewhaha · 30/03/2024 13:31

There’s nothing wrong in asking, Jesus, you can ask and they can say no. Which he did, no harm done. For all you knew he didn’t care which sandwich he had and just grabbed one and that a ham and cheese would have been just as suitable or he says no I fancy this cheese one. No problem. His wife is bonkers.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 30/03/2024 13:30

The woman overreacted but you were rude to try and guilt the man out of his preferred choice of sandwich

meganorks · 30/03/2024 13:30

I'm clearly in a minority here, but I don't think you are rude to ask. So long as you aren't annoyed if he says no. I wouldn't ever do it myself. But if someone asked me I'd be happy to swap so long as there was something else I liked.
Absolutely no need for the woman to go batshit at you. Or did she just say you have no right to ask?

chocolategg · 30/03/2024 13:29

Autienotnaughtie · 30/03/2024 13:28

As long as there's no meat in them ie cheese, butter , bread then they are vegetarian.

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Not all cheese is vegetarian

Autienotnaughtie · 30/03/2024 13:28

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 30/03/2024 13:09

I don’t think co-op cheese sandwiches are vegetarian are they?

As long as there's no meat in them ie cheese, butter , bread then they are vegetarian.

saveforthat · 30/03/2024 13:27

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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Philosophy is a choice. I don't believe this post is real.

PaperDoIIs · 30/03/2024 13:27

I think asking is ok but only if you're prepared to listen to a no without any fuss.Trying to decide whether his needs were less than yours, wasn't ok and makes me think you wouldn't have graciously accepted a no. His wife having a go at you wasn't ok either , but swings and roundabouts.

SmileyClare · 30/03/2024 13:26

Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 30/03/2024 13:24

Maybe she thought you wanted more than his sarnie.

🙄

Theres a joke here somewhere involving sausage.

InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow · 30/03/2024 13:25

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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🤣🤣 this is one of the most sanctimonious and pompous things I've ever read on MN, and that's saying something.

chocolategg · 30/03/2024 13:25

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

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Why not?

Maxus · 30/03/2024 13:24

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

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Maybe take a pack up next time? Don't expect people to exchange a sandwich just because you weren't prepared.

Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 30/03/2024 13:24

Maybe she thought you wanted more than his sarnie.

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fieldsofbutterflies · 30/03/2024 13:22

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

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I'm sure the co-op had something else you could have eaten instead of this particular sandwich though Hmm

Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 30/03/2024 13:22

Wow you are a bloody CF. Your philosophical choices don’t mean you get priority over anyone else

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

RedRidingGood · 30/03/2024 13:18

@Medsy OP you are incredibly entitled. You put this stranger in an awkward situation. You're in a supermarket buy yourself a loaf of bread, a packet of sliced cheese and make yourself a sandwich if you needed one that badly. YABU.

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

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WaltzingWaters · 30/03/2024 13:21

Very rude and entitled of you.

SmileyClare · 30/03/2024 13:21

What does a “woman going batshit over a sandwich in the Co-op” look like? Confused Hmm

HurryupHenry · 30/03/2024 13:21

Oh op. Please stop! This is why we veggies have a bad name.

Was there honestly nothing else in the whole shop that you could have? No pasta, no salad, no fruit or veg?

OatFlatWhiteForMe · 30/03/2024 13:21

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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kαλοκαλοκαιρι · 30/03/2024 13:20

Mmmm, maybe this would have landed a bit better if you’d not asked him anything about himself, just kept it to ‘this is the last sando i can eat, is there any chance there’s any others you eat too?’ cos I think it’s the asking him to justify himself/ if he was a veggie that’s got people’s backs up a bit and makes you sound a bit entitled. (fwiw i dont think you are entitled, just phrased it a bit clumsily)

All that said, I reckon it’s still not such a big deal, if you asked politely, all he had to do was say no. Where I live, this wouldn’t offend on either side. His wife sounds a bit much. Maybe she thought you wanted more than his sarnie.

fieldsofbutterflies · 30/03/2024 13:20

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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😂

You're taking the piss, right?

TulipCat · 30/03/2024 13:19

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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OMG, no wonder some vegetarians have a reputation for being entitled! 😂😂😂 I never eat processed meat because I don't think it's nice or very good for me. No way would I be changing that for some entitled veggie woman in the supermarket.

AutumnFroglets · 30/03/2024 13:19

I don't know if I would have said yes as I only eat certain sandwiches myself but I wouldn't have minded you asking to swap. My mother always used to say "You don't ask, you don't get".

EDIT - good grief OP, I cant believe the replies you are getting. Did you ask to sacrifice their first born too? 😱

RedRidingGood · 30/03/2024 13:18

@Medsy OP you are incredibly entitled. You put this stranger in an awkward situation. You're in a supermarket buy yourself a loaf of bread, a packet of sliced cheese and make yourself a sandwich if you needed one that badly. YABU.