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Original poster

To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:04

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

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SmileyClare · 30/03/2024 13:44

doingitbythebookthistime · 30/03/2024 13:36

Why did you wish him luck? What for?

Well presumably he’s going to Hell for not being a vegetarian.

Fizbosshoes · 30/03/2024 13:43

I'd say it's not unreasonable to ask
But also not unreasonable to think it is weird and/or ignore you

BigBoysDontCry · 30/03/2024 13:43

Gluten free I'd completely give up my sandwich for. That person has a medical condition.

Vegan, veggie, halal etc can take a running jump, they are ALL personal choice.

You are very rude and entitled and I'd react the same as the man's wife, even if I was a random bystander.

SmileyClare · 30/03/2024 13:41

In the real world, people don’t go “batshit” in shops if you request something in a friendly polite way.
So either;

a)his wife was mentally unwell or

b)You rudely confronted the man with ARE YOU VEGETARIAN? in a pompous tone which annoyed his wife slightly and you exaggerated the “going batshit” part because you enjoy painting yourself as a victim.

Either way, work on your self awareness and move on now. 😉

pilates · 30/03/2024 13:41

Yes rude

Sirzy · 30/03/2024 13:40

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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Both are personal choices. Neither takes priority over the other

NeverDropYourMooncup · 30/03/2024 13:40

chocolategg · 30/03/2024 13:29

Not all cheese is vegetarian

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The big green V on the Co-op sandwiches is very helpful. As is the information that all Co-op branded cheese that do not carry a PDO requiring the use of animal rennet (eg, Parmesan) is vegetarian.

HoldingTheDoor · 30/03/2024 13:39

You wished him good luck with what?

Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 30/03/2024 13:39

I haven’t been on Tattle for a long time but I guarantee this thread will be getting talked about over there

MummaMummaJumma · 30/03/2024 13:39

Hi OP, do I think this is the worst thing in the world? - absolutely not. Do I think it would have got my back up?.. yes probably. I get that this must have been frustrating, but as you know now, people are entitled to whichever sandwich they’d like and they certainly shouldn’t have to explain it.

But it’s happened now, it’s a lovely BH weekend and the shine is shining where I am (hopefully where you are too). So I wish you a restful break (of course, with loads of cheese sandwiches 😉)

bakewellbride · 30/03/2024 13:38

'Thanks anyway and good luck' 🤣this is the thread that keeps on giving

Nannyogg134 · 30/03/2024 13:37

You weren't unreasonable to ask, they weren't unreasonable to say no. They were unreasonable to go batshit at you when it's only a question

PotatoPudding · 30/03/2024 13:37

As a life-long vegetarian, I say you were out of order.

Tutifruitu · 30/03/2024 13:37

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:36

I asked really politely if there was any chance he would change his mind and he seemed to be hesitating when the woman came from behind me and said "excuse me? That is so rude!". I just ignored her and said thanks anyway and good luck to the guy.
If someone was gluten free or could only eat halal or kosher and asked me the way I did, I'd just think sure. Don't see the problem but clearly I'm in the minority.

So you were rude too, wishing him luck??

doingitbythebookthistime · 30/03/2024 13:36

Why did you wish him luck? What for?

Inyourwildestdreams · 30/03/2024 13:36

This might be the best thread I’ve seen on here in a while. Sorry OP - but you were weird 😂 you were in a shop stocking hundreds of food with plenty you could have eaten!

I’d love to have seen the woman lose her shit over a cheese sandwich though 😊😂

pickytube · 30/03/2024 13:36

I'm not a vegetarian and the only sandwich I will eat is cheese sandwiches. I hate cold meat. My dc is the same and if there's no cheese sandwiches left then I would buy a roll, slice cheese and make it myself in the street just before picking him up from his club. You asked which is ok but weird to expect but the wife interfering was silly, surely the man had his own voice?

Original poster
Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:36

I asked really politely if there was any chance he would change his mind and he seemed to be hesitating when the woman came from behind me and said "excuse me? That is so rude!". I just ignored her and said thanks anyway and good luck to the guy.
If someone was gluten free or could only eat halal or kosher and asked me the way I did, I'd just think sure. Don't see the problem but clearly I'm in the minority.

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Datafan55 · 30/03/2024 13:35

It was worth a try. Really is okay to ask (despite some responses/the poll on here).
Fine for him to say no.
Inappropriate for someone to go batshit at you. Perhaps they knew he'd have given it to you and then been ill from another type (my charitable interpretation).

Snugglemonkey · 30/03/2024 13:35

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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🤣🤣🤣🤣

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 30/03/2024 13:34

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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😂
And thus are so much better and more deserving from where you stand aka entitled to the rest of us lowly omnivores.

whatsappdoc · 30/03/2024 13:32

...but don't ask a person to give up their table because at the moment you walked past they weren't using it.

Autienotnaughtie · 30/03/2024 13:32

I don't think you were rude to ask, but equally he's fine to say no. Wife didn't need to involve herself.

RaininSummer · 30/03/2024 13:32

As above. Unless you have checked for v sign or something, cheese is unlikely to be vegetarian because of rennet which renders you moral philosophical standpoint null and void. Asking was v odd.

RafaistheKingofClay · 30/03/2024 13:31

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

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Imagine the thread that would be made if you did though!

You may need to ask for a seat with a table to make your sand which making easier 😉